Erectile dysfunction, death grip , too much fap what is it lol

[treesx]

So I never thought I'll ever have trouble with getting an erection and Cumming but here I am.

A bit of a background, mid 40s recently divorced.
Divorce has been devastating mentally. Going much better now.
Sex has always been awful with ex so always relied on myself.
That is, normally twice in the shower weekly with hot water manually.

I have noticed recently that it takes longer and it's much harder to get a hard on and cumming. Can't hardly cum multiple times either. Also I think I'm getting desensitized.

I was sure it was a problem of erectile dysfunction but now am not sure if it's also a problem of 'death grip'.
Any recommendations guys ? I have bought a pump but not sure if it'll help or make the matter worse.
So confused. And I thought that being divorced now I was going to be able to enjoy it more.

I'm in shape no history of high blood pressure.
But I do sleep very little. 4-5 hours daily.
I was thinking of getting treatment at elna sexual wellness but don't know if it's really a erectile problem and how costly it is. Or just stop masturbating. Not interested in meds if I can treat it otherwise.
Thought of going to see sp/ mp if it could help but really don't know.
Or maybe testosterone therapy

Any help advice is appreciated thanks !!

 

[redfried]

Hi
I can relate to your situation. I'm early 50's. A few years ago, I went through the same issue.
After years of intense sex consumption (including internet porn), i started having erectile problems.
Without any medication or therapy, i stopped internet porn, and i've slowed down my encounters quite a bit.
I don't fap as often as i used to. I try to have a moment instead of just releasing the pressure every time i feel the need.
As for meetings, I take the time to choose the person with whom I want to have this experience. I need to look for an exchange other than just sex.
All of this has meant that I still have satisfying experiences.

So, in my case, I accepted that I have gotten older.

 

[Jazzman1218]

So I never thought I'll ever have trouble with getting an erection and Cumming but here I am.

A bit of a background, mid 40s recently divorced.
Divorce has been devastating mentally. Going much better now.
Sex has always been awful with ex so always relied on myself.
That is, normally twice in the shower weekly with hot water manually.

I have noticed recently that it takes longer and it's much harder to get a hard on and cumming. Can't hardly cum multiple times either. Also I think I'm getting desensitized.

I was sure it was a problem of erectile dysfunction but now am not sure if it's also a problem of 'death grip'.
Any recommendations guys ? I have bought a pump but not sure if it'll help or make the matter worse.
So confused. And I thought that being divorced now I was going to be able to enjoy it more.

I'm in shape no history of high blood pressure.
But I do sleep very little. 4-5 hours daily.
I was thinking of getting treatment at elna sexual wellness but don't know if it's really a erectile problem and how costly it is. Or just stop masturbating. Not interested in meds if I can treat it otherwise.
Thought of going to see sp/ mp if it could help but really don't know.
Or maybe testosterone therapy

Any help advice is appreciated thanks !!

My initial reaction is this is likely a combination of stress and insomnolence. Increased exercise could be helpful with stress relief. Stress reduction, eliminating alcohol, and a hot shower before bed could be helpful with sleep. Be very careful with T injections unless you have documented low T by blood testing and are under a physician's care. Sex with a professional is almost never a bad idea so that I would endorse wholeheartedly. Good luck.

 

[Mefy]

I am not a doctor or therapist but this might help you.

For 30 to 90 days

No Porn.
No Masturbation.
No edging.

Reset your soul.
Your body should be refreshed and updated.
You should be horny by then just by looking at most girls you find attractive and get a boner easily.

Then book the hottest SP and have fun.

 

[Cap'tain Fantastic]

In your mid 40s and being a non smoker should eliminate most physical conditions, but getting a prostate check regularly is a must do. I am almost 20 years older than you and I smoke, but I keep a fairly good physical shape and diet.

I do get the occasional failure but I’ve learned to overlook it and usually my boner shows back after emptying my upper head and I can pursue. I would say if you still get morning wood or the middle of the night boner, no need to worry, it’s not physical.

Just try to get better night sleep, stop thinking about it, get rid of all the mental negativity you may still have from your divorce. Do something else for a little while your confidence will come back. Sex is 99% between the ears.

