girls on drugs :(

[Ricky bonds]

Drugs........
So i sit here writing this in my kitchen, on a stool, sipping a tall glass of ice cold water on this scorching hot day.
Seeing as how i use merb every so often as a sort of personal diary regarding shit i can' t really talk about with many people from my daily grind, i figured i might empty my heart.
I just arrived from a quick encounter with my #2 girl, my 2nd favourite girl to sleep with, my 2nd favourite girl to be with.
I guess i'll cut to the chase, she was high as a fuckin kite!
Looking into the empty distance, making funny facial expressions, mumbling some mumbo jumbo that was incomprehensible etc..
And from my vast knowledge i would say she was on the white stuff either in sniffable, or smokable format.
I know that deep, dark path to hell...hell, i've been there.
As a matter of fact all of my early reviews when i used to do crazy 2-4 hour sessions of non stop sex were fueled by an insatiable lust for speed (to keep me horny as a bunny, not able to cum and energized like a blood thirsty samurai) viagra (to keep it up for hours) and pounding girls for hours...
Those were some awful times, great and memorable, but awful.
And i just recently celebrated my 2nd year of sobriety, and as a gift to myself i decided to start hobbying full time again, but to do it as a sober gentleman.

Back to my 2nd fav,
This girl probably has no idea what she is getting herself into and neither did i when i got into it.
I didn't say anything, besides nobody who is high wants to hear anybody preach, trust me!
And i probably won't say anything either...
Its just i can't help feeling sad for her and thinking what a fckn waste.
She's young, beautiful, has her whole life ahead of her, kind of like i was when i experimented with EVERYTHING..well ok, maybe i wasn't as beautiful
I don't even feel ripped off that i felt like i was fucking a corpse because of all the other great dates i've had with her, i just feel sad..like i've lost someone close, like as if im watching someone helpless being violated and i cant jump in and save them!
Man, what a drag.
Fckn drugs

 

[Doc Holliday]

drugs are probably, like the critics of prostitution often like to say, a big part of what fuels girls into this profession.

Sorry, but that's 100% bullshit!

Money, money, money is what leads girls into becoming escorts.

I've seen hundreds of girls and the majority of them didn't do drugs. I'm not saying they never did drugs...heck, i've tried many drugs myself. But 98% of them were in it for the money, not the drugs.

 

[CLOUD 500]

Hmm. Well one has to take into consideration the reason they decide to go into prostitution. There is usually an extenuating circumstance that lead them to selling their bodies having said that most of them hate this so taking drugs and alcohol is their only way to get through this that is getting intimate with strangers they are not attracted to at all. Drugs and escorts comes with the territory very very few will be sober.

 

[Doc Holliday]

Hmm. Well one has to take into consideration the reason they decide to go into prostitution. There is usually an extenuating circumstance that lead them to selling their bodies having said that most of them hate this so taking drugs and alcohol is their only way to get through this that is getting intimate with strangers they are not attracted to at all. Drugs and escorts comes with the territory very very few will be sober.

I suppose we haven't met the same girls.

Most of the girls i've met do this to make more money...to be able to spoil themselves, to buy expensive clothing, go out to nice restaurants with the girls, go out clubbing and travel to Europe and to sunny places during winter time. Sure, some of them have addictions (like many of us, including addictions to sex and escorts), but i'd say the large majority of the ones i've seen didn't do it for the reasons mentionned.

 

[Ricky bonds]

Agreed doc.
This girls a special case though (aren't they all ), she is 22, she is a student, she is extremely career orientated and driven, her in and out plan seemed set in stone etc..
She was always talking about her courses, always showing me her text books, reading me things asking my opinion, and now this boom! Acting just like a streetwalker at 3:01 am on ontario street. (and on a tuesday night at 6pm sheesh)

 

[Doc Holliday]

Agreed doc.
This girls a special case though, she is 22, she is a student, she is extremely career orientated and driven, her in and out plan seemed set in stone etc..
She was always talking about her courses, always showing me her text books, reading me things asking my opinion, and now this boom! Acting just like a streetwalker at 3:01 am on ontario street.

