has this ever happen to you

[whitesoxs]

hi all
has this ever happen to you
i was a at a club alittle while back .i'm a regular at the place and waiting to see my regular girl
she was in the booth with another one of her regular
after she left the booth and said her bye to him she came over and sit down with me
i notice that the guy was stareing at her all the while she was sitting with me
after a few minutes he came over and kiss her again
she was going on stage
he decide to sit and watch her
after her show and she came back to me and again he was watching her
we were on the way to the booth and he started blowing her kiss
i wasn't to thrill about this
how would you react to this?
what should the girl have done
i ask her and she told me
he gave her money what am i suppose to do tell to get lost
she said it is her job and that i should understand this
it didn't make me feel good
was i wrong to get upset
like to know your opions
thanks

 

[CWipes]

Get over it, she's a working girl.

 

[whitesoxs]

would you go over to a girl and say hello or bye when she sitting with another guy

 

[CWipes]

Let the girl deal with it.

 

[anon_vlad]

after she left the booth and said her bye to him she came over and sit down with me
i notice that the guy was stareing at her all the while she was sitting with me
after a few minutes he came over and kiss her again

Of course she is not your girl friend, so you have no reason to be jealous. However, it is disrespectful for him to try to kiss her when she is sitting with you and for her to permit it. I would have walked out and left them to fight about of the loss of her income from the anticipated dances with you.

 

[Siocnarf]

My advice is to see escorts instead of going to strip clubs. You always get the lady's full attention

 

[ManApart]

Emotions are emotions. Whether it is justified, in a particular situation, to feel one way or another is really irrelevant and subjective. The point is, you felt that way. You like this dancer, who you regularly see, and didn't like the fact some other guy was all over her, especially ON YOUR TIME! Could be a normal response. I think you have a right to be annoyed that this guy wasn't respecting that she was with you at the moment and to give you two your space. If i'm talking with a dancer and am paying her, I would hate another guy interrupting our time, unless he just wanted to quickly say, can I see you after, I'm sitting over there? To be upset, just from the fact that he was all over her, period, is a different story. Her job is one where she tries to get guys to fall for her, so they can give her money. The fact that some guy did and maybe got a little carried away, is part of the package. If you get upset that another guy is paying a lot of attention to this girl, then you will be upset all the time. If you were just upset, because he was kind of interrupting you two, then I think that is normal. It's like wait your turn buddy.

 

[Gotsome]

Generally speaking, women don't find men attractive at all who crave attention and who shower them with affection, blowing kissess etc like the guy you described. You can therefore dismiss the client and his gestures as insignificant to your regular. On the other hand, women also regard men who are jealous and argumentative as equally unattractive - it means that you're just as needy as that guy who craves attention. It's a safe bet this woman is totally turned off by you and others like the guy you describe.

 

[whitesoxs]

thanks all
i just not see her at the the we also talk on the phone and text each other
i thing i didn't like was that he had just spent time with her in the booth
he had already had say bye to her why did he have to say bye a few minutes later
i am not upset that other guys pay attention but don't come over when she is with someone else

 

[whitesoxs]

like she told me it is just about the money

 

[ManApart]

I hear you. When I used to have regular dancers I saw, before I became a hardcore SP guy, It didn't bother me that they had to work with other guys. My rules were #1, When I was in the club, I expected preferrential treatment, because I was a regular. #2 when I was paying you and we were together, then I deserve your full attention. Your girl did both. There's also an unwritten rule between guys. When another dude is obviously involved with the dancer you like, you wait until they're done and don't move in on them. It's ok only to say, please come see me later. It's the code. This guy obviously isn't experienced or too dumb to know that.

 

[EagerBeaver]

Generally speaking, women don't find men attractive at all who crave attention and who shower them with affection, blowing kissess etc like the guy you described. You can therefore dismiss the client and his gestures as insignificant to your regular. On the other hand, women also regard men who are jealous and argumentative as equally unattractive - it means that you're just as needy as that guy who craves attention. It's a safe bet this woman is totally turned off by you and others like the guy you describe.

I totally agree with this. It sounds like 2 guys exhibiting strange possessive behaviors. The lady is a working girl, what is she supposed to do ignore all other customers? Only possessive types think this way, and women do have radar for the possessive ones and it goes off like a bullhorn in these situations.

She is working the job to make money, not because she enjoys entertaining possessive men.

 

[Merlot]

Hello Whitesoxs,

thanks all
i just not see her at the the we also talk on the phone and text each other
i thing i didn't like was that he had just spent time with her in the booth
he had already had say bye to her why did he have to say bye a few minutes later
i am not upset that other guys pay attention but don't come over when she is with someone else

It sounds like the guy has developed some sort of attachment/possession/obsession anxiety. The chances are 99.999999% (you get it) the lady isn't interested and she's stringing him along for profit, or at worst setting him up for bigger profits. Be careful you don't head down the same road. Even a guy her age should beware.

