Normal dating & true love after years of hobbying
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I can't help you. I'm not in your position.
But as you're saying, there are signs already that shit might hit the fan. I guess I would ask myself this question: What would I NOT want to happen? If your wife finds out, starts hating you for hiding this to her, and asks for a divorce, you, and your kids, might be in for a world of pain.
Sounds to me like you have some serious soul searching to do.
I think hiding seeing escorts is easier than hiding having an extra marital relationship that involves love and feelings.
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@ekzarh One last note: I've had a few relationships with women 20 years younger than me. It's insanely fun and rewarding in the beginning. You feel like the king of the world. I can see the exuberance in some of your posts, and you're not thinking clear. The age gap is a serious barrier to a long term relationship. You're just not at the same point in life. Different goals. Different views. Different circle of friends. Etc. Once the passion phase fades, what will be left of this?
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OK, after all this, in the end, this is what I would do: Dump the chick if you value your family, and get a second phone for your SPcapades.
You’re starting with a lie by not telling her. Not good! And she is letting you fuck her with no condom because she thinks you’re a nice familly man ( that you’re not sorry to say ). You just want to stick your penis in young chick mouth, pussy and ass, it has nothing to do with love, especially that this one lets you do it for free. Enjoy the moment but call it quit soon man.Do you think I should really mention that? Would you have?
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Not much younger and some were older ..
First off never tell your new girlfriend that you used to book SP its going to look real bad. As for me I met a few women over my last 11 years of being single and they all wonder how i can go without having sex for so long. But I been doing the SP thing since 2013.
But for the love thing i guess with aging being single for so long i don't believe in this anymore
But for the love thing i guess with aging being single for so long i don't believe in this anymore
I got tested, so it’s not a problem.
And as I mentioned in my case I am not even the one initiating intimacy in more than 50% of the time.
So letting me do it for “free” (it’s never really free as we know it, even with the wife) is the major issue here?
I got the question from her of
how do I have the experience to satisfy her after being for years in an unhappy marriage, I kind of changed the topic quickly and didn’t really answer that.
And then reach my 50s old, bitter and alone (when children are out of the house and my wife no longer needs me)? She almost openly said it during covid …
And being divorced will significantly affect my SP budgeting as my income is higher than my wife’s …
I guess you told her you never cheated on your wife too? Also, i think that when you start to see SPs you never stop, so you’ll cheat on her too. After all, SPs are always freshly shaved, suck your dick like pros, you dont have to deal with their periods ( lol ) and you can have minimum interaction with and they are naked 2 minutes after! A gf can never offer those benefits
I can understand that my ex was trash and even worse in bed the worst sex I ever had, guess i was the idiot for sticking around 9 years, she had mental issues for sure. Guess being single is too amazing even if i dont have sex i can live with that.
I think even with SPs I develop relationships …I guess you told her you never cheated on your wife too? Also, i think that when you start to see SPs you never stop, so you’ll cheat on her too. After all, SPs are always freshly shaved, suck your dick like pros, you dont have to deal with their periods ( lol ) and you can have minimum interaction with and they are naked 2 minutes after! A gf can never offer those benefits
I don’t go to SPs just for sex.
That is correct, and when the clock hits the 50 mins mark you get a gentle push towards the shower, signifying ‘I liked it, but it’s over for today’ …After all, SPs are always freshly shaved, suck your dick like pros, you dont have to deal with their periods ( lol ) and you can have minimum interaction with and they are naked 2 minutes after! A gf can never offer those benefits
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Only thing I can contribute to this conversation is end the relationship with your wife if you deemed your relationship a loveless one. You will only hurt your wife, and loose the respect of your kids, while going on a search for true love.
If you don't feel you could be a faithful man in a relationship, but want true love, then find yourself someone who is into polygamy. Otherwise your only doomed to hurt the one you do love.
And history tends to repeats itself. What happens when this girl stops being the new toy, and becomes the relationship? Will you then turn back to SPs? Lol.. though something tells me you might struggle to keep up so won't have anything left for an SP.
Don't confuse infatuation, lust, and a good time with love. True love is the person you desire life with more than just sex, and is built over time, not just a weekend. It is knowing the good, the bad, and the ugly, and still wanting to continue life with that person anyways.
Just because a marriage might be sexless, doesn't make it loveless. Love takes many forms over time.
If you don't feel you could be a faithful man in a relationship, but want true love, then find yourself someone who is into polygamy. Otherwise your only doomed to hurt the one you do love.
And history tends to repeats itself. What happens when this girl stops being the new toy, and becomes the relationship? Will you then turn back to SPs? Lol.. though something tells me you might struggle to keep up so won't have anything left for an SP.
Don't confuse infatuation, lust, and a good time with love. True love is the person you desire life with more than just sex, and is built over time, not just a weekend. It is knowing the good, the bad, and the ugly, and still wanting to continue life with that person anyways.
Just because a marriage might be sexless, doesn't make it loveless. Love takes many forms over time.
It’s not technically sexless, but it’s definitely lovesless. Honestly I once reviewed the columbian Mia Milan here (former Ariana Grande) - similar experience.
And I was too hesitant to divorce on a couple opportunities as I am probably scared living alone .. (which I am not proud of).
I built a “program” of meetings with the new girl until the end of the summer and then I will step back and reevaluate.
Well if you decided to look for true love for yourself, then it is only crule you don't allow your wife the same opportunity. If you've already decided she isn't what/who you want, then it's not fair to her you hold her back from finding the same for herself too.
Or is that part of it? She isn't allowed to move on till you have already set up your own next nest first? Or are sure you have someone to move on to while she then has to figure it out on her own while you have found someone to replace her?
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