Do you guys lose sexual interest easily?

[ManApart]

Hey guys,

I was just wondering if you have had this experience.

I just saw one of my favorite girls again and even though the service was good as always, I didn't feel we had the same attraction anymore. It was I think our 5th meeting. This has happened several times before. I have a favorite girl, but after multiple meetings, even though we get much more friendly and get closer, I feel we move towards being friends and the sexual chemistry isn't as good anymore. It starts to even feel a little forced.

It's like the more I know a girl and the friendlier we get, the less I am turned on during the sex. I just want to hang and talk and have fun. I don't get that excited about the sex anymore. This concerns me because I am wondering if sex is only exciting for me when the girl is new. I would like to calm down with all this hobbying and get into a more steady, solid relationship this summer and the trend is not great. It's like I get into married for 10 years mode, but only after 5 meetings.

 

[EagerBeaver]

Yes, in many cases the novelty and excitement wears off. I recall one agency owner once saying newness is an important and powerful novelty that sells, and that guys like new girls like women like new shoes. There is nothing that sells better than a well reviewed new girl. After a time that novelty wears off, and there is a new flavor of the month. This pattern is observable in many veteran hobbyists and is certainly nothing to fret over.

 

[ManApart]

Does it happens with normal dates?

I haven't had a normal date in quite a while lol, so I am not sure. Usually people say things get better the more comfortable and closer two people get. Lately for me it hasn't been that way. I just start to feel more "friends" and less sexually excited. Maybe the girlfriend fantasy starts to fade and when that happens so does my attraction?

 

[ManApart]

Yes, in many cases the novelty and excitement wears off. I recall one agency owner once saying newness is an important and powerful novelty that sells, and that guys like new girls like women like new shoes. There is nothing that sells better than a well reviewed new girl. After a time that novelty wears off, and there is a new flavor of the month. This pattern is observable in many veteran hobbyists and is certainly nothing to fret over.

Yes, I am sure we veterans do share that trait. It's the newness and novelty of being with an unknown new girl that really gets us excited. The novelty wears off after seeing the same girl 2-5 times for me. It just isn't as exciting anymore. I just hope this doesn't translate into my real life relationships in the future. I did always tend to kind of have this trait, even before all this hobbying started.

 

[EagerBeaver]

The novelty wears off after seeing the same girl 2-5 times for me.

So don't do it! Hunt for good new girls. I also have a rule of not seeing anyone I know has been in the business more than a year, due to jade factor (JF). That's a whole other thread.

As far as real life relationships, ever heard of the 7 year itch? For a seasoned hobbyist it is called the 1 year itch. That is also a whole other thread. But suffice it to say when you have done the pay for play thing for 10 or more years, you do become socially retarded on some level. It is a combination of being spoiled with quick and easy sex and losing the hard edge one has from having to hunt for and earn a woman the old fashioned way, through trust, respect, and the force of your personality.

If you do not intend to be a single man, MA, get out. Get out NOW.

 

[snoodle]

You guys might remember i started dating an sp a few months ago.
She was only doing it part time she had a job during the day. She had stopped doing it for me.
She dumped me after a few months cause she felt i was not taking the relationship serious enough.
Maybe she was right, but i feel she should have gave it more time.
But ever since then i have not enjoyed one session with an sp.
its just not the same as when you are doing it with your gf and your in love.
I'm even thinking of stopping hobbling al together soon. Cause right now its just a waste of money for me. Maybe its cause I'm heartbroken.

 

[ManApart]

Ya, I guess you are right. I haven't been in the "real in love" situation you described, in a while, so I can't really know how I will react until I get there again. If there is no fundamental deeper feelings to these encounters, I guess it is normal they get kind of old after a few meetings, when the newness novelty wears off. Thanks for the insight Alyssa.

 

[man77777]

- It's like the more I know a girl and the friendlier we get, the less I am turned on during the sex. I just want to hang and talk and have fun. I don't get that excited about the sex anymore. This concerns me because I am wondering if sex is only exciting for me when the girl is new.

- I haven't had a normal date in quite a while

Stop hobbying MA, it seems that hobby starts decreasing your capacity to have a normal relationship later...

You can't see 100girls/year in this "quick fuck and pay" way and dating no girl in a normal way without changing irreversibly the way you see women and m/w relationships..

I know you know that one day you will have to stop all these shits, the sooner will be the better...

 

[EagerBeaver]

Stop hobbying MA, it seems that hobby starts decreasing your capacity to have a normal relationship later...

You can't see 100girls/year in this "quick fuck and pay" way and dating no girl in a normal way without changing irreversibly the way you see women and m/w relationships..

I know you know that one day you will have to stop all these shits, the sooner will be the better...

MA, Man 77777 gives great advice. If you want to have a normal relationship and do not want to pay for play the rest of your life, GET OUT NOW. Take my word for it, I have been involved in this much longer than you.

 

[snoodle]

No Alyssa

The majority of guys who see SP on a regular basis ( 1 or 2 times a week ) do it because they do not have GF and they are hoping to get the affection from an SP. I saw his statistic in another thread a while ago.
Thats why if i don't get DFK i don't get hard no matter how hot the girl is. I lose total interest.

I saw an sp a while ago but after about the 25th time we were together she started to get lazy in her service and taking for granted i was still enjoying it ( barely blowing me, making her friend do most of the work, etc..). Needless to say i stopped seeing her. She still text me once in a while but i refuse every time. But maybe i just come straight out and say it that get service was getting sloppy. lol

 

[snoodle]

Stop hobbying MA, it seems that hobby starts decreasing your capacity to have a normal relationship later...

The same can be said for jerking off lol

 

[UncleBob]

Oh yes... Happening to me so much...