 

[treesx]

I am not a doctor or therapist but this might help you.

For 30 to 90 days

No Porn.
No Masturbation.
No edging.

Reset your soul.
Your body should be refreshed and updated.
You should be horny by then just by looking at most girls you find attractive and get a boner easily.

Then book the hottest SP and have fun.

Omg and I thought that I could do whatever I ever dreamed of after my divorce.
So much for freedom
Hopefully it'll come back.
The most no fap I've done so far was a week. Will have to toughen up.
And I actually thought the opposite, I should do more. To get it to come back

 

[treesx]

In your mid 40s and being a non smoker should eliminate most physical conditions, but getting a prostate check regularly is a must do. I am almost 20 years older than you and I smoke, but I keep a fairly good physical shape and diet.

I do get the occasional failure but I’ve learned to overlook it and usually my boner shows back after emptying my upper head and I can pursue. I would say if you still get morning wood or the middle of the night boner, no need to worry, it’s not physical.

Just try to get better night sleep, stop thinking about it, get rid of all the mental negativity you may still have from your divorce. Do something else for a little while your confidence will come back. Sex is 99% between the ears.

Exactly, no alcohol, cigarettes drugs and even coffee. Not that the latter is bad but anyways.
When I speak to some people i do get the hard on. But it seems like I can't get it when I want to.
Will have to try to work on my sleep. Just a late sleeper. Nothing else .

Will try yoga or something like that to clear the mind.

 

[Mefy]

It might be a psychological problem only, because physically you're in shape with low blood pressure...

Psychological causes of erectile dysfunction​

The brain plays a key role in triggering the series of physical events that cause an erection, starting with feelings of sexual excitement. A number of things can interfere with sexual feelings and cause or worsen erectile dysfunction. These include:

Your divorce might be the cause.

-Depression, anxiety or other mental health conditions
-Stress
-Relationship problems due to stress.

 

[Mefy]

HAS ANYONE TRIED BOTOX INJECTIONS ON THE DICK, WHO CAN COMMENT ON THE RESULTS?? YOU CAN MAKE IT TO LAST ANYWHERE FROM 6MONTHS TO ONE YEAR DEPENDING ON AMOUNT. YOUTUBE IT.

Nope! lol
Does it hurt?

 

[treesx]

It might be a psychological problem only, because physically you're in shape with low blood pressure...

Psychological causes of erectile dysfunction​

The brain plays a key role in triggering the series of physical events that cause an erection, starting with feelings of sexual excitement. A number of things can interfere with sexual feelings and cause or worsen erectile dysfunction. These include:

Your divorce might be the cause.

-Depression, anxiety or other mental health conditions
-Stress
-Relationship problems due to stress.

I think I am past that in my divorce. I hope . It was devastating but it's been around a year and I don't miss her that much.
I've moved on thankfully. Most likely cause I think is the lack of sleep. That is new for the last few months. Averaging 4 hours a night, chatting online.
With no nap during the day. That is when things got worse to the point I couldn't have a hard on yesterday.
My dad had prostate cancer before. Looked it up and it could also be related but at this point I don't think so. BP is 120/80 this morning.

 

[treesx]

HAS ANYONE TRIED BOTOX INJECTIONS ON THE DICK, WHO CAN COMMENT ON THE RESULTS?? YOU CAN MAKE IT TO LAST ANYWHERE FROM 6MONTHS TO ONE YEAR DEPENDING ON AMOUNT. YOUTUBE IT.

I don't know, I'll do whatever I have control on before trying botox or taking pills.
If it's because of my bad habits sleep, eat, exercise, consumption or whatever I can control I'll do it that way first.
Right now will try to correct sleep habits and fap. Both very hard to control lol

 

[believe]

My philosphy is that it takes a patient really pretty lady and all is solved...many on board reviews will help you get over it...

