Am I changing or is the industry changing?

[Enjoying life]

I just want to ask a polite and genuine question to the gentlemen here, if you're not pleased with us and with the industry what is keeping you here?

There is nothing like a very sensual sp coming over and engaging in great topics and having her fulfill your fetishes!

 

[Fradi]

I will try to be as diplomatic as I possibly can.
Primarily the way I understand Merb it is a sight for escort reviews and not a sight to worship escorts that post here ( mentioned to me by a very wise Merbite). It is a sight to make sure that men are not scammed and are not in danger and will get what they pay for as long as they are respectful and have good hygiene.
The main purpose of booking an escort is primarily sex for the majority.
Now personally I book 90 minute sessions not because I need or can have 90 minutes of non stop sex but because the ladies I see are not just escorts for me but friends and I enjoy having a bottle of wine some snacks and yes talking to them about just about anything.
I enjoy every part of the session but primarily it is about sex. I don’t do dinner dates simply because I find it ridiculous to pay for someone’s dinner and the time to eat it and if I am going to have dinner with someone I want them to be there because they want to be not because I am paying them.
It is has nothing to do with money I couldn’t care less if a lady pics the most expensive place in Montreal and the priciest food

Would I book other type of session like social sessions, no, I am not a person who is lonely, I have an amazing family, children grandchildren that I see every week and still pretty active with friends that I have known for over 30 years golf pool, hockey games, soccer etc…

 

[urquell]

I was replying to your assertion that we "might not understand our clientele as well as we think we do".

I am not claiming that every clients wants social experiences and extended bookings. My claim is that a minority of them does and that the people who do offer these services are still real escorts and the majority of our appointments are for sexual services.

I understand my clientele I promise you.

sigh. Julia, again I wasn't referring to you, but as I can see the landscape is there for a bunch of these mini-feuds when I was just trying to be diplomatic I will tell you that I was commenting more towards the OP than anything that anyone else said. I suspect that every single one of the providers here understands their own clientele perfectly well, because by design they have attracted exactly those people. Those clients may not be a reflection or the larger whole though, and that's again what I was referring to. I'm not sure if I can be any clearer about it than that, but again none of that was directed at you personally.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

You went on a different tangent again. Of course a lot of people want to chat with you and hang out with you a bit. That's just general social lubricant and human companionship. I wasn't talking aboiut that at all. I was talking about the subgroup of guys who want to take you to a couples retreat in Vermont, who want to go golfing with you, or who want to have you on their arm at their High School reunion. Are there guys like this? Of course there are. Are they really representative of the monger landscape? No they're not. I'm going back to the OP here, where the insinuation is that the industry is changing into a pay for companionship thing, when it's not, and you'd better like it bitches, becvause that's where the world's going, as opposed to a pay for sex thing, as Valentina said, which is what it is at the core for most guys.

What are you taking about.. I've never been taken to a couple's retreat? I never said this is turning into an only companionship thing and I have no idea if OP meant this. I said that some guys like to book 2 or 3 hours and chat before having sex and they like the connection. I'm well aware I'm getting paid for sex.

 

[Valentina Amante | LAVAL]

People tend to forget that this is an escort review/ ad site. Not a site where SPs can try to convince clients that they can do less for more money because “times have changed or they might’ve changed?”

Again, stop trying to fix what ain’t broken and stop telling men they’re gonna have to get used to paying escorts for longer dates, dinner and a movie and FMTY. If you can get that experience from a gent that’s MARVELOUS and very good for you - it’s just not the actual reality 95% of the time - you will be booked for sexual intercourse. You will not be a fake girlfriend for most of the days - since they will do all that cutesy stuff back home with their wives.

Be for fucking real and stop living in LalaLand.

 

[urquell]

What are you taking about.. I've never been taken to a couple's retreat? I never said this is turning into an only companionship thing and I have no idea if OP meant this. I said that some guys like to book 2 or 3 hours and chat before having sex and they like the connection. I'm well aware I'm getting paid for sex.

It was a fascetious example, not meant to be taken literally.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I suspect that every single one of the providers here understands their own clientele perfectly well, because by design they have attracted exactly those people. Those clients may not be a reflection or the larger whole though, and that's again what I was referring to. I'm not sure if I can be any clearer about it than that, but again none of that was directed at you personally.

It's true that we know who we attract and what type of men we cater to. I don't know if they are average or not. If the message is that I'm not welcome here by the majority, I'm taking it lovingly and I will remove myself from posting comments.

 

[DetectiveDavidMills]

 

[Lunaseraphim]

People tend to forget that this is an escort review/ ad site. Not a site where SPs can try to convince clients that they can do less for more money because “times have changed or they might’ve changed?”

Again, stop trying to fix what ain’t broken and stop telling men they’re gonna have to get used to paying escorts for longer dates, dinner and a movie and FMTY. If you can get that experience from a gent that’s MARVELOUS and very good for you - it’s just not the actual reality 95% of the time - you will be booked for sexual intercourse. You will not be a fake girlfriend for most of the days - since they will do all that cutesy stuff back home with their wives.

Be for fucking real and stop living in LalaLand.

