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Sexual dysfunction is much more common than we think, and most of the time it won't appear in a review on this board... So for every review describing how such and such positions were great, there's a bunch of other cases where the guy couldn't get hard or came within 1 minute. Ask any SP...
And it's an issue! It's 2024, kids are blurring the lines when it comes to sexuality and gender, but grown up guys are still afraid or embarrassed to talk about erectile dysfunction although it is very common. It's pretty sad... I would have loved to know this would happen sooner or later, I would have loved to have male friends to discuss it with.
 

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Low sensitivity? That sounds like you have lower testosterone. You need to get a testosterone test. Thanks to an underactive pituitary gland, I've had the same problem. HCG restored sensitivity for me. Without it, I would have almost none.
 
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Tips for performance:

-Eat well. No processed shit. Lots of fruits/veggies. Cut out refined grains, processed sugar, fried food, seed oils.

- vitiman d/k and zinc for testorone production. Also boron

- Arginine/citriliine for NO production. Watermelon is high in citriluline!

- I would do research mechanism for how viagra works. It inhibits a biochemical process that results in blood leaving your dick. In other words, it only helps you maitain your wood once you get it. Quercitin is a natural version of viagra/cialis in that it has a similar action.

-Take natural supplements before you take pharmacueticals. Do your research before taking. Tongkat ali, awshagnada, gingsing, macca, are examples known to increase male libido. You can find pills with combinations of these at health food stores. "Green lumber" is example you can buy online

- lose belly fat and exercise to increase testosterone, decrease estrogen, improve blood flow

- get sunlight - needed for vitiman d and help replenish dopamine

- STOP JERKING OFF TO PORN. This is a hyperstimulous that burns out dopamine receptors in your brain. Then when with a real woman, she cant give you the same arousal that you get from porn. Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction is a real thing. There is long thread about this in the lounge, and plenty you can read online and on youtube about PIED and "dopamine reset". Good news - this is reversible if you stop watching porn. You may need to do no fap for 30 to 90 days.

www.yourbrainonporn.com

- breathing excersices. Stress and cortisol is a boner killer. Before you go to see a women, mentally clear your mind of your day, do breathing excersices to lower cortisol

- get good sleep regularily. Needed for stress recovery, testosterone production, growth hormone production (which happens mainly when you sleep).

- Dirty insider secret: GOOD SLEEP IS THE ULTIMATE PERFORMANCE ENHANCING DRUG!

- My personal nightly smoothie: fruit, raw honey, vit c, quercitin, cacao, zinc, magnesium, theonine, boron, greens+ powder, ground chia seed, maca. Variations based around these.


Things that are good for your overall health are also good for your sexual health and vice versa. Coincidence? :)

All this is more work than popping a pill, but you will be better off in the long term.

Better to avoid any pharmacueticals if you dont need them. Remember - the pharmacuetical industry thrives on covering up symptoms, not fixing root causes. Once you start taking them, you may get dependent on them as a crutch.

Also these ED drugs (like most drugs) lose effectiveness after a few years (no one ever tells you this) and you may have to keep increasing dosage. So if you ever do actually need it as an older man, it may not work for you the same.

Save the pharmacueticals for when you actually need them - their interest is to keep you coming back, not actually help you solve root causes and improve as a man.
 
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bodick7

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Tips for performance:

-Eat well. No processed shit. Lots of fruits/veggies. Cut out refined grains, processed sugar, fried food, seed oils.

- vitiman d/k and zinc for testorone production. Also boron

- Arginine/citriliine for NO production. Watermelon is high in citriluline!

- I would do research mechanism for how viagra works. It inhibits a biochemical process that results in blood leaving your dick. In other words, it only helps you maitain your wood once you get it. Quercitin is a natural version of viagra/cialis in that it has a similar action.