Is it possible this may have been a one-time thing? I hope it is. Many johns (incl. merbites) love doing drugs in the company of escorts. This is unfortunate since many younger escorts feel nearly obligated to do drugs with some of the johns. Especially the ones that work for all-night agencies.

And yes, it's understandable why some escorts have to be on something in order to 'work'. Heck, when i first began seeing escorts, i was so nervous and anxious that i was either high or half-drunk (or both) when i first started to see them. The older i got, the more comfortable i got. I also realized it was silly and there came a time where i needed to be 100% sober in order to 'get more wood', if you know what i mean.

 

[BookerL]

https://merb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?121344-Escort-under-the-influence&highlight=SUBSTANCE+ABUSE

 

[Doc Holliday]

My experience is that some girls use alcohol and drugs in order to work better. Some are unable to work sober. Surely fast money is the main reason for them to work. Alcohol and drugs are the tool to work more and better with everybody (it can be difficult to give good service to a client you really don't like if you are sober). Also, girls who are drug addicted need to work in order to pay for their drugs. and they will never stop to work because they need that money.

Sounds like a few stockbrokers and investment bankers i've met over the years....oh heck, a few lawyers and doctors also!!

 

[2fast2slow]

Sorry, but that's 100% bullshit!

Money, money, money is what leads girls into becoming escorts.

I guess/hope your right. That would explain why i never seen them high. The only girl that might of been high that i saw, was Mika in laval a few years back. she was acting strange. I even saw the famous Bynaka several times, but she always appeared sober. Then when I read about her apparent rampant addiction, I was surprised. I figured the drugs must be more common than we think. Mind you i saw bynaka at lunch time, her morning, and maye she did not have time to get high yet

 

[Thor Jr]

I guess we have all had encounters that included drugs at least once in our lives with SP's myself included.

My encounter went like this: It was late one night, decided i wanted some company, made a call and 30 minutes later a knock at the door, i open the door to a tornado, she walked straight across the room rambling about ok baby lets get it on, i don't do this and this will cost that and on with the party. After about 15 minutes she saw that i wasn't moving as fast as her and asked if i wanted some white stuff to boost me up and i thought she was being nice and offering me some of her stuff but nope, the next thing i know she was rambling off prices, 20$ or 50$ bag honey, well, i all of a sudden was not in the mood for company anymore and nothing went well after that, she saw that i was not happy anymore so she just said hey i have to pay for it to at the end of the night also, i guess she has a dealer who she answers to, well like i said things went bad after that. I even tried to call the agency but no one answered and then the next day i thought about it and thought that maybe her booker was her dealer, so i decided to let it go.

Its a shame that girls do this and i guess that they may have to do it to make ends meet and yes the money is a big factor in this business but drugs do play a part in this also.

Doc Holliday, i don't disagree with you at all, cause i have met more girls in this business who are only doing it for the money to like what was said so they can have nice things and the majority of them it is the main reason but once in awhile drugs are a big part of it.

Doc, you mentioned that the girls felt pressured because a client maybe brought out some stuff and they thought they had to do it so the client would be happy, i was surprised you said that, after all she has power over us, they have what we want, so why be obligated. I can understand if shes young and new to the business, but she can say no if she wants. And if any guy insists to push this stuff on one of these girls well hes no better then a pedophile. I always offer something to drink, if they dont drink i say ok and don't even open the bottle and move on, i can honestly say that i am high on just being with a young and beautiful woman who may or may not be attracted to me.

I love women, and i am pretty sure i am addicted to them and my drug of preference is tall, sometimes blond, and beautiful...

And remember Gentlemen, No means No, that goes for everything. Thank you. Happy hobnobbing. lol

Thor Jr

 

[Gabriella Laurence]

Sorry, but that's 100% bullshit!

