Booking an indy: Tips, tricks, dos and don'ts
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I've noticed that very few providers ask for references as a mandatory part of their screening process. I myself have it as an option from only my colleagues of Indy Companion that I may or may not accept in lieu of other requirements the client may not want to do, which I'm accepting by itself less and less. If you don't want to give a reference, you can choose someone else whose screening better suits you.
With all due respect,I concur with most of your viewpoints, with the exception of your response to the client's inquiry about menu details, where you insinuated that the client would miss the opportunity to meet you. It is important to note that this platform is not a dating site; rather, it is a service for which the client is paying. Considering the substantial investment the client is making, they are entitled to know what culinary options are available. There is no need for any discourtesy or negativity when addressing this matter.Just as you have asked the client numerous questions, it is only fair that the client has the right to inquire about the menu offerings, it should be reciprocal. Both the client and the service provider should maintain a civilized and courteous demeanor when discussing these inquiries prior to the engagement.
Many providers don't like it being called a "menu", and find it demeaning because we are not a restaurant (culinary options?
) and many have YMMV. I find it a red flag if I'm asked about a "menu" and what services I offer, it's wasting my time. I always respond by asking what they're looking for. For example, I do bbbj but I don't promise I'll do it in case hygiene or something else is an issue and I DO have to say that from experience. There are also a lot of providers who considers themselves people who give experiences and want to be seen past sexual acts only, and may be ok doing something with one person or not another, so if that's your issue then you should move onto a different kind of provider.While I hate acronyms, I do find them useful sometimes because if something is a dealbreaker, it saves a lot of time from being wasted on both sides if I don't offer that service. I don't blame any client for wanting specific acts, especially if they know it may cost extra, or many don't offer it at all. But also, doing your research (this may be on their website already), tact and approach is key.
You are entitled to your own opinion may it be right or wrong.
I am telling you that many of us don’t like it. Feel free to still use that approach though.
All she says is there are ways to inquire about provided services:
Tout est dans la forme!
I agree there are many polite ways to find out if what you want will be offered without specifically asking for menu items, then again the ladies that provide this type of information on their web sight may have an advantage in attracting people that want to know beforehand and are either too shy to ask or are not that well versed in being able to beat around the bush politely to obtain the information they want.
I can see both sides of the issue here.
I never ask what is on the menu, I can tell from many things if I will have a nice experience with the lady, there is all kinds of information available on their web sight, their twitter the way they advertise and if they post on Merb just the way they approach things.
I have never had a bad experience with an indépendant SP I have seen.
I believe that discussing the menu details is a crucial matter to address in order to avoid any unpleasant surprises for the client and the service provider after the client have already paid the service provider. Let's consider this scenario: the client is particularly interested in a GFE (Girlfriend Experience), but he’s unaware of what is actually offered on the menu. If the client proceeds to pay the service provider without this knowledge, only to find out later that the service provider does not provide GFE, it would undoubtedly lead to frustration and potential disputes. By openly communicating the menu options beforehand, we can prevent such situations from arising. While it is acceptable to inquire about personal details such as name, phone number, address, ethnicity, age,pet name and occupation, it is equally important to address significant questions to ensure both parties are on the same page and avoid any unnecessary arguments.
I am going to do exactly like what you did and not read your message.
You either didn’t read my initial post or have poor reading comprehension skills.
I never said you shouldn’t ask what one is offering. I said using the word “menu” is tacky and most of us hate it. Feel free to keep using that approach, some people don’t mind.
I instantly comprehended your perspective, perceiving it from a distance. Both of us have effectively conveyed our viewpoints, making our respective points clear. While I have no intention of intruding on your business operations, it is crucial, as a discerning client within this industry, for me to shed light on pertinent matters. At times, seeking clarification can prove invaluable without causing any negative repercussions. By the way, I would like to underscore the exceptional quality of my reading skills, which enable me to stay consistently ahead of the game. I find it rather perplexing why some individuals derive satisfaction from engaging in arguments, especially when I am merely expressing my opinion as a client who values constructive dialogue. I kindly request that you bear in mind the utmost respect with which I consistently respond, as it can be rather disconcerting when you choose to respond by mocking or ridiculing my input.
As shown in the replies of this tweet, everyone likes to be asked about their menu /s
This will be my last tweet on that matter because I don’t want to pollute my own thread and as stated in my initial post. Nothing you will say will make me or my colleagues change our mind
This will be my last tweet on that matter because I don’t want to pollute my own thread and as stated in my initial post. Nothing you will say will make me or my colleagues change our mind
Ok gentlemen so from now on take note that there will no longer be any "pussy eating" since it is a "diner" term. "Pussy" may also be banned shortly
I don't know if it's been mentioned and I don't understand why it needs to be.... But ffs don't send us unsolicited dick pics!
Among other things, you're telling on yourself that you don't understand or care about consent, which guarantees I'm blocking you! Geez.
Among other things, you're telling on yourself that you don't understand or care about consent, which guarantees I'm blocking you! Geez.
That’s a very good point, thank you for bringing it up. Anything that’s unsolicited whether it’s a photo or sexting doesn’t belong in a booking inquiry.
Def not. Respect and common sense go a long way...
Thanks for this. Always good to have some useful advice to make sure we do things the right way to ensure the best experience for everyone involved.
Great thread... At least for a guy who's more salon or agency type. Is it inappropriate to ask for a face pic before sending my ID or pre-deposit ? Thank you
It is inappropriate. We are hiding our faces for many reasons. Sending our faces to every stranger who asks us for a photo defeats the purpose.
Yes it is, we blur our faces for a reason. If you don’t want to send your ID, don’t. Just find a SP that doesn’t require it.
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