Everytime I say I will repeat with an SP that I really enjoyed very much, I don't see her again most of the time...

After 4-5 times with same SP, I have more difficulty to stay hard even if the girl is very hot...
Is it her fault, maybe a little sometime cause she may think that since we know each other more, she doesn't have to make that little extra effort she did the first time...

There is one ATF that I know that, if I see her too often, or if I see other girl between our meetings, I get like bored with her but when it happens, I stop seeing other girls and wait a couple of week without any sex and then when I go see her, it is like the first time.
Also, this ATF, when she stops for few months because she has a BF, when she break and she comes back, I missed her so much that our renuion is quite hot.

There is only one SP I saw several times with always same pleasure and constant hard on every single time no matter what... Anna!
So I think there is also a question of compatibility issue...

I also remember Mika that I had lots of fun with sessions after sessions... Never failed until she got weight Wonder what she becomes these days...

I agree with Alyssa that being in love is another story and might help to get a hard on no matter that our love get fat and aging ...

But for me, with SPs, I tend to become more and more picky with time and even then, I might have a hard time to stay hard all the time... I'm aging too...

 

[snoodle]

then get a gf, a fuckfriend or whatever...

easier said than done lol :smile:

i tried POF those sluts won't even give you the time of day.
these idiots all have these headline talking about they want an honest man.
Well...how are they gonna find a good man when the only guys they will talk to are douchebags that that pics of their six pack in front of the mirror. lol

 

[snoodle]

well whats a good way to meet women ?

I hate trying to pick up a women at a bar. i feel like an idiot.

and I'm too shy to just start talking to girls on the street plus they will think I'm a creep

 

[EagerBeaver]

If you are seeing SPs to find a girlfriend, you are seriously fucked up and need to see a shrink and stop seeing SPs right away.

 

[Joe.t]

MA, Man 77777 gives great advice. If you want to have a normal relationship and do not want to pay for play the rest of your life, GET OUT NOW. Take my word for it, I have been involved in this much longer than you.

If this option is availble to you then this is excellent advice, if not, happy hobbying until your hearts content.

 

[EagerBeaver]

If this option is availble to you then this is excellent advice, if not, happy hobbying until your hearts content.

I am assuming it is available. It is a question of whether he wants to pursue that option. I take it from his posts, that he does.

I know you are referring to some young hobbyists who hobby because they are socially retarded in the 1st place and cannot acquire normal relationships, but I am fairly certain that this is not the case with MA. As it was with another young hobbyist we both knew a few years back.

 

[UncleBob]

Meeting women the normal way? Too late for me...
I did not do it when I was younger because I always been scared by the "commitment" involved in a serious relation...
I am not the kind of man going alone in bars, don't like social danse or country music ...
Almost no women in my job...

And I agree that seeing SP every single week for years may affect your capacity to have normal relation with a GF...

Actually, I have NO motivation to get a GF... Maybe indeed, it is because we are spoiled here in MTL with all these GFE girls!!!
I like to get along with an SP, i like when an SP tells me I'm her prefered client.
Maybe I am not Loved but I am "liked" and this is enough for me I guess since I have never known what's being loved...

 

[simonpaul]

because we lose intrest with the regular wife, it is why we see different sp to be happy.I don't understand a guy who can make love with the same woman more tham 6 months.I need new experience to stay alert and fit.

 

[Merlot]

Hey guys,

I was just wondering if you have had this experience.

Hello MA,

The longest relationship I ever had with an SP was 13 meetings over about 7 years. Notice the average time between means it was not very frequent, and probably helped keep the sexual interest going well over a much longer time. However, overall I've never had too much trouble keeping a strong sexual interest because I rarely saw ladies more than 2 or 3 times. A few I met 4, 5, 6 times. It does get harder to see an escort as a purely sexual adventure the more I got to know them as a person. The ladies I saw more I repeated with because they were able to seem almost as sexually interested in being together. Still, I could see that if I was seeing these ladies often in a short space of time it would more quickly feel like being with a friend.

Maybe the idea of paying for sex with a friend troubles you? The sexual business relationship origins of having met someone I started to become friends with did trouble me up to a point. But I was never bored with them. What bothered me was becoming fond of someone I had met as an escort and knowing that had to be controlled since the nature of the relationship meant it could go no further without becoming very troubling.

But yes, as many have said many times, access in this hobby is too easy and addicting. It can be years down the road before you've realized how much time it has absorbed and how many real opportunities for something more real and possibly much more permanent have been missed just because the hobby is so easy to continue. After awhile the ease of seeing and having sex with beautiful women on demand can make one very jaded about the hard work it takes to keep a real relationship and the likelihood you will have disappointments/failures trying to find the right person. Some people give up on finding something real.

If you are becoming dependent on the hobby and you do want something real then stop hobbying before you become too dependent.

It's like I get into married for 10 years mode, but only after 5 meetings.

On the other hand maybe you should scratch all of the above because you are the type that needs someone new for excitement after a very short time every time. Are you just the sexual bumble bee type?

Stop hobbying MA, it seems that hobby starts decreasing your capacity to have a normal relationship later...

You can't see 100girls/year in this "quick fuck and pay" way and dating no girl in a normal way without changing irreversibly the way you see women and m/w relationships..

I know you know that one day you will have to stop all these shits, the sooner will be the better...

As I said about becoming...jaded. The above is definitely the biggest trap of the hobby.

Maybe i am totally wrong...i am not the type of girl who like to have several lovers at the same time..when i am good in a relationship, i stay faith with the guy...

DAMN!!! First Nikita now this. I need a break. C'mon Alyssa, I promise not to get too attached.

Good luck,

Merlot