It's maybe beating a dead horse, but concent isn't really debatable. They give it or they don't, if she says no, and you do anyway regardless of your reasoning. You have broken consent. If they'd prefer no reviews and it wasn't a "scam" session then that should be respected. Wouldnt want them posting any of our details without our consent right?
I think it extremely important to put yourself in their position, consider how you'd feel, not as you, but as them. Think.
That said I do think it important to note that the review site has some responsibility here, they need to offer options for providers to remove and maybe ammend reviews who's details go too far. From my experience mods are quite good at removing those details and shutting down some vulgar descriptions. Maybe not to everyone's standards, but there's something in place.
As for girls moving and that getting updated, that's one pit of a grey zone. Someone who leaves an agency and goes Indy, sometimes they update, sometimes they don't, should we be messaging them to ask if they want info updated on merb? I feel that may play a tad into being annoying messages, but that's me. I respect this, but given how people work extra steps tend to get avoided.
It also seems mods update review threads detailing the new info exe - Linda @xo Formerly Lisa @vog - so it does appear to be the norm on here somewhat.
I do think if it's a means of safety, then they should have a way to alert mods of such. This should be within reason, as stated "she changes once ok, multiple changes red flag" Then they could help keep things separate, nothing stops DMs though I guess.
I want to believe it's hopeful clients looking for providers that meant something to them, but it is exactly what stalkers would do too. I definitely think a form protection should be in place if not already.
Providers whom have been more comfortable openly talking with me Ive asked if you have a means to protect yourselves, like a merb for clients lol. Seems only fair to me.
I for one find it extremely helpful to share info on "scams" and really poor service.