-Take natural supplements before you take pharmacueticals. Do your research before taking. Tongkat ali, awshagnada, gingsing, macca, are examples known to increase male libido. You can find pills with combinations of these at health food stores. "Green lumber" is example you can buy online

- lose belly fat and exercise to increase testosterone, decrease estrogen, improve blood flow

- get sunlight - needed for vitiman d and help replenish dopamine

- STOP JERKING OFF TO PORN. This is a hyperstimulous that burns out dopamine receptors in your brain. Then when with a real woman, she cant give you the same arousal that you get from porn. Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction is a real thing. There is long thread about this in the lounge, and plenty you can read online and on youtube about PIED and "dopamine reset". Good news - this is reversible if you stop watching porn. You may need to do no fap for 30 to 90 days.

www.yourbrainonporn.com

- breathing excersices. Stress and cortisol is a boner killer. Before you go to see a women, mentally clear your mind of your day, do breathing excersices to lower cortisol

- get good sleep regularily. Needed for stress recovery, testosterone production, growth hormone production (which happens mainly when you sleep).

- Dirty insider secret: GOOD SLEEP IS THE ULTIMATE PERFORMANCE ENHANCING DRUG!

- My personal nightly smoothie: fruit, raw honey, vit c, quercitin, cacao, zinc, magnesium, theonine, boron, greens+ powder, ground chia seed, maca. Variations based around these.


Things that are good for your overall health are also good for your sexual health and vice versa. Coincidence? :)

All this is more work than popping a pill, but you will be better off in the long term.

Better to avoid any pharmacueticals if you dont need them. Remember - the pharmacuetical industry thrives on covering up symptoms, not fixing root causes. Once you start taking them, you may get dependent on them as a crutch.

Also these ED drugs (like most drugs) lose effectiveness after a few years (no one ever tells you this) and you may have to keep increasing dosage. So if you ever do actually need it as an older man, it may not work for you the same.

Save the pharmacueticals for when you actually need them - their interest is to keep you coming back, not actually help you solve root causes and improve as a man.
If I can add something to this very extensive list, at session day I usually warm up the sex machine before session:
- Have maca in morning
- Masturbate (without jerking off of course) by anticipating action with my lovely partner. I do it even if I'm not in the mood. It really help me get in the mood and also help to have explosive endings. Repeat as needed.
- Take wod prep (watch for active ingredients as in the above list) an hour before. Choose good ones with certified ingredients.
- My body energy peaks around noon. This is the time I usually book.

Don't really know if maca is working for libido but at least it's not bad.
Gentlemen, start your engines.:)
 
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There is a spider that may help with ED.


According to a 2007 report by Live Science, a Brazilian wandering spider's venom stimulates a painful, hours-long erection. The venom boosts nitric oxide, a chemical that increases blood flow. Considered one of the deadliest spiders on the planet, its scientific name, Phoneutria, is Greek for "murderess."Aug 11, 2023

I have a fear of spiders and search countries I visit.
 
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bodick7

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There is a spider that may help with ED.


According to a 2007 report by Live Science, a Brazilian wandering spider's venom stimulates a painful, hours-long erection. The venom boosts nitric oxide, a chemical that increases blood flow. Considered one of the deadliest spiders on the planet, its scientific name, Phoneutria, is Greek for "murderess."Aug 11, 2023

I have a fear of spiders and search countries I visit.
I’ll stick with wod prep. Ha!Ha!
 

NewSteam

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I used to have the same problem. I'm 28, slightly athletic and I workout 4 days/week. Had ED and very delayed ejaculation. I'm talking 45 minutes of intercourse and I cannot finish unless I finish myself off with my hand.


The ED is easy to fix,
stop watching porn (even images) If you want stimulation during masturbation look at clothed beautiful women.
masturbate as much as you want but don't death grip. If you can't prevent the death grip masturbate with the other hand and another technique. If you can't finish using your other hand you are probably death gripping.
consider using a c-ring, they are amazing for some people (me included. I suspect I have slight venous leak, might be helpful for you to research if you are young and have ED and see this comment)
consider taking 5mg daily tadalafil.
also you need to exercise but I doubt my comment will single handedly make you start exercising as you most likely already know that you should.

