Oh I get what you mean.. but have found 'hi. how are you' to be the kinder ones.. It's amazing how many people seem to try and start the conversation in so many rude and vulgar ways... when I started I didn't really like them either. I've come to appreciate it over the last year though... besides there are apparently A LOT of false ads out there, and while we might not like it, the men too don't want to put a lot of effort into messages that they don't even know if there actually is someone on the other side of the conversation to receive it. There are 2 sides to the discussion on weather it is appropriate. but I get it is often just the opening to hi is there really someone on the other end of this conversation, or am i wasting my time even just saying Hi. It's better than the opening "Are you available" without even receiving a greeting...
Booking an indy: Tips, tricks, dos and don'ts
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Oh I get what you mean.. but have found 'hi. how are you' to be the kinder ones.. It's amazing how many people seem to try and start the conversation in so many rude and vulgar ways... when I started I didn't really like them either. I've come to appreciate it over the last year though... besides there are apparently A LOT of false ads out there, and while we might not like it, the men too don't want to put a lot of effort into messages that they don't even know if there actually is someone on the other side of the conversation to receive it. There are 2 sides to the discussion on weather it is appropriate. but I get it is often just the opening to hi is there really someone on the other end of this conversation, or am i wasting my time even just saying Hi. It's better than the opening "Are you available" without even receiving a greeting...
Oh sorry if I'm posting another one.. but another big don't, is asking for a discount... nothing like telling a girl you don't think she is worth the price she is asking for like lowballing her price... my responce these days when a man lowballs me is. "I'm sorry but asking for discounts is rather insulting, and i would hope you don't ask other ladies or myself for discounts.. you are likely to be recieved as rude in doing so..." (taken from my clipboard in auto responces to commonly asked questions i got tired of taking the time to answer.)
It is always acceptable and appreciated (likely to get you to be one of her vip's) if you tip her well... but asking to pay less is definitely a no go..
It is always acceptable and appreciated (likely to get you to be one of her vip's) if you tip her well... but asking to pay less is definitely a no go..
It's there perogative, but personally the callback should be the goal not just the encounter... it is a professional business, but doing personal things.. it's nice to recieve messages like that and to feel appreciated for the time together... honestly it's poor self marketing to not be looking for the likely callback.
Don't stop telling them thank you... it's a sweet gesture.
It happened often i sent a note/indy after just to say it was very pleasant and thanks.......and they answered the same.....plus few times it was her sending a note saying it was a nice moment and hoping we will see each other again...and it works...lolll
of course it's business.....but IMHO it's very professional to do so.....very appreciated.....a big big plus for me.
of course it's business.....but IMHO it's very professional to do so.....very appreciated.....a big big plus for me.
Many providers have pets in their incall so it’s always better to mention your allergies in the first email or text messages.
I used to bring my hypoallergenic dog “to work”. While she wasn’t an issue allergy wise, many have said she was annoying and too curious.
“Hi! I am allergic to cats and dogs so I was wondering if you had one at your incall.”
In my experience, even if the pet is removed from the incall, their hairs/fur/saliva will most likely still be on the furnitures. If you vacuum right before the person comes it’s sometimes even worse.
Personally i agree with this statement overall but it seem in general, well especially agencies due to the volume they receive, but also a lot of indies, prefer a more straight to the point because they have to deal with a lot of time wasters.
Now of course there is a difference between going for the point politely and simply saying "hey, avai now" or any other terrible intros like this. I think saying Hi or Salut is a minimum.
That said its so different from one to another and i feel there is no exact science. I will upload my last "try" to meet someone indy. I blurred all the names and numbers so beside the provider itself wich may recognize my text (and i don't mind) there is really no sensitive infos there. I just want to "analyze it with you guys".
I came personally to 3 conclusions why communication was stopped.
1) Last answer too long. I seen some peoples who really have an aversion for anything more than 2 lines. But i wanted to be clear with the situation and show im really not wasting her time, fully intended to book in the next 2 or 3 days and was open to multiple time slots.
2) Didn't liked i said i was speaking with a booker. I didn't meant it pejoratively. Its fine to have a booker handle your ...bookings. It really just didn't felt like the SP i met the way it was answered. Very generic and almost auto-reply...
3) She just has no interest for pre-booking and is fine with meeting peoples on the fly... Wich a last answer just letting me know pre-booking is not possible would had been nice ..
Now personally i think i was direct enough while polite, didn't asked for a "menu" or anything (it was auto-sent to me). I did mentioned i met the lady before so i wouldn't be a new client. I used french because the SP in question speak french as first language. The "auto-reply menu" was also sent in french anyway so it was not an issue. Oh and no screening at all was mentioned in the ads. Now maybe i could have added a first name. Like Mike here but i do think i told her my real first name in person (always do, its no issue for me) but i wasn't sure if it wouldn't looked awkward.
Anyway looking back on it its easy to analyze it on a bunch of factors and im sure most of you will have their theories why it avorted like that, either from my options or maybe something else. But on the spot, i taught it was fine. Its a text too, not an email, much harder to all condense into 1 small message.
So base on that what should i do? Retry at some point? Just forget about it?
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It's up to you if you want to retry.
It may help to mention you have seen her before. If you had a good time together, she may look forward to seeing someone she's already been with. Was it the same number you contacted previously? (Just a passing thought of was her image and ad stolen by someone else.) Or did you contact threw a different number than the time you did see her? Also if it is her she may just have some auto responses. (I have a few commonly typed responces saved so I don't have to keep typing out the same responce over and over. )
A booker is possible for some people, but I would think it only benifits her if her booker is upfront that the person booking will have to relay the messages to her, it would also prepare you for knowing that Your messages aren't directly to her, though again mentioning you have seen her before would be a way of seeing, and judging the responce back for if it is her or not you are talking to.
No harm in sending a message and trying if she left an impression on you to want to see her again.
I did mention seeing her before and as you can see in the text, the first 2 times i met her she was in an agency (popular agency in Montreal). That was late 2019 and early 2020 if i recall correctly, before Covid. I just erased the names and number with MS paint to avoid any issues. So that former agency (wich i kept using after) have my number but thats all. Her or the MP she worked at before had not. I do not think her pictures were stolen or it was a fake add. Basically she has been on and off in that massage parlor for a few years but lately most of the ladies working there have started advertising as indies as well. Its the same account on LL as the massage parlor so i know its real.
I never got to meet her at the parlor because it is VERY FAR from the core downtown and would be a logistic hell for me. But in her ad she mentioned being close to downstown so i was like "wow now's the time".
Truth is i do want to meet her again, so i want to try again, but if same day booking with a 3-4 hours window is the only option, its once again making things very difficult for me unless im already in Montreal for another reason.
Do not derail the thread please. If you want to exchange advice please do so using direct messages
That is litterally the subject of the thread. Advice and tips are pretty similar words...
Yes but it would make it easier for all if this was general advice. If you need information or advice specific to your situation please use the direct message feature to keep this thread light and easy to read.
Thank you.
Thank you.
It depends on the person, you’d have to make sure with the SP to avoid any confusion. Some have a deposit that’s on top of the rate some deduct it from the total amount.
There is now a French version: https://merb.cc/xenforo/threads/ren...s-conseils-quoi-faire-et-ne-pas-faire.229926/
It doesn't really matter how far in advance, the important part is to not cancel, and be there for when the appointment is set for. Only set the appointment up if you know for sure you will be able to make it. Otherwise you will be concidered a time waister, and may not get another chance with the lady your looking to meet.
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