Hi, I’m a 32-year-old man who’s still a virgin, not out of circumstance but by choice—I’ve always wanted to save myself for someone special. Lately, though, I’ve been feeling worn out by waiting, and I’m ready to take a step forward. I’m looking for kind, practical advice and recommendations for someone who can gently guide me through this new chapter, helping me build confidence and learn the ropes with patience and understanding. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated!
First time sex (virgin)
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Most of the indies advertising on this forum will help you with an honour
Saving yourself all this time to have your first experience with a paid for hire sex worker. You think that is special?
At 32 you should be looking for a girlfriend someone to share things in your life with. Anyway just my 2 cents.
Once you start with seeing sex workers it will become much harder to have a relationship as you will want the easy way out instead of working on a relationship.
No sex worker can ever compare to a loving relationship. It is a slippery slope that can be very addictive.
At 32 you should be looking for a girlfriend someone to share things in your life with. Anyway just my 2 cents.
Once you start with seeing sex workers it will become much harder to have a relationship as you will want the easy way out instead of working on a relationship.
No sex worker can ever compare to a loving relationship. It is a slippery slope that can be very addictive.
Lol if I could start from scratch I would start with some skanky old ugly smoker and slowly work my way up!
The real answer tho is look at the independent local, established members who have a proper bio and interact with members on this forum.
The real answer tho is look at the independent local, established members who have a proper bio and interact with members on this forum.
a part of me believe you are a troll
Another part wants to believe you
If you see an sp for your first time. You will be disappointed in ALL your future sexual partners.
Another part wants to believe you
If you see an sp for your first time. You will be disappointed in ALL your future sexual partners.
I disagree with the sentiment in those comments. Its such a cool thing to take your own sexuality into your own hands. Fuck this societal pressure that your first time should be ''special'' and with the ''one''. Its stressful and sometimes its good to just take the band-aid off and be more confident in your next relationships. I understand how someone could be embarrassed to date at 30 without having sex and put this pressure on someone you date. For a sex worker, its NOT a big deal and it would be our pleasure to help you learn how to please a woman and discover your body without any performance pressure. After that you dont have to expect the girl you date to teach you that. I don't know if I am clear on my view but for me it makes sense to hire someone for that. Hell, I ''lost'' my own virginity with a DILDO because I didnt want to put this pressure on myself to find the ''good one'' to be vulnerable with during my first time. At some point, we need to stop with this judeo-christianity shit about sex.
Lets go boy! Cheering you up! Go for it!
Lets go boy! Cheering you up! Go for it!
I do not believe any man will choose to be a virgin into his 30s. It is just so different for a man vs a woman. If a man is still a virgin it is not by choice. It is hard as a man in this country to date women as the advantage is strongly in favor of women. Not all men got the natural charisma to attract women. It is what it is. This being the case booking an escort would be a great way to fulfill those sexual needs.
Not so sure I would agree with that.
If you would conduct a poll of which I have seen a few, usually the overwhelming winner with clients is not fetishes not the amount of orgasms given or had or positions and acronyms but chemistry.
What is chemistry ? how would most people describe it given that it is a money transaction and basically an act to fulfill your fantasy and yes many SP should receive Oscar nominations for their talent.
For me being totally in love with the person you are intimate with is the ultimate form of chemistry that cannot be bought.
OP: if your post is sincere and you're super horny, then go ahead and indulge. All of the Indies who post out here seem like remarkable women who would not only "guide" you but blow your mind. But I'm skeptical of going straight from "waiting for someone special" to seeing escorts. It seems like there are a few steps in between that you're skipping, especially since you call your abstinence a "choice." Maybe you should reconsider that choice? It also sounds a bit like you want an escort to be that someone special for a night; that can happen with an escort, but there's no guarantee. (For sure, see a well-reviewed indy if you go through with it.) For me, seeing escorts is about pleasure. If you want to have a fun romp with a terrific woman and maybe relieve some of the pent-up pressure, go for it. It can be a blast. But I wouldn't put it in the context of waiting for someone special. How do you expect your world to be different after your first date with an escort? What path do you think you'd find yourself on?
I understand why you would think I am a troll. But I assure you I am not. I tried having relationship but didn't work out very well.
A voluntarily celibate virgin looking for advice on an escort review board?! What about dating, hookup sites or any number of more rational intermediary steps.
I'm worried that if you are in earnest, then a deeper problem you may have than being a horny virgin is being sexually repressed.
It just doesn't make sense to me: "I was sick of choosing chastity... so I lurked on a board about sex for money and then had sex with an sp."
To echo what others have already said, if this is not a joke, be extra sure that this is the path you want to tread. There is no going back.
To thine own self be true!
My own experience: I was voluntarily celibate for the first 30 years of my life. Then i had a series of experiences that convinced me to leave that prudish way of thinking.
I understand what you mean. A part of me is like if I can wait this long I can wait a little longer. Another part of me is like fuck this shit. I am tired of waiting. I tried having several relationships with the hope of getting towards marriage. But it didn't go so well. BTW I am an immigrant. So, when I tried for marriage their demands were too high. At certain point I am like it's so tiresome.
I am absolutely clueless regarding women. So my thinking was how about trying out something with someone experienced so I can learn a little bit. And then try the dating scene.
If you decent looking and are able to date then take the marriage element out of it. I’m going to assume the marriage topic has been discussed in these dates. Just drop it. It shouldn’t come up for the first 8-10 months anyway.
Just date, nothing else.
It will happen.
Wait until your married to see escorts
Forget all that ! Just jerk off to porn as it's legal, 100% safe and you will save a fortune $$$ Lol
Seriously speaking though, whether your first time is with a professional or non professional is a toss up. In some cultures, a dad or uncle will bring their son or nephew to a brothel for his first time. It's like a rite of passage to becoming a man. If one has too much of a stigma about seeing a professional, then talk to as many women as you can until one clicks. Don't think too much, of course take your precautions and do it.
Seriously speaking though, whether your first time is with a professional or non professional is a toss up. In some cultures, a dad or uncle will bring their son or nephew to a brothel for his first time. It's like a rite of passage to becoming a man. If one has too much of a stigma about seeing a professional, then talk to as many women as you can until one clicks. Don't think too much, of course take your precautions and do it.
I was in the same situation as you (at age 26) and I was thinking the same. To make a long story short: downwards spiral from there from which I never emerged.
Escorts are not "bad" and play a role in society by fulfilling unmet needs, but having sex with an escort for your "first time", in my own experience, is a very bad idea. The risk of developing a sex addiction, while hard to quantify, is real. If it happens, good luck rewiring your brain. Extremely hard.
**Do not attempt**
**Seek help of a psychologist instead**
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I 100% agree with you about the chemistry and love.
But not many girls let you cim in their mouths. Fuck their ass and have a blast after a first or even a third date.
I just meant sexually. He will find it tough. Nothing to do with intimacy or love
I agree with you also, there is a world of difference between sex with an SP and with someone your in love with.
I am not trying to put down sex with an SP at all some of them are just plain magical, it all depends what you are looking for.
Many are worthy of Oscar winning performances.