 

[Mefy]

I think I am past that in my divorce. I hope . It was devastating but it's been around a year and I don't miss her that much.
I've moved on thankfully. Most likely cause I think is the lack of sleep. That is new for the last few months. Averaging 4 hours a night, chatting online.
With no nap during the day. That is when things got worse to the point I couldn't have a hard on yesterday.
My dad had prostate cancer before. Looked it up and it could also be related but at this point I don't think so. BP is 120/80 this morning.

I'm sure you're going to be OK!!!
You got all my support!

/cheers!

 

[AirBo]

I just turned 50.
Sports have always been part of my life. I'm in shape and I have a good cardio.
I sleep a minimum of 6h per night, ideally 8.
My job doesn't stress me.
My family doesn't stress me.
I eat healthy pretty much all the time.
Porn has always been part of my life but I'm not a huge consumer.
My libido went down over the last few years. I can go a couple of weeks without jerking off. I even managed a whole month (once!).
I can drink alcohol and/or smoke weed before sex, but reasonably.
I also have a wild sexual imagination that keeps me going.

I never had any erectile dysfunction... I'm actually hard as a rock... maybe I'm just lucky... but I think it's a combination of the above. The older you get, the more every little detail counts.

I will pop a blue pill before sex, mostly in case the SP manages to make me cum too early.

 

[bodick7]

HAS ANYONE TRIED BOTOX INJECTIONS ON THE DICK, WHO CAN COMMENT ON THE RESULTS?? YOU CAN MAKE IT TO LAST ANYWHERE FROM 6MONTHS TO ONE YEAR DEPENDING ON AMOUNT. YOUTUBE IT.

I wouldn't do so. I would guess being constantly hard without libido would be be somewhat annoying.
Imagine going to gym in this condition...

I'm 58. My libido is like a roller coaster ride these days but I don't experience much problems.
I sometimes lost some sensitivities but not completely. Last time it was just before putting condom. I asked the girl to get me hard again which she executed admirably.
Then when I was in, it wasn't getting much better but enough to have some fun. Girl too
At that time, I try to switch to a position I know I can get the most sensations (like doggy).

I do crossfit training pretty much everyday.
Maybe I should get back on wod prep again for training and sessions.
I believe it helps maintaining proper testosterone level to have good sessions.
In my case, I never exceeded more than 2 days without jerking off.
With time I developed a routine to get explosive endings which suits me well.
I don't take any pills so far and I'm thankful to my parents for this great genetics.
Oh...I drink a bottle of wine everyday...

 

[MCTJ]

Sexual dysfunction is much more common than we think, and most of the time it won't appear in a review on this board... So for every review describing how such and such positions were great, there's a bunch of other cases where the guy couldn't get hard or came within 1 minute. Ask any SP...

 

[bodick7]

Sexual dysfunction is much more common than we think, and most of the time it won't appear in a review on this board... So for every review describing how such and such positions were great, there's a bunch of other cases where the guy couldn't get hard or came within 1 minute. Ask any SP...

A couple of months ago, I had a session which I was very excited and I came within let say 2-3 minutes. Which is very unusual for me.
I remember the girl (a favorite) told me: “That was almost as fast as my BF”…

 

[MCTJ]

A couple of months ago, I had a session which I was very excited and I came within let say 2-3 minutes. Which is very unusual for me.
I remember the girl (a favorite) told me: “That was almost as fast as my BF”…

It's hard to get a precise number but when you look it up, the average duration of intercourse (in scientific studies) is around 5 minutes.

 

[Mefy]

It's hard to get a precise number but when you look it up, the average duration of intercourse (in scientific studies) is around 5 minutes.

100% agreed!

If I cum fast, this is my routine and depending on the girl.

60 mins session

-Foreplay: ~10 mins

-First SOG: ~5 mins
(damn! Can’t handle her.. she’s too hot)

Foreplay: ~10 mins

MSOG: 15+++ mins (Intense actions)

Rinse and repeat !

 

[bodick7]

Nowadays, I tend to do 15 to20 minutes
Before pandemia, I had extra long sessions of an hour without interruption.
I changed condom after 20-30 minutes. Lady got me hard again with her mouth, got a new hat and resumed main event.
I was taking a 90 minutes including shower and foreplay