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jimthewolf

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Yes I know, my title is click + bait. But I wanted an update on this!!

1. Are you in a relationship?
2. Why are you doing it? Do you even know (I'm not.. and i'm not judging anyone on this)
3. Does someone know about it
4. Do you have a plan? More? Less? Stop? Go on with it?
4. What about anxiety that comes with? How do you deal with it? Do you have anxiety about it?
 
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Carmine Falcone

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1. Yes, I'm in a relationship with my dick
2. I do it because my dick wants it
3. My dick knows
4. I dont have a plan, but my dick might have a few ones
5. My dick never suffered from anxiety
 

Jericho_2021

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Yes I know, my title is click + bait. But I wanted an update on this!!

1. Are you in a relationship?
2. Why are you doing it? Do you even know (I'm not.. and i'm not judging anyone on this)
3. Does someone know about it
4. Do you have a plan? More? Less? Stop? Go on with it?
4. What about anxiety that comes with? How do you deal with it? Do you have anxiety about it?
1.No, just got divorced after years of marriage
2.No strings attached. Enjoying what I need (some great time with a woman), when I need it, the way I need it.
3.Some do (those who are open-minded). Some do not (those who are not)
4.No special plan. I enjoy it when need be. Not an addiction, in my case, therefore I do not need to think about whether I should stop, or control anything about it.
It is a hobby, not something to take seriously, therefore I do not have any plan for it.
5.Interesting question. I guess I would have been anxious if I was in a relationship, which would not happen as I would never stay in such a relationship (if you need to cheat, what are you doing there, then?). So No, no anxiety.
 

DouMan

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Yes I know, my title is click + bait. But I wanted an update on this!!

1. Are you in a relationship?
2. Why are you doing it? Do you even know (I'm not.. and i'm not judging anyone on this)
3. Does someone know about it
4. Do you have a plan? More? Less? Stop? Go on with it?
4. What about anxiety that comes with? How do you deal with it? Do you have anxiety about it?
1 - was
2 - see #1
3 - see #1
4 - RRSP
5 - mostly blue chip
 

Fradi

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1 No relationship don’t need or want one for now, perfectly happy with the SP I am seeing.
2 Because it feels great.
3. A few friends that kept wanting to set me up with their wives friends, not interested, after I showed them a few photographs they stopped. None of their wives friends came remotely close to the SP I am seeing.
4. Keep doing it as long as it feels this good.
5. The only anxiety I have is for the days to pass quicker when I am scheduled to meet someone.
 

Numerati

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1. Are you in a relationship? Yes. I am married.
2. Why are you doing it? Do you even know (I'm not.. and i'm not judging anyone on this) Got the need to bang hot girls out of my system.
3. Does someone know about it. Yeah my wife knows I was in the hobby.
4. Do you have a plan? More? Less? Stop? Go on with it? I had my fun in this hobby and helped me get it out of my system. But I will remain in the hobby though by being on merb. That is as far I am going to go. LOL.
4. What about anxiety that comes with? How do you deal with it? Do you have anxiety about it? Anxiety? Nope. None.
 

envelopes

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Yes I know, my title is click + bait. But I wanted an update on this!!

1. Are you in a relationship?
2. Why are you doing it? Do you even know (I'm not.. and i'm not judging anyone on this)
3. Does someone know about it
4. Do you have a plan? More? Less? Stop? Go on with it?
4. What about anxiety that comes with? How do you deal with it? Do you have anxiety about it?

1. nope, but divorced twice already and im 33 lol. it's a bit tiring. i'm tindering and hobbying, haven't been in a real relationship in a while
2. fucking hot girls is fun?
3. only the SPs and the bookers. and one of my coworkers who saw a girl coming to my hotel room, but we're pretty close friends, pretty sure she hasn't told anyone
4. MORE. I used to see 2-3 SPs my entire trip. Now I see 2-3 per day lol
5. why would i have anxiety?
 