Valentina, I can't speak for OP but I'm not trying to convince anyone to book me for social dates here.. you are right dinner dates etc are rare and I'm not complaining about it. We all know this. I'm grateful I have respectful clients and that's it.. I don't want a fmty.. I'm not trying to fix anything... I'm not a high end escort and I'm not aspiring to be..

 

[urquell]

It's true that we know who we attract and what type of men we cater to. I don't know if they are average or not. If the message is that I'm not welcome here by the majority, I'm taking it lovingly and I will remove myself from posting comments.

That is absolutely not the message at all.

 

[Giselle Montreal]

Are escorts "escort enough", wtf...

What is that weird debate about.

 

[jefmontreal]

People tend to forget that this is an escort review/ ad site. Not a site where SPs can try to convince clients that they can do less for more money because “times have changed or they might’ve changed?”

Again, stop trying to fix what ain’t broken and stop telling men they’re gonna have to get used to paying escorts for longer dates, dinner and a movie and FMTY. If you can get that experience from a gent that’s MARVELOUS and very good for you - it’s just not the actual reality 95% of the time - you will be booked for sexual intercourse. You will not be a fake girlfriend for most of the days - since they will do all that cutesy stuff back home with their wives.

Be for fucking real and stop living in LalaLand.

I'm gonna regret writing this as this is a bulldozer thread... Can we consider us lucky to have a review board that covers the general needs of a community, and how lucky we are to have SPs participating in it?
FWIW, I liked the OP's comments. It is great to have humanity in an SP world.
All options are out there. This what this forum is about. Some want a quick fuck, some others want a bit more... Having the luxury to have SPs express their preferences... knowing that they already have their set of costs... why not???

 

[LeDodo]

Wasn't merb created in like 2003 or 2004? I don't think Luna is claiming to be under 25 years old? Lol

I feel positively betrayed

 

[Julia Sky]

sigh. Julia, again I wasn't referring to you, but as I can see the landscape is there for a bunch of these mini-feuds when I was just trying to be diplomatic I will tell you that I was commenting more towards the OP than anything that anyone else said. I suspect that every single one of the providers here understands their own clientele perfectly well, because by design they have attracted exactly those people. Those clients may not be a reflection or the larger whole though, and that's again what I was referring to. I'm not sure if I can be any clearer about it than that, but again none of that was directed at you personally.

Okay, your comment seemed aimed at multiple people so that is my bad for reading it that way.

Those clients aren't even a reflection of the majority of my own clientele either (and I personally never claimed they were or that the industry was heading towards a majority of lavish dates). My only gripe with the comments in this thread was the idea that going on a social date once in a while makes someone a fake escort and a misandrist. It's the only reason I've commented at all. God forbids a woman likes steak and anal!

 

[Rebaynia]

Absolutely 100% and guys that are on a budget don’t have time to waste. They want their needs met and don’t wanna go through loops and hoops. There is a clientele for everyone but let’s not fool ourselves why we’re all here.


Yup. Spot on! Some glamorize this industry in ways that is not realistic. Illusions of grandeur.

This is the clientele who you like to cater to. Don't worry, I don't give my potential clients false hope. When what you describe, is all they are looking for. I now know where I can send them.

I screen for people who are looking for comunication, I have found people like you described and I don't get along.

Yes we have fun. I am there for play time. When I am asked, my answer is, it is one of my favorite ways to pass the time, but in my screening, I am picking out who will enjoy their time with me, and letting those who won't, know that they won't like me before they pay to find that out.

And what does it matter to you how someone else chooses to advertise? If they want to advertise as no sex escort for fine gallas and events, or to a work event to impress your boss, what is it to you? Technically it is escorting, I'm sure there is a market for simps who want to date the people they are attracted to, sounds like something an influencer might be able to get away with. But last I checked no one is saying no intimacy in their ads. Intimacy in many form are part of this, not everyone reaches out for the same kind of intimacy either.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I feel positively betrayed

I'm sorry you thought I was a college girl lol

 

[LeDodo]

This. And when booking, clients are asking what they want to book. If they ask for social dates they will got what they ask

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I'm gonna regret writing this as this is a bulldozer thread... Can we consider us lucky to have a review board that covers the general needs of a community, and how lucky we are to have SPs participating in it?
FWIW, I liked the OP's comments. It is great to have humanity in an SP world.
All options are out there. This what this forum is about. Some want a quick fuck, some others want a bit more... Having the luxury to have SPs express their preferences... knowing that they already have their set of costs... why not???

It's also that expressing preferences doesn't mean we are resentful of clients who don't book us for the dates we find ideal. I'm grateful to have clients at all even if it's a half hour. I think people are reading into it too much. Some of my favorite clients just book me for an hour. I can't speak for OP but I don't think she's trying to push not having sex with clients unless I misunderstood...

 

[Cap'tain Fantastic]

and dont tell anyone this but I have sex with them hihi

 

[Lunaseraphim]

This. And when booking, clients are asking what they want to book. If they ask for social dates they will got what they ask

Yes exactly lol. There's a market for social dates and there's a market for other types of dates. I even offer a massage and BJ service. People are going to book what they want.