Hmmm, i am wondering if it is something we usually post on reddit, but it is hobby adjacent, i guess i am posting here in the lounge.
I hope the story won't bore you too much...
Alright, i will try to be concise. There is more to it. I guess i will go with what's more important in the story. If you have more questions, you can always ask away.
I have been facebook friends with someone for over a decade. We had common friends.We met twice until today.
The first time we met , we were just 2 dudes hanging out, having a meal, talking about common interests, maybe doing projects together. Then we split and we say good evening. Prior to that meeting, i met an escort. That meeting with the escort made me in a great mood. It might have given the wrong signal to the dude.
Years go by, we still chat from time to time through Facebook, but we don't meet.
3 months ago, he dm'd me and this time, he is really forward about meeting me. I suggest one date, but it is 2 weeks forward. And he is like "Nah! that's ok!" And i reply "ok"
When the date arrives, he messages me, and it is today, can we meet? But i received the message later in the day, and i answered him "you were ok not meeting and i find his messages very confusing".
6 weeks passes by, we agree for a date to meet, on my side, i knew he had feelings for me. But deep down, i knew i had to tell him in person that i have no romantic interest. So the day arrives. We had a meal. Later, i was meeting an escort. I might have used him to kill time. After the meal, we drove to his place. He suggest he would massage my feet. I answered to him: "well, i appreciate you but i don't like you this way!"
Finally, we hang out at his place. He tells me he has this foot fetish. He really wanted to massage my feet. I told him i was not interested. Somehow, i felt compelled to tell him i am an hobbyist, i meet escorts as a double life. During the conversation, he admits feeling abnormal to be obsessed with feet. I reassured him that everybody has their kinks.
Finally, we split, i get to meet an escort afterwards, and he goes to work.
This week, there has been prior attempts on his behalf to meet, but the stars didn't align. So, we agree to another date, he wants to treat me for lunch at his place. Then i told i will meet an escort in the morning prior to the lunch. At first, he is intrigued he wants to watch a session of me being with an escort. I am like "ok cool". I shop around to see who is open enough to have a voyeur in the room. I found an establishment, they are willing to accomodate for an extra fee, and it is normal. So i go back to my friend, i told him how much he is willing to pitch in for the meeting. He answers nothing, he will pitch in for the lunch. And i reply to him "well , you can cut off the lunch and pitch in for the voyeur fantasy instead." And i ask him: "What is your priority? Do you want to watch me fuck a lady? Or you want to treat me to lunch?"
He answers: "Neither, i am cancelling" . I don't want to eat lunch and don't want to watch." And i am like : Alright! Enjoy your vacations!
I felt relieved he cancelled. But Am I the asshole to deal the situation this way? Did i lead him on or something? Or am i homophobe to have dealt with this situation this way???
I hope the story won't bore you too much...
Alright, i will try to be concise. There is more to it. I guess i will go with what's more important in the story. If you have more questions, you can always ask away.
I have been facebook friends with someone for over a decade. We had common friends.We met twice until today.
The first time we met , we were just 2 dudes hanging out, having a meal, talking about common interests, maybe doing projects together. Then we split and we say good evening. Prior to that meeting, i met an escort. That meeting with the escort made me in a great mood. It might have given the wrong signal to the dude.
Years go by, we still chat from time to time through Facebook, but we don't meet.
3 months ago, he dm'd me and this time, he is really forward about meeting me. I suggest one date, but it is 2 weeks forward. And he is like "Nah! that's ok!" And i reply "ok"
When the date arrives, he messages me, and it is today, can we meet? But i received the message later in the day, and i answered him "you were ok not meeting and i find his messages very confusing".
6 weeks passes by, we agree for a date to meet, on my side, i knew he had feelings for me. But deep down, i knew i had to tell him in person that i have no romantic interest. So the day arrives. We had a meal. Later, i was meeting an escort. I might have used him to kill time. After the meal, we drove to his place. He suggest he would massage my feet. I answered to him: "well, i appreciate you but i don't like you this way!"
Finally, we hang out at his place. He tells me he has this foot fetish. He really wanted to massage my feet. I told him i was not interested. Somehow, i felt compelled to tell him i am an hobbyist, i meet escorts as a double life. During the conversation, he admits feeling abnormal to be obsessed with feet. I reassured him that everybody has their kinks.
Finally, we split, i get to meet an escort afterwards, and he goes to work.
This week, there has been prior attempts on his behalf to meet, but the stars didn't align. So, we agree to another date, he wants to treat me for lunch at his place. Then i told i will meet an escort in the morning prior to the lunch. At first, he is intrigued he wants to watch a session of me being with an escort. I am like "ok cool". I shop around to see who is open enough to have a voyeur in the room. I found an establishment, they are willing to accomodate for an extra fee, and it is normal. So i go back to my friend, i told him how much he is willing to pitch in for the meeting. He answers nothing, he will pitch in for the lunch. And i reply to him "well , you can cut off the lunch and pitch in for the voyeur fantasy instead." And i ask him: "What is your priority? Do you want to watch me fuck a lady? Or you want to treat me to lunch?"
He answers: "Neither, i am cancelling" . I don't want to eat lunch and don't want to watch." And i am like : Alright! Enjoy your vacations!
I felt relieved he cancelled. But Am I the asshole to deal the situation this way? Did i lead him on or something? Or am i homophobe to have dealt with this situation this way???