Happy humping
 
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treesx

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So here's an update.
I think i still have ED because i cant really have a hard on by myself. It takes me a lot of work to get hard and to come. I'm 45.
Never ever had a problem like that before. I have stopped playing with myself for a month but have watched a bit of porn here and there.

Like stated before I'm pretty sure my problem is due to low testosterone level from the lack of sleep. I'm taking maca supplement but not sure it really helps.
Im in a long distance relationship with 3 hours difference and that's why i sleep so little.
Usually up until 3 am and wake up around 7:30 am, no nap in the day, so I have been functioning for the last 6 months with more or less 4-5 hours of sleep daily.

I went to see my girlfriend last week and with her everything's fine. I get a hard on fast and we can do many rounds. But i do have a problem with condom since i dont feel anything and can last way too long with one. Without one no problem, just normal.
So i do still have a problem but not sure how serious it is. We've done it way too many times in four days (like 15 times) and it works fine with her.
But now that i am back by myself it doesn't work again...

I wont do anything for the next month again but thats not really fun. I was thinking of getting viagra, not sure that will help. I got a pump too but I am scared it'll completely desensitize me.
 
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So here's an update.
I think i still have ED because i cant really have a hard on by myself. It takes me a lot of work to get hard and to come. I'm 45.
Never ever had a problem like that before. I have stopped playing with myself for a month but have watched a bit of porn here and there.

Like stated before I'm pretty sure my problem is due to low testosterone level from the lack of sleep. I'm taking maca supplement but not sure it really helps.
Im in a long distance relationship with 3 hours difference and that's why i sleep so little.
Usually up until 3 am and wake up around 7:30 am, no nap in the day, so I have been functioning for the last 6 months with more or less 4-5 hours of sleep daily.

I went to see my girlfriend last week and with her everything's fine. I get a hard on fast and we can do many rounds. But i do have a problem with condom since i dont feel anything and can last way too long with one. Without one no problem, just normal.
So i do still have a problem but not sure how serious it is. We've done it way too many times in four days (like 15 times) and it works fine with her.
But now that i am back by myself it doesn't work again...

I wont do anything for the next month again but thats not really fun. I was thinking of getting viagra, not sure that will help. I got a pump too but I am scared it'll completely desensitize me.
Pump not recommended and in any event, ineffective. Depending on your age, physical condition and if you are taking any meds, best to consult a doctor, have a quick physical and get a Rx in case you have a precondition etc.
 
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Thor Jr

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Pump not recommended and in any event, ineffective. Depending on your age, physical condition and if you are taking any meds, best to consult a doctor, have a quick physical and get a Rx in case you have a precondition etc.
I agree, no pump, no porn and if your cholesterol is high, lower it and as for the sleep, you need it. So find a way to get some.
 
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bodick7

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A good condom helped me. I found some are too thick and I loose sensivity so I stick on a thin brand I like
It depends also on the condition of the moment.
Supposedly weight lifting brings a bit of natural testosterone
 
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Renude

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Bringing back the thread a little. I’m in my mid 40’s.
Had sex with the SO (not SP) and while I stayed hard I didn’t finish. A week later I was with SP (not SO) and came within 15 minutes. The rest of the time I was having issues maintaining a hard on. And she was hot. I would’ve easily finished if I was feeling ok. That’s when I realised I had ED problems. It seemed very sudden. The rest of the month of July I was having issues staying hard, jerking off or having morning wood! I don’t know what happened. Finally last week I saw an MP. Nothing to write home about but she proceeded to undress and finish me with sex. I got inside her and within a couple of minutes I got soft. I tried different positions but couldn’t keep it up. I felt a bit desensitized because of the condom and she was a bit loose. Finally she gave me bj, then removed condom and proceeded with an HJ. I couldn’t finish that way either. But she then did something pretty stimulating, she was massaging my perenium, I quickly came in her hands. Kind of interesting.
So I’d like to know is that what I have to look forward to from now on and if anyone have had similar outcome.