Thanks, Doc You summed it up pretty well in a few words!

I feel the same way about people who make assumptions, generalizations, lump everybody into the same basket and keep fueling the negative stereotypes.

 

[Lily from Montreal]

And thanks Gabriella,you save me the trouble or phrasing nicely how the generalization is also bullshit...

If someone experience is all druggies he should raise his standards...

 

[rollingstone]

There was one instance where I highly suspected an SP had smoked weed before seeing me. I know some don't regard that as a real drug but I am so square I never even tried it myself so it was a bit of a let down with me. The lady in question was very very popular at the time and I did not mention it because there were several white knights on the prowl who had shot down previous criticism of her. Plus I did not know for sure (being the square that I am).

However, I do believe it is more common than people think. There was one indy (my former ATF, now retired) I spent a lot of time with who told me she would frequently get asked by other ladies if she had any coke at MERB get together. My current ATF told me that she kissed her regular duo partner in a session and that it made her mouth feel numb, and she suspected that she had been doing cocaine. What upset me about this is that she considered it a regular work-related hazard instead of a big deal.

So I get the sense that this happens more often than I would like, but I have no real proof.

 

[BookerL]

Hello all

In my experience there was lot more clients on substance then girls actually on nightshift outcalls(after midnight ) when clients where single .
Day shift are different stats in incall ,outcall ,Married guys and single changes the stats also ,





Cheers



Booker

 

[Doc Holliday]

Hello all

In my experience there was lot more clients on substance then girls actually on nightshift outcalls(after midnight ) when clients where single .
Day shift are different stats in incall ,outcall ,Married guys and single changes the stats also.

I agree. I'd also like to add that from my experience, there were a lot more girls who had issues with alcohol than street drugs.

However, i'd like to point out that there are people with alcohol and drug problems in all professions. Logically, we can't expect escorts to not have the same issues as anyone else. They are not perfect. Neither are we.

 

[Aka]

Sounds like a few stockbrokers and investment bankers i've met over the years....oh heck, a few lawyers and doctors also!!

"a few stockbrokers and investment bankers"? thats more like the norm than the exception :lol:
also maaany young lawyers and doctors, especially as students, take some kind of stimulants like Adderall to study for 16-18 hours straight and sedatives to cope with the stress of the exams..its not even a secret anymore, thats how prevalent it is. It got to a point where so many students do it that its almost guaranteed you will not score in top percentile if you are not on some kind of drug.

 

[masterP]

Down here in Vermont most of the girls who escort are addicted to heroin or other opiates. I know this first hand, I've seen the needle tracks and the zombie stares and recognized a few mug shots from drug busts. That's why I'd much rather take the two hour drive to Montreal to see escorts. Obvious drug use is far less common there, actually almost non-existent in my experience.

 

[BookerL]

However, i'd like to point out that there are people with alcohol and drug problems in all professions. Logically, we can't expect escorts to not have the same issues as anyone else. .

Hello thats a reality.

Lots of people with stressful jobs will use alcohol to calm them done or to put them in the mood for play .
Everyone live there stress differently but many uses the same methods, stats in general population and serious escorts are not so far apart .



Cheers




Booker

 

[FunSexyMan]

When it comes to someone being intoxicated while the other person is sober, for me it comes down to the issue of consent. More specifically, it’s about the lack of consent to be with someone.

I would seriously feel that I would be taking advantage of that person’s ability to make informed conscious decisions to spend time with myself. Whether, it’s at the bar/club scene or seeing a SP, I would have to politely excuse myself from the situation with that person.

 

[johnybird]

And thanks Gabriella,you save me the trouble or phrasing nicely how the generalization is also bullshit...

If someone experience is all druggies he should raise his standards...

No Doubt!

I have yet to come across a lady with any drug or alcohol issues, the ones I've seen seem to know what they want and have there heads on straight.
Come to think of it, I think they have it more together than I do