Ask us anything part 3

[Lunaseraphim]

I have a big qiestion that i think is a very confusing one because ive asked it so many times and got so many different types of answers. My question is as an sp or relationship be very real with me do most women put on an act to be loud and fake moans in order to make their partner or their client happy. I know it varies frpm girl to girl but im talking about most women. I talked to a few women and they said they only would really koan loudly is when they havent had sex for a long time and the loud moaning bullshit is mostly for the guy and his ego so i want to know what do you think about this? Modt of the time when a sp or mp is being really really vocal obviously sometimes it can be genuine but im talking the majority, is it actually genuine or is it to make the work easier for the work and get the guy to cum faster?

Why do you want to know that? Personally I don't think it really matters for the client. Some fake, some don't. A lot of clients will complain about us not being vocal in reviews or will ask us constantly if we enjoy it if we're not putting on a show, it can put pressure to "act". But being vocal or not doesn't have anything to do with how much we're enjoying it.

 

[Julia Sky]

To me kindness in this business isn’t loud or extravagant—it’s soft, unexpected, and deeply felt. For me I give small gestures: a thoughtfully chosen Starbucks drink, a bouquet of colorful flowers, or an extra tip given not out of obligation, but genuine appreciation. I feel these little things have a way of lighting up someone’s entire day, turning an ordinary moment into something meaningful.

From my perspective as a client , receiving kindness from a SP is also about feeling valued—like your time matters, like you matter. It’s being with someone who doesn’t rush, who doesn’t double-book or keep you waiting endlessly. Because waiting for hours, hearing “just 15 more minutes” over and over, slowly chips away at that feeling. It turns anticipation into disappointment.

But when someone shows up fully, when they give you their time without making you feel like an afterthought—that’s where kindness really lives. It’s in the care, the presence, the quiet respect that says: you’re important, and this moment matters

This post was entertaining to read although it doesn't read like the posts you usually write... wink wink gpt lol

 

[johnryan]

I got a question!

I'm about 5'9 205 pounds, I'm pretty overweight tbh, it makes me feel pretty insecure, is being fat typically accepted in the hobby?

 

[Julia Sky]

I got a question!

I'm about 5'9 205 pounds, I'm pretty overweight tbh, it makes me feel pretty insecure, is being fat typically accepted in the hobby?

Very much is Some of us also genuinely love bigger people (it's me, I am some of us)

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I got a question!

I'm about 5'9 205 pounds, I'm pretty overweight tbh, it makes me feel pretty insecure, is being fat typically accepted in the hobby?

This isn't a hobby for us, it's a job.. and part of our job, in our opinion, is to help clients feel good about themselves. there are providers who don't see overweight clients but that is rare. And like Julia said, some women actually prefer bigger guys.

 

[LC18]

I got a question!

I'm about 5'9 205 pounds, I'm pretty overweight tbh, it makes me feel pretty insecure, is being fat typically accepted in the hobby?

I have a friend that doesn’t see overweight men, she has a policy on her website but I must say it’s not a common practice

I personally like big guys

 

[LeDodo]

I got a question!

I'm about 5'9 205 pounds, I'm pretty overweight tbh, it makes me feel pretty insecure, is being fat typically accepted in the hobby?

I have about the same stats as you and maybe now more pounds. Didn't have issue about it.

Edit: 6' for 216 pounds

 

[Nachoy]

This post was entertaining to read although it doesn't read like the posts you usually write... wink wink gpt lol

listen to me as what im saying , not as something to analyze or decode.
I won’t try to pick apart your words or turn them into a pattern—I’ll just meet you where you are, and respond in a way that actually feels human.

 

[Oscar234567]

Why do you want to know that? Personally I don't think it really matters for the client. Some fake, some don't. A lot of clients will complain about us not being vocal in reviews or will ask us constantly if we enjoy it if we're not putting on a show, it can put pressure to "act". But being vocal or not doesn't have anything to do with how much we're enjoying it.

I get it but i feel like us men are programmed to think moaning means enjoying and silence means shes just not turned on. Maybe its porn to blame or maybe the guys who think that way had a ex girlfriend who was a fantastic actress.

 

[Fradi]

It should be immediately seen as a major red flag whenever a potential or regular client starts to expect anything for free. Some clients only use sex workers because they want to dominate and control women whom they treat with contempt. First thing they will do is try to stretch the boundaries and behave like they are entitled to get whatever they want.

Even if someone argues it's not the case, it puts the sex worker in an awkward position, so no client should even go there.

This is total bullshit.
There are clients that can form a friendship with an escort and are quite capable of having a dual relationship and not overstep boundaries and take advantage of each other.
Some of us actually think women are amazing and have gotten nothing but love and affection from them and treat them accordingly.
You can be a client when sex is involved and a friend when it is not.
You don’t ” go there” as a client, it evolves naturally over a long period of time and if it doesn’t it doesn’t it is very rare but can be amazing when it does.

