Hard to tell as I don’t welcome my clients with a measuring tape but whenever it’s big I let my clients know and we adjust. Sometimes men are surprised to be considered big
I like to remind them that I’ve seen a lot more dicks than they have
The "porn is fake" argument is dead. Amateur content killed it. A phone propped on a nightstand, no lighting, no script : that is as real as it gets. And at 4 inches, you are not in the frame
Go look at any dating app where sex is the actual objective: the event photos, the casting posts, the meetup recaps. Not a single small guy. Not one. If you do spot one, he is almost certainly the cuckold of the couple running the event. Cuckolding is a cerebral dynamic, it has nothing to do with size. But you dare to show up and are below the threshold, the role available to you is already written : you watch
And when you say you have seen more dicks than they have : technically true. But that is a selection bias problem. The men who pay for intimacy are not a random sample of the male population. They are disproportionately the ones who could not get there any other way. Your reference pool skews below the actual average by construction. The well endowed men who still see you are there for other reasons : the exhaustion of modern dating, discretion, simplicity. Not because a woman looked at them naked and quietly left the room
The gap between what men believe is normal and what actually gets selected for is real, growing, and impossible to look away from. And behind that gap, there are men who wake up every day carrying something that has no name in polite conversation : the thought that if intimacy is permanently out of reach, so is the point of being here
