No reason besides "Cold feet" (the expression, lol. Not saying his feet were cold). I did ask 3-4 times if he thinks I'm ugly or if anything is wrong but kept saying no. I don't know. Lol
Etiquette when it comes to... turning away
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No reason besides "Cold feet" (the expression, lol. Not saying his feet were cold). I did ask 3-4 times if he thinks I'm ugly or if anything is wrong but kept saying no. I don't know. Lol
Off the list ? What do you mean ?
Lol
EDIT : Just checked apparently this is an expression used when you lose respect for someone. Wtf ? I never asked for that 120$ if that's your issue. He just did. I dont care wether you respect me or not though.
Lol
EDIT : Just checked apparently this is an expression used when you lose respect for someone. Wtf ? I never asked for that 120$ if that's your issue. He just did. I dont care wether you respect me or not though.
That's plausible with a younger guy, but would not be with anyone over 40 for sure. It was generous of him to give you $120. I have never turned away an SP in my life and I don't have any experience with it but if it happened I would certainly leave more than some other guys have suggested. However, I really do not think it is ever necessary if one does the homework. Bait and switch's and mistakes do happen, so it is a good discussion to have.
Didn't quite believe him either. Oh well. He wasnt over 40 though, or if he was he was quite handsome and well maintained lol.
120 is indeed a lot, I even told him... Almost gave him 80$ back but why ? I'm not going to complain. I got 5$ in the past which I thought was an insult. At this point I'd rather have nothing at all.
120 is indeed a lot, I even told him... Almost gave him 80$ back but why ? I'm not going to complain. I got 5$ in the past which I thought was an insult. At this point I'd rather have nothing at all.
This used to happen all the time before the review boards.
A lot of those guys were quite frightening.
I am surprised this is still going on.
lool, so someone just kept me waiting until 5:45pm telling me he was stuck in traffic and late (meeting was at 5pm)... Only to write me that he made it to my door and had a change of heart because "he's just not the type of guy to pay for sex". Didn't ring the bell, didn't see me in person, didn't offer compensation...
No need to say this is NOT proper etiquette hahaha.
No need to say this is NOT proper etiquette hahaha.
This thread reminds me of a situation many years ago that I still do not know how happened
Had an afternoon date with a longstanding agency at around 1PM.....everything went well
I went to bed early that night and was out like a light......knock on the door that went from soft to banging.....I was kind of "out of it" but opened the door with the safety chain on around 1AM.
Pretty young girl tried to push her way in and I had to fight her back. Then she started asking for money. I thought I was getting robbed or something (I might have had a sleeping pill). She eventually left and I went back to bed.
Next morning I woke up at 100% alertness and was still pretty mystified. Checked the agency website and sure enough the girl from the door was working around 1AM the previous night. Had a similar name to my date from 1PM.
Must have been some booker/driver snafu.
I did not give her $120
Had an afternoon date with a longstanding agency at around 1PM.....everything went well
I went to bed early that night and was out like a light......knock on the door that went from soft to banging.....I was kind of "out of it" but opened the door with the safety chain on around 1AM.
Pretty young girl tried to push her way in and I had to fight her back. Then she started asking for money. I thought I was getting robbed or something (I might have had a sleeping pill). She eventually left and I went back to bed.
Next morning I woke up at 100% alertness and was still pretty mystified. Checked the agency website and sure enough the girl from the door was working around 1AM the previous night. Had a similar name to my date from 1PM.
Must have been some booker/driver snafu.
I did not give her $120
I have turned one girl away in Montreal...or I should say that I walked out on one in-call. It was an Asian agency and the girl's photos turned out to be heavily shopped. She had acne and just looked no where near as good as her photos. I was still going to go through with it but there was another session in the apartment. I was out off in a small room and told to wait there. She was trying to tell me something but couldn't speak English and she couldn't work her translator on her phone...it was a mess. I left a 20$ and walked out.
I have turned away at the door on several occasions and NO, I never gave the SP any compensation. I try to be careful before going to see someone who advertises. An obvious question like, are your pictures genuine ? If the answer is yes, it's me 100% and I show up and it's not even close, why would I give her anything ? When I make arrangements to see someone and I'm going to be late, I call or text when I' 5 mins before the allotted time, I give the girl the opportunity to book someone else and put me at a later time. If she says no, 20 mins later is ok then when I settle for the date, I will add something to the amount for the inconvenience I caused.To reward someone with $20. for deliberately deceiving me would be stupid on my part.
As to Amelie.courtesan and the post "he's just not the type of guy to pay for sex". years ago I met a SW in Boston and bought her a drink. We sat and discussed what she was doing and I had never been with a prostitute in my life, I said the same to her. She asked me if I was married, if I had a home, kids etc and then asked me how often I got laid a week, a month a year and then asked me to consider what all of my lifestyle cost and then divide that by the number of times my wife puts out and I will realize what sex is costing me at home.I did the mental math she was right, sex was actually costing me a fortune, so we do pay for it in one way or another. SP's fulfill a need and they earn an income for what they do, I respect that and enjoy my time with the ones I have seen.
As to Amelie.courtesan and the post "he's just not the type of guy to pay for sex". years ago I met a SW in Boston and bought her a drink. We sat and discussed what she was doing and I had never been with a prostitute in my life, I said the same to her. She asked me if I was married, if I had a home, kids etc and then asked me how often I got laid a week, a month a year and then asked me to consider what all of my lifestyle cost and then divide that by the number of times my wife puts out and I will realize what sex is costing me at home.I did the mental math she was right, sex was actually costing me a fortune, so we do pay for it in one way or another. SP's fulfill a need and they earn an income for what they do, I respect that and enjoy my time with the ones I have seen.
These are two completely different situations. Any provider who uses fake pictures deserves no compensation when I refuse her. If I make an appointment with an accountant and when I show up at his office it turns out he lied about being a cpa, I am going to walk out without paying anything. Be truthful. If you lie, you cannot be upset when the person you lied to walks away.
If the pics are accurate and honest, but I am turned off by her face or for some other reason have a change of heart that has nothing to do with her honest, integrity or health; then I need to make a decision to either proceed with the session at the full fee or walk away after giving her compensation for her time to prepare. I think $40 is generally sufficient, maybe 60. Personally, I might go higher because I care about having a generous reputation. I probably would not have given 120.
If the pics are accurate and honest, but I am turned off by her face or for some other reason have a change of heart that has nothing to do with her honest, integrity or health; then I need to make a decision to either proceed with the session at the full fee or walk away after giving her compensation for her time to prepare. I think $40 is generally sufficient, maybe 60. Personally, I might go higher because I care about having a generous reputation. I probably would not have given 120.
Being married with a family has nothing to do with the amount of times you have sex at home and the cost to you. A huge majority of men are content with sex once a month as it dwindles after time goes on, the minority of men spend thousands on escorts to fill a fantasy.
If I has to choose a past of being married with kids or seeing escorts on a regular basis it would not be a hard choice, even with my rocky divorce. If not for the fact I am away from home a lot I would much rather meet someone who would fuck me because I am me, not because I pay her. Do not get me wrong, I am very thankful for escorts but would never trade for a life without family.
Just my opinion.
If she is really the one in the pics and I'm not really into her face, I will stay. Then it's my fault. I would not turn and walk away ! Fair is fair. I remember going to an incall one time and when I said to the girl , you aren't the girl in the ad, she replied "I never put my own pictures in the ads " , should I stay or even then reward her with some form of compensation ? Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me ! I will never walk away because a girls face is not what I expected, but if the pics are phony, I am outta there
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