But I have found it unique from experience that even guys who are friends can get territorial and jealous over strippers and SPs whose business is to profit from seeing so many men intimately, until the guys come to their senses, hopefully.

Cheers,

Merlot

 

[whitesoxs]

Hello Merlot
so you think i have showing some attachment/possession/obsessin anxiety and that she isn't interest and just stringing me along
i have been going to see her about 4 years now
i know it's a job which she doesn't like to do but she has to do it and i know she work a regluar job
but it would be hard just to stop going to see her

 

[whitesoxs]

Blackhawks Stanely cup Champion 2010

Hello Merlot
so you think i have showing some attachment/possession/obsessin anxiety and that she isn't interest and just stringing me along
i have been going to see her about 4 years now
i know it's a job which she doesn't like to do but she has to do it and i know she work a regluar job
but it would be hard just to stop going to see her

 

[Merlot]

Hello Merlot
so you think i have showing some attachment/possession/obsessin anxiety and that she isn't interest and just stringing me along
i have been going to see her about 4 years now
i know it's a job which she doesn't like to do but she has to do it and i know she work a regluar job
but it would be hard just to stop going to see her

Hello Whitesoxs,

Even in the other guy's case I only said "sounds like", and "beware" for others. If one has a favorite stripper and has been seeing her for reasonable business over time that's fine. I saw an escort during my Montreal trips over 7-8 years, but I never went far beyond business except to take her out to dinner and invite her to lunch with other hobbyists, and a few other very minor things.

But if things get very complicated and expensive...just be careful.

Cheers,

Merlot

 

[Techman]

Hello Merlot
so you think i have showing some attachment/possession/obsessin anxiety and that she isn't interest and just stringing me along
i have been going to see her about 4 years now
i know it's a job which she doesn't like to do but she has to do it and i know she work a regluar job
but it would be hard just to stop going to see her

She has to do it? I doubt it unless she has a 'boyfriend' forcing her to do it, especially if she also has a 'regular' job. If this is what she's been telling you for the past 4 years you've been seeing her, you are in way too deep and it's past time for you to take a big step back. You talk on the phone, text back and forth but never go out to dinner or anything. All you are is a good client for her who is willing to spend money on her and she keeps stringing you along. If she gave a damn about you, she wouldn't dance for you or even want you around the club after 4 years. The longest this should have gone on is a couple of months if you were looking for somehing more than a dancer/client thing. 4 YEARS??? You should be getting laid on a regular basis for free by this point! Don't walk away, run away while you still have some money and self respect left.

Now as for the other guy, well some guys get a bit too possesive of dancers. I know one girl who has a customer that when he comes in, she spends hours with the guy sitting at his table. He even follows her out when she goes for a smoke and gets all pissed off if she talks to anyone else, don't matter if it's another dancer, a waitress or a client. The guy just stands back and sizzles away. He doesn't even smoke himself! But she makes great money whenever he shows up so she puts up with it. I think it's extremely funny and try to go for a smoke at the same time and talk to her a bit just to see the guy standing a few feet away boiling.

 

[JH Fan]

Hey ! you wanna get paranoid a little ?

Be careful. I've seen a stripper and her BF pulling a 'jealousy' stunt in order to con a guy into helping her from harrassement, bla bla bla...
Next thing you know. You spent way over your head on all sorts of excuses to help her out with this 'situation'.

Like other fellow said... it's all about money !

As others said 'I'd go for an SP instead'.
At least you get 'some return' on your investment.
As long as you don't fall in love with them.

 

[EagerBeaver]

All you are is a good client for her who is willing to spend money on her and she keeps stringing you along. If she gave a damn about you, she wouldn't dance for you or even want you around the club after 4 years. The longest this should have gone on is a couple of months if you were looking for somehing more than a dancer/client thing. 4 YEARS??? You should be getting laid on a regular basis for free by this point! Don't walk away, run away while you still have some money and self respect left.

I don't know if he came here looking for the proverbial splash of cold water in the face, but he now has it. My own feeling is that you can take a horse to the water, but you can't make him drink. You can put the coffee under his nose, but that does not mean he is going to smell the coffee. Sometimes when you are in too deep, you only find out after you have drowned. Does the name ponpon ring a bell?

 

[Techman]

Strip clubs aren't singles bars. If you're going there to find a girlfriend, you're in the wrong place. 4 YEARS! Not weeks, not months...YEARS!! It's too late for anything to happen now. Not only is it time to move on to another girl, it's time to move to a new club.