mat514

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1. Are you in a relationship? Never married, been single the last 4 years
2. Why are you doing it? To fulfill my fantasies in fucking the youngest & slender white girls
3. Does someone know about it Not a soul
4. Do you have a plan? More? Less? Stop? Go on with it? Keep going until I settle in a new long term relationship
4. What about anxiety that comes with? How do you deal with it? Do you have anxiety about it? No anxiety
 

mcgubbins

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I'm going to preface this with a bit of background in case it helps anyone else in a similar situation. I'm mid-forties, married, 3 kids. My partner and I have been doing some form of consensual non-monogamy for the past 5 years. We communicate well and are good co-parents, but something changed in the 3 years since our last kid, and the few times we were intimate, I could tell she wasn't into it the same way she used to be. She finally admitted that she identifies as non-binary and is no longer attracted to (cis) men. That was about 6 months ago. She's currently in a relationship with another non-binary AFAB person (if you want a mental picture, think "lesbians that look like John Goodman" and you'll be close). Either way, we're not having sex anymore.

I was free to date since we opened up, but there just aren't many women out there interested in dating someone in my situation. A full-time job and three kids means I have very little time to myself for activities where I might meet someone like-minded. On top of that, I have an anxiety disorder that makes meeting women in bars, cafes, bookstores, etc. just not possible. You can't really chat someone up when you're in the middle of a panic attack. So that leaves online dating, which gives me roughly one first date per year. I explained all of this to my wife after she dropped her bombshell and told her I wanted to explore seeing a professional sex worker and she was fine with it.

The first time I was an absolute wreck. My anxiety was in full swing and I had trouble being in the moment. I had read a lot of forum posts, articles, even a book ("The Intimate Adventures of a London Call GIrl" - it's pretty entertaining, but very different from how the business works here). That didn't prepare me for being suddenly naked with probably the most attractive girl I'd ever talked to. I picked a respected agency and a highly rated girl, but I hadn't considered the fact that my own physical reaction to the situation would prevent me from getting what I came for (i.e. couldn't keep an erection). :-(

The second time I was prepared. I got myself a Viagra prescription, and tried it out a couple times solo to see how much I should take. I finally booked an appointment with a different girl. I took the afternoon off that day to mentally prepare, took the pills* to physically prepare, vaped a bit of weed for my anxiety and... it was great! I was able to tell her up front that I needed some time to relax and connect first, and from there the experience unfolded naturally and was not much different from first-time sex with a new girlfriend.

*I discovered that one of the side-effects of Viagra is nasal and sinus congestion, so I also take a decongestant and use a nasal spray.

I'm still on the apps. I will still pursue dating opportunities when they present themselves, but I know from experience that if I go too long without intimacy, I become desperate and over-invested in every interaction that could possibly lead to sex. It's bad for my mental health, and it makes me come off as a needy chump, which is definitely not attractive. So, I've budgeted for a monthly appointment with a service provider so that no matter what happens, I've at least got that to look forward to. If I meet someone and that leads to having a regular, fulfilling sex life, then I think I'll stop. Unless she's up for a threesome. :)
 

bodick7

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I had and still have only one GF in my life.
She is about 10 years older than me, I still love her and I find she is still my firecracker. I love her intense eyes, generous lips and she enjoy life.
She was a very passionate woman before and I never had to look for someone else for sex.
15 years ago she went through menopause and It killed all her libido. Not her fault, not mine either.
As she told me maybe it would maybe comeback, I waited desperately during 4 years…
I finally jumped over the fence.
I told her twice.She understood, took it and still is with me because she loves me.
Now it’s not better or worst. It is just ok and it’s all right.
One day, my libido will be away for good. Everything will continue to be ok as it should.
That’s life.

I was anxious before but not anymore because things naturally falls in place as time goes by.
 
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wiinston17

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1. Are you in a relationship?
Yes, married and monogamous since 2016 (until like about 1 week ago). I used to see SPs for little bit prior to getting married.

2. Why are you doing it? Do you even know (I'm not.. and i'm not judging anyone on this)
I would have never believed it if you told me that my marriage would end up in a dead bedroom (literally once per year on average). I tried talking to her about roleplay, party favours, opening the relationship to spice things up all the way to counselling (alone and couples therapy) but to no avail.

3. Does someone know about it
No, hopefully it stays this way while I figure stuff out (doubling down on the marriage, opening it or divorce)

4. Do you have a plan? More? Less? Stop? Go on with it?
Probably more. My wife is 8 years older than me so her libido ain't coming back anytime soon.