Thanks
 

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Bringing back the thread a little. I’m in my mid 40’s.
massaging my perenium, I quickly came in her hands. Kind of interesting.
So I’d like to know is that what I have to look forward to from now on and if anyone have had similar outcome.

Thanks

pretty much.

i partially recall reading stuff about 'older' men, the women in the field know they gotta tough nut to crack and have to resort to getting their hands dirty to 'finish the job'.

i say that w/ a touch of facetiousness.

sounds like you react to prostate play etc.
 

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Bringing back the thread a little. I’m in my mid 40’s.
Had sex with the SO (not SP) and while I stayed hard I didn’t finish. A week later I was with SP (not SO) and came within 15 minutes. The rest of the time I was having issues maintaining a hard on. And she was hot. I would’ve easily finished if I was feeling ok. That’s when I realised I had ED problems. It seemed very sudden. The rest of the month of July I was having issues staying hard, jerking off or having morning wood! I don’t know what happened. Finally last week I saw an MP. Nothing to write home about but she proceeded to undress and finish me with sex. I got inside her and within a couple of minutes I got soft. I tried different positions but couldn’t keep it up. I felt a bit desensitized because of the condom and she was a bit loose. Finally she gave me bj, then removed condom and proceeded with an HJ. I couldn’t finish that way either. But she then did something pretty stimulating, she was massaging my perenium, I quickly came in her hands. Kind of interesting.
So I’d like to know is that what I have to look forward to from now on and if anyone have had similar outcome.

Thanks
Have you honestly and openly spoken with your doctor?
Could be many things more suited for a Md than a merby
Best of luck bro.
 
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Bringing back the thread a little. I’m in my mid 40’s.
Had sex with the SO (not SP) and while I stayed hard I didn’t finish. A week later I was with SP (not SO) and came within 15 minutes. The rest of the time I was having issues maintaining a hard on. And she was hot. I would’ve easily finished if I was feeling ok. That’s when I realised I had ED problems. It seemed very sudden. The rest of the month of July I was having issues staying hard, jerking off or having morning wood! I don’t know what happened. Finally last week I saw an MP. Nothing to write home about but she proceeded to undress and finish me with sex. I got inside her and within a couple of minutes I got soft. I tried different positions but couldn’t keep it up. I felt a bit desensitized because of the condom and she was a bit loose. Finally she gave me bj, then removed condom and proceeded with an HJ. I couldn’t finish that way either. But she then did something pretty stimulating, she was massaging my perenium, I quickly came in her hands. Kind of interesting.
So I’d like to know is that what I have to look forward to from now on and if anyone have had similar outcome.

Thanks
From the sounds of it, many possible factors can be at play both mentally and physically. Funny thing is that your erotic massage therapist situation sounds a bit familiar to my regular who is also loose down there which does not help matters. Good luck!
 

Renude

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Well, I haven’t seen a urologist yet. It’s very weird when you have a healthy hard on, get hard when excited and now having difficulty getting it up. You’re right, it could be physical or psychological.

I was looking to see if merby’s have had this. After all, with many of you in the hobby so long, it’s very possible to develop this!

@kaboukicho, the MP didn’t get her hands dirty. The Perinium is the part between your scrotum and anus, not inside! ;P
 

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Well, I haven’t seen a urologist yet. It’s very weird when you have a healthy hard on, get hard when excited and now having difficulty getting it up. You’re right, it could be physical or psychological.

I was looking to see if merby’s have had this. After all, with many of you in the hobby so long, it’s very possible to develop this!

@kaboukicho, the MP didn’t get her hands dirty. The Perinium is the part between your scrotum and anus, not inside! ;P
i used it as a figure of speech / pun, NOT literally, like you appear to have went. fully aware where it is, AND also called taint. ;P
 
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