I will always be there for the ladies I consider as a friend and it has nothing to do with wanting to have something for free, I can well afford whatever I need. there is never any pressure involved.
They are women like any other and they do have friends outside the sex world and sometimes even inside.

 

[mtlspacial]

This is total bullshit.
There are clients that can form a friendship with an escort and are quite capable of having a dual relationship and not overstep boundaries and take advantage of each other.
Some of us actually think women are amazing and have gotten nothing but love and affection from them and treat them accordingly.
You can be a client when sex is involved and a friend when it is not.
You don’t ” go there” as a client, it evolves naturally over a long period of time and if it doesn’t it doesn’t it is very rare but can be amazing when it does.

I will always be there for the ladies I consider as a friend and it has nothing to do with wanting to have something for free, I can well afford whatever I need. there is never any pressure involved.
They are women like any other and they do have friends outside the sex world and sometimes even inside.

Please read it again and try to understand the meaning of the words "expect anything for free". Emphasis on the word "expect".

The only place I expect free stuff is McDonald's, when I use my points with the app.

If a provider decides to give me anything or any time for free, it sure wasn't "expected" on my end. Nor would I even ask.

If you need a dictionary, let me know.

 

[Fradi]

Please read it again and try to understand the meaning of the words "expect anything for free". Emphasis on the word "expect".

The only place I expect free stuff is McDonald's, when I use my points with the app.

If a provider decides to give me anything or any time for free, it sure wasn't "expected" on my end. Nor would I even ask.

If you need a dictionary, let me know.

Now you are just playing with words lol.
BTW your points at McDonald’s are not free. Did you expect it to be?

 

[mtlspacial]

Now you are just playing with words lol.
BTW your points at McDonald’s are not free. Did you expect it to be?

Yes, I expect my points when I go to McDonald's. Because they advertise it will be provided if I make a purchase.

Sex workers don't advertise free time in their ads if you visit them enough. If some want to give it to you our out of the kindness of their heart, good for you. Some do want to hang out if they know you and like you enough.

But never demand it or expect it.

That's my point.

 

[Fradi]

Yes, I expect my points when I go to McDonald's. Because they advertise it will be provided if I make a purchase.

Sex workers don't advertise free time in their ads if you visit them enough. If some want to give it to you our out of the kindness of their heart, good for you. Some do want to hang out if they know you and like you enough.

But never demand it or expect it.

That's my point.

So we agree McDonald’s points are not free they are a reward for something purchased.

We also agree on the rest.
Experiences with an SP are unique to each individual.
Some of them make amazing friends.

Friendship cannot be demanded, it is one of the few things that can only be earned and given.
That was my point.

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[mtlspacial]

So we agree McDonald’s points are not free they are a reward for something purchased.

We also agree on the rest.
Experiences with an SP are unique to each individual.
Some of them make amazing friends.

Friendship cannot be demanded, it is one of the few things that can only be earned and given.
That was my point.

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There is a big difference between friendship and being on friendly terms with your service provider.

Hypothetically, If my favorite service provider, whom I've been on friendly terms with for years, retires, and still calls me for coffee, then yes it's friendship because there's no sex or money involved anymore.

Yes, you can have fondness between the two as a client and a provider. We are humans and we want that connection.

In the interim, it's friendly terms between client and provider. It might look the same, but it's not. It shouldn't be confused as such.

 

[Fradi]

There is a big difference between friendship and being on friendly terms with your service provider.

Hypothetically, If my favorite service provider, whom I've been on friendly terms with for years, retires, and still calls me for coffee, then yes it's friendship because there's no sex or money involved anymore.

Yes, you can have fondness between the two as a client and a provider. We are humans and we want that connection.

In the interim, it's friendly terms between client and provider. It might look the same, but it's not. It shouldn't be confused as such.

Actually it can be a bit more complicated than that but yes we are humans and humans are capable of many different kind of relationships.
The thing to remember is that SP are women first and they have the same dreams and hopes as other women they just earn their living as sex workers.
There is no confusion when both parties want the same thing.

 

[Cap'tain Fantastic]

I have about the same stats as you and maybe now more pounds. Didn't have issue about it.

Edit: 6' for 216 pounds

6’ for 216lbs is not exactly overweight, unless you are totally out of shape and even then I cant really see too much fat accumulation.

 

[mtlspacial]

I got a question!

I'm about 5'9 205 pounds, I'm pretty overweight tbh, it makes me feel pretty insecure, is being fat typically accepted in the hobby?

5'9" and 205 lbs is probably light weight compared to some guys here.

If you meet an SP, the important is to be clean and respectful.

 

[LeDodo]

6’ for 216lbs is not exactly overweight, unless you are totally out of shape and even then I cant really see too much fat accumulation.

Overweight is the definition you'll find for with just the ratio height and weight (BMI) anywhere.

As per visible fat accumulation, I'm well endowed waist wise lol
Dad bod maxxing

 

[LC18]

Everyone carries weight differently so trying to compare your weight and height isn’t going to give you much substance. We’d need photos and for obvious reasons, we won’t be doing that