Guys & Girls-Your most hated questions?

[Lily from Montreal]

Mine are like Valarie's:

-You should pay me to have sex with you since I am so young-hot-good in bed..., hint: one out of three ain't bad, I'll admit he was young...

or -Next I should see you for free since you had fun...would you rather I had a miserable time?

All from before I realized that nothing beats experience in bed, so no more pretty young boy full of themselves...

From older friends I do not get annoying questions really...

 

[doucelangue]

One of the strangest question I've been asked, which came from Marilyn (Private Lies) was : «How would you react if it were your daughter who answered the door ?»

Well, this THE question that kills.


Doucelangue

 

[Maria Divina]

Some questions are very too much personal, I did have the same questions of the other ladies, but

what make me really not liking the questions, is when someone is insisting to know an answer...

ei:

Him:What is your real name?

Me:Sorry, I don't say my real name.

Him: No, you don't understand, I really want to know your real name, because I will feel better.

Me: Sorry, I really not want to say my name, + and explication why I don't want to say my real name
( I should have lie and say my real name is Maria... no complication then )


or

another question when we are nude, kissing..

Est-ce que je peux entrer sans condom? Enwoye-donc! Juste un petit peu, pas longtemps? Je suis opéré!
translation: Could I enter without a condom? Come'on! Just a little bit, not long? I am operated!

I don't know where in the world he could think I could say yes to this. This guy has been very close to make a "vol plané" outside the bed, because he insisted and repeated many time "come'on" like a little kid who want a candy at the store. Very annoying attitude.

 

[michael99]

1) how old are you?

2) do you post on Merb?

3) what kind of work do you do?

4) why are you getting soft? is it because of me?

5) have you seen #####? I think she's a fucking bitch!

Exactly the questions I get.

 

[man77777]

4) why are you getting soft? is it because of me?!

Quite funny ! Next month, i met a russian girl in europe, and during sex she asked me "why are you getting soft ?" with a big smile. As im not a good english speaker, I thought the word "soft" meant "doux", so i understood "pourquoi es tu si doux avec moi ?", then I answered "Im always soft with beautiful girls baby" with one of my most beautiful smile.

By reading your post, Doc, now I understand what this expression means and why she seemed so surprise by my answer...

 

[wasisname]

Wasisname, I thought it was Samarkand. I bet all the girls were making fun of me because of that.

Same country at least. I am a geography geek and even got one of my BAs in it, and I would be at a loss to name a city in that country.


As for questions, I once had this older lady customer at a strip club freak out on me and tell me I looked like a serial killer and all sorts of other nastiness which I don't remember, some in question format I'd guess. Compared to being thought of as a rapist killer, I think I win. Odd thing, I was just sitting by my self and looking around with my water. Never seen the bitch before, have not seen her since. I go to that club every 6 months. I wonder why she picked me. I didn't have my Jon Lajoie's Rapist glasses, pedophile beard, public masturbater trench coat, serial killer van or colored pencils. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=15S0g8pG6HU

 

[Siocnarf]

«How would you react if it were your daughter who answered the door ?»

That would depend on what question the door asked...

 

[valarie_curves]

and what if i charge an extra just for being a pain in the ass?

Genius Alyssa !!! Lol


I didn't know that so many men have a problem with the "what field are you in?" question. I would never insist on getting a company name or anything. I figure it's small talk. But if it bothers so many , maybe I should reconsider. I just never thought it was a personal question like... Are you married? Kids? how many? That is defiantly crossing boundaries.

 

[Lily from Montreal]

I kind of disagree about the ''are you married ?'' question since from my experience married men are nicer and from my point of you safer as single guys have a tendency to lose sight of the boundaries of our meeting , while married men are less of a loose cannon... so I like to know the marital status...
And yes to hear about the wife and the kids and not specifically where my friend work but the type of work interest me.
as one the perk of what I do is allowing me to meet people from a wide variety of professions, lifestyle etc that I would never had the opportunity to encounter in my real life and there is nothing I like more is learning one's then biography and the best way is to hear it is live...

I was once chatting with a (too young) guy who told me he was flipping burger at Macdonald when I asked what he was doing for work , I do not want the specifics, just the general field...hum...first of all, if it is true you cannot afford to meet me , I rather not put a strain on anybody's finance, and if it is not true, I do not want to meet you as part of what makes my meetings so fun is to share a bit of our lives and know that we are not alone...

Of course what I look for in my meetings are not exactly traditional escort material, and pleases do not start the money angle, I said it before, yes it is part but not the whole of why I meet...

 

[Max69]

I hate the following questions (asked to me by an MP/SP):

1) What do you do for a living?
2) Where do you work?
3) Where do you live?
4) Is this your first time?
5) How long have you been seeing "MP's and SP's" for?

Besides that, I have been asked other things like: Can you get me some weed (or something else)? Can you tip me?

This is also why I prefer GFE's from known agencies that I have dealt with before rather than an independent, incall or smaller (un-professional) agency.

 

[Lily from Montreal]

I do not ask per se , but I like to know it is the first time with a sp, that way faux-pas like not having the money ready or worse me having to ask for it and to pull it out of my friend hands are more easily excused , when it comes from someone who told me he is a old hand at the hobby, makes me wonder about the manners...

Of course it depends what you look for in a meeting , me I look for friends for benefits, I always joke that ''I get the benefits, we both gets the friendship''...if you just want to fuck, pardon my french loll, then I guess you are right agency girl are a safer bet than indy who might not have only the monetary aspect of the game as an incentive... And friendship to my sense imply sharing...

Me ,when someone write to me and the whole message is: ''I want to fuck your real bad'' (true message )I am thinking ''boy, are you at the wrong address!''loll

 

[Sol Tee Nutz]

not having the money ready

When I meet an indy for the first time ( not reviewed ) I am hesitant to pay first, have been scammed in the past. Most SP's I see do not ask for the money first ( some do ).

