Balance between pleasure and risks

[neverdonethat]

I started seeing escorts at times where my wife was gone on lengthy trips. Before her return, I would get tested. This scenario allowed me to handle these extracurricular activities in a responsible way.

There is no foreseeable trip in the near future and, you guessed it, I would like to continue seeing escorts. The logistic of meeting someone is not a problem, but the logistic of getting tested and getting the results within a few days is, it appears, impossible.

I have had four encounters with SPs recently (with , DATY and protected sex) after which I did not get tested before resuming normal activities at home. To reduce risks, I could easily switch to CBJ without nostalgia. It would be so much harder to let go of DATY. It is probably one of the main reasons I see and want to continue seeing escorts: I love to taste and please women orally.

I am looking for ways to manage the risks. I am sure there are plenty of people in a similar situation who have found some kind of compromise that appears to works well. Here are my questions. How do you handle this? What sexual activities are you avoiding? What’s the frequency? Has it been working well ? For how long ? What would be the consequences if you were to infect your wife/partner ?

I know about the deseases and I have seen the statistics. No need to mention that I should avoid this altogether. What I would really like to hear about is the balance between pleasure and risks you feel comfortable with.

Thanks a lot.
NeverDoneThat

 

[Greenmachine]

I believe that there is a reasonable expectation that any provider has a certain % chance of carrying something unpleasant. I believe that one must balance the risk against the rewards, but never forget that it is a risk.

However, when % chance becomes definite reported infection there ought to be something done about it. To do otherwise would be negligent and irresponsible.