5. What about anxiety that comes with? How do you deal with it? Do you have anxiety about it?
Mainly STIs. When I set out to deviate from the path of righteousness LOL, I told myself no kissing, no bbbj, no DATY/O as to no transmit anything to my partner but that ended up being a complete joke given the amazing quality of the service we have today. Now I'm just waiting on my 2 weeks so I can go get checked.The only saving grace to a dead bedroom is that there is literally no risk of transmitting STIs to a "Sex Object" (someone who always objects to sex).

There is also the moral side of the story. I am still in the process of owning up to who I am as I was always against extra marital affairs (SW included).
 
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stephane80

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1. Are you in a relationship?
Yes. Been with the same person for over a decade. I love her and couldn't see myself live without her.

2. Why are you doing it? Do you even know (I'm not.. and i'm not judging anyone on this)
Although it's true that our sex life has been slowing down to about once every two weeks, I wouldn't say I'm unsatisfied with her. Actually I quite rarely see SPs, and when I do it's usually more to fulfill specific fantasies I have that my girlfriend can't provide : tantric massages, threesomes, asian women, and greek (which I've never actually had with an SP yet, because it's expensive and rarely offered). Tantric massages is what I prefer and is pretty much what I've been doing almost exclusively in the past 3-4 years. I like it because It's all about my pleasure, it's 100% safe and it's something I wouldn't be comfortable asking my GF. There's is a sense of freedom and adventure that comes with doing, which is really the high that keeps me coming back. On the other hand, I kind of got tired of escorts too, I've had a lot of lame experiences where you basically feel like you're jerking off with someone's body. So I'm pickier now. And the prices have gotten so high... Not that the workers don't deserve it, it's just hard to justify regular hobbying at those prices. I'd rather pay 800 once a year for an amazing threesome experience.

3. Does someone know about it
Not a soul in the entire world. Never told anyone, never even alluded to it, and I avoided the subject whenever it's brought up.

4. Do you have a plan? More? Less? Stop? Go on with it?
Well, I did make the conscious decision to stick with a tantric massage, and only see SPs very occasionally, like when I travel, or perhaps for a threesome once a year or so. I'm thinking this will be my plan for the next few years. I think if there were more quality tantric providers in Montreal, I'd be tempted to do it more frequently.

4. What about anxiety that comes with? How do you deal with it? Do you have anxiety about it?
I used to get nervous about STDs but since switching to mostly tantric massages it's not a problem anymore. I also only hobby when my GF is out of town for at least one night, and would only see SPs or do a threesome if I know she's gone for at least a week, so if I have begin to have symptoms I can get tested.
 

dtaddict

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Are you in a relationship?
Yes, I'm in my 40s, married, with children

Why are you doing it?
1) I do it because I am attracted to young 18-21 yo white girls with a slim or well toned profile, with that comes college girl / step daughter / office intern fantasies and I have the means to fulfill my fantasies
2) I do it because I love the domination and visual of an older but still muscular and fit hairy man like me in contrast to a young white innocent girl with baby soft glowing skin
3) To make these women do to me what my wife doesnt anymore. I enjoy a solid bbbj/dt/ff/cim/sw/tp lasting anywhere from 30mins to 1hr whereas for my wife this is a chore and she cant blow me for more than 5 minutes.


Does someone know about it
No

Do you have a plan?
More more and more
I resort first to sugar daddy / sugar babe dating apps, but when I have less time for the thrill of chasing, will resort to esorts

What about anxiety that comes with?
None. I consider myself a very lucky person to have the means to enjoy this lifestyle.
 
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1. Are you in a relationship? Married 2 kids

2. Why are you doing it? Dead bedroom

3. Does someone know about it? A few hobby buddies

4. Do you have a plan? More? Less? Stop? Go on with it? Keep doing it until I drop dead, I love my wife and kids

4. What about anxiety that comes with? How do you deal with it? Do you have anxiety about it? Having anxiety having a great time with beautiful ladies?! :D :D :D my wife trust me enough
 

vanhamm

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I been doing SP since 1993 in between girlfriends, yes this might comes as a surprise but i never cheated on any of my girlfriends, yet been cheated on so many times.