As for questions I do not like: What type of car do you drive?

 

[Merlot]

...as one the perk of what I do is allowing me to meet people from a wide variety of professions, lifestyle etc that I would never had the opportunity to encounter in my real life and there is nothing I like more is learning one's then biography and the best way is to hear it is live...

Hello Lily,

There are various complications that can happen and have happened to others by getting too specific about yourself, and once you let something out it seems to leak around. I could be very, very open about a lot. That's the way I am. But before I started hobbying I thought it would be wiser not to let specific personal information out, and indeed I've found that to be much wiser. It's not just about escorts either. There are other hobbyists who seem to enjoy intruding and searching for dirt on others, even while they are paying for an encounter. That makes no sense, but it happens.

On the other hand when I do converse with others about "the profession" it tends to get very involving because there are so many tough stories (positive ones too) that can tug at one in many ways. Getting into that during an encounter would make it very hard for either of us to stay in the mood for the basic reason for which we are meeting.

When it comes to the subject of questions or conversation I might feel uncomfortable with, I've had little or no issues with the escorts being naturally curious, and I've never found any of them to be too intrusive. No escort has ever gotten to personal about me with their questions. I answer them as intimately as I wish to and the escorts have respected the boundaries I indicated. If I were to get too carried away with being too involved with a response then I should expect the escort to go further, probably where I might not want her to go...looking for too much detail. So I keep the conversation comfortable, but not too intimate. I've only really been bothered by questions when it became obvious they were being used to use up a lot of time to dodge the physical experience.

What has been more discouraging has been the attitudes a few have arrived with. Persistently complaining about this and that, making very negative comments about people, the city, the culture; and then there's the one who described a really hard day making it obvious she was in no mood for the purpose of coming but decided to go anyway. I actually enjoy hearing about someone's day or life, and don't mind if it involves problems, but being a real complainer or whiner...ISH!!!

Fortunately, 95% of the escorts have done very well with me in how they approach a conversation and questions.

Usually, i always favoured massage than chit-chat with this kind of gentlemen, because i always was reserved during an encounter, was more at my ease by talking about the other's life than mine...

If your avatar entered my room I'm giving the massage and the "chit-chat" would probably be no more than...O-M-G!!!

Cheers,

Merlot

 

[Lily from Montreal]

I forgot to mention that the opposite is true, too much information?
Please guys do not write to an escort using your work email with all your phones number listed...
I lost count of how many time I tell my friends-to-be to create a hotmail address and I please not using your full name? I do not want to know it?
John lakes imagination and fell free to use your real first name but I do not need to know the last name and no, I won't tell you mine?
I am all prim and proper but not girls are ? Even if it made a cute story when I scold a potential friend not to use the company letterhead if he didnt want to end up in trouble , and he laughs and said he was the boss...still a bit of discretion is appreciate, so yes by all meanstell me you are a accountant (if it's true) but not the name of the company?

And never ever do like this one who sent me a photo of his daughter (!), I know you are proud but please... And that was before I ever met him...after we are friend it might be acceptable but first contact? No...

 

[evillethings]

I hate being asked "So do you think I look good in this outfit?"

The uncensored answer is, I'm not your F'ing BF and for what I have on the agenda you won't need that outfit!

OR

"Do you like what you see?"
to avoid killin' the mood, the ans will usually be "you look nice!"

 

[Max15411]

... but in his signature of his email, i know exactly his job, the name of his compagny, there is also a website with his pictures and bio, number at his job, his cellphone number etc...

I am the complete opposite. Generic email address, alias, pay as you go phone, I park far from the location, and I don't even take my wallet in with me. Just the cash I need.

Back on topic, from a masseuse, I was asked "Why do you come here? Aren't you married?" Reminded her that not all men are assholes and that shit happens. Obvioulsy I didn't go back to see her.

 

[curious2012]

I'm like Max15411....until I meet the woman in person and then follow my instincts as for how open I will be. If I get a good enough vibe to stay (or ask her in) then I pretty much treat the encounter as I would a first date or any first contact with someone I'm interested in. At that point I'm pretty much open to any question...as long as it's in the interest of understabding each other better and establishing a better connection. I'm a pretty straightforward kinda guy who really enjoys authenticity.

But if my "spider sense" goes off (usually in the first ten seconds) and detects bulls... then I'm gone lol!

 

[Possum Trot]

I forgot to mention that the opposite is true, too much information?
Please guys do not write to an escort using your work email with all your phones number listed...
I lost count of how many time I tell my friends-to-be to create a hotmail address and I please not using your full name? I do not want to know it?
John lakes imagination and fell free to use your real first name but I do not need to know the last name and no, I won't tell you mine?
I am all prim and proper but not girls are ? Even if it made a cute story when I scold a potential friend not to use the company letterhead if he didnt want to end up in trouble , and he laughs and said he was the boss...still a bit of discretion is appreciate, so yes by all meanstell me you are a accountant (if it's true) but not the name of the company?

Oddly there is actually a high end service provider from Toronto whose background/screening check includes many of the things you don't want to know - full name, place of business etc etc

http://beaweston.com/lets-meet/our-first-meeting/

I suspect she loses a lot of business because of this, but hey it's her business her rules. Just pointing out that you don't all necessarily play by the same ones

 

[Lily from Montreal]

I guess the higher end escort you see, the less potential there is for foul play but still, I find some of you are not careful enough when dealing with someone you know only in the biblical sense... and it goes boith way, yes I will tell you my real life work (no, it is not escorting) but I will not tell you in details with names and etc...Let's keep a bit of mystery shall we?