Relationships: might be just me but everything i met since 2013 as been quit awful, i am having a very hard time understanding how relationships between men and women have change so much and why we now call a 6 month relationship long term.

Guess online dating (which is not the best place to meet) opened my eyes on things in this era, when you see members go offline then back on a few months later.

People have huge baggage kids, some have good jobs others have no jobs, but they seem to want the impossible.

The women i been introduce to where no better, sadly 50 y old women who brought her accomplishments with her how much money she made claiming to be an alpha women, being in demand men wanted her yet she been and still is single since 2009. A Romanian women 45 who needed to get married quick due to her visa expiration, a 46y old women more interested in going on girls night then meeting a man when for some odd reason she was the one that approached me.

I am close to 6 feet and build been lifting for 37 years and i never ever been rejected like i have since 2013.

Right now i am doing nothing and i called it quits also on booking SP due to price.... i check all i can get with the price of 1h of sex and sometimes its insane. Food training supplement, gym equipment for my home gym

BTW if you reply stupidity i just put you in the ignore list, lots of you have no life and live off trying to flame people so many pathetic people on earth
 
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TheJames101

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The women i been introduce to where no better, sadly 50 y old women who brought her accomplishments with her how much money she made claiming to be an alpha women, being in demand men wanted her yet she been and still is single since 2009. A Romanian women 45 who needed to get married quick due to her visa expiration, a 46y old women more interested in going on girls night then meeting a man when for some odd reason she was the one that approached me.

Damn dude, have you written any posts where you're not whining/complaining about something?
 

bobbyc

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your right i have read many of is posts and is life must be miserable when he's around woman, wtf i must be doing something wrong because i enjoy woman i love woman i have a good time with woman and even if i'm not a young stud anymore woman seem to enjoy themselves in my company, i think it's all about attitude and how you project yourself around woman and by reading most of his posts he has a lot to work on, if your going to the plate with 3 strikes you'll never hit a homerun gees life is short don't waste it woman is one of the reasons i love life
 
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hello123

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Question 1:
Don’t intend to have the modern type of relationship. If I do, then I have learnt nothing the past 12 years.

Question 2:
The rationale changed over the years. The time and cost, financially and emotionally, associated with having a girlfriend was a risk, rather than a reward. More importantly, if everyone else was waking up to sunshine and rainbows every morning next to their significant other, then maybe I am the loser. But that is not the case. In my lifetime, I have witnessed the global destruction of the joint-family, the nuclear-family, relationships, and now friendships. I see a coming world of more isolation, censorship, and gentrification. And I am prepared.

Discovering escorts was a gift from God. It granted me the adventure of a lifetime. I never knew I could be so consistent with an activity. Initially, it was an upgrade from masturbating seven times a day to porn. Then I realized, nowhere else can I get this many hours of intimate practice with so many options. I outsourced my sexlife to agencies and focused on myself. The social skills and confidence gained as a result, have been successfully translated into all other areas of my life, and I am reaping the benefits handsomly. This was a paradigm shift.

Why do I do it? It was destiny.

Question 3:
Some have whiffs, but to what extent nobody knows. I think women can pick it up better than men. They know something is off.

Question 4:
Philosophers, educators, and scientists alike have often said that what a woman wants is beyond man’s comprehension. Pick up any romantic novel from a bookstore, and you can learn more about women than what intellectual nerds and virgins can ever hope to teach you. This is what women read in their free time. It’s a peak behind the curtain, which is the woman’s subconscious. Women from every corner of the world have voted with their hard earned money for Fifty Shades of Grey and Twilight. This is of profound importance.

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Question 5:
Anxiety comes from hopelessness. What you’ve been taught as a child vs. what is, does not match. The disconnect between expectations and reality is causing cognitive dissonance. Time to cut the umbilical cord to the past. You need a new fresh mindset and look at the possibilities ahead. Pat yourself on the back for even having the balls to see escorts. Most men won’t.

I applaud all Escorts for having the courage to stand up and say, “Enough is enough!” You decided to take things into your own hands by striving for a better future. You didn’t look for a handout or an excuse.

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