How did you get started with the hobby? And have your interests changed over time?

[homeosgm]

For some reason this question came to my mind just now and I thought I'd share it openly with the forum.

How did I get started with this industry? Do you remember the time before you were aware at how much this stuff existed?

Do you remember the first time you got into the hobby or learned about the domain? This question could apply to SPs as well as customers.

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I'll try to keep it short for how I got started.

I remember I was looking at pornography and eventually wanted to find local pornography for some reason. I am ethnically quebecois and I wanted to find quebecois porn stars or something like that and there was a mature porn star lady who was also offering meet-ups.

Somehow from there I ended up on Craigslist "Therapeutic services" and the rest is history. At this point, I was maybe around 20 years old in 2010 and I had had sex with 3 women (had a girlfriend at the time too) and I finally ended up going to see Mirie ***1983 for a foot-wank which cost me $50. In short, before this, I did not know this world existed in the way that it does.

At the time I still didn't realize the depth of this world, that only came later as I learned more about the industry , got scammed, etc... days I look back on quite fondly, really, even though some moments were scary. I never quite liked the talking / wooing / romancing part of those types of relationships with women, so I kind of like how it's business oriented in a sense, but I have always been courageously the first to start dancing when there is music and stuff like that, so in some way I like the thrill of the uncertainty with scams and all. Anyway, that's neither here nor there, just a bit of insight into my perspective on learning the ropes. Needless to say, the difference in my ability to spot real people vs people who use pictures that aren't theirs vs just guys scamming (I guess?) is miles away from where it used to be.

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Another question I think is relevant and interesting, which can also apply to users and SPs :

have your sexual interests changed over time throughout hobbying? Has hobbying changed them in particular or allowed you to explore things that might have taken longer in a setting where you aren't just asking for with payment?

Mine definitely have and I imagine it's the same for most.

 

[Stx]

For me, I was introduced by a friend (we had previously had a short fling) who was working in the industry.

I would say the biggest impact it has had on me is that it really commodified sex and sexuality. Certain kinks or fantasies are almost impossible to do with civillians but readily accessible with SPs.

With that, with regards to dating, it made me appreciate a lot more all the non-sexual aspects in a potential partner. It makes it so that you are no longer a "slave" to sexuality, and that I find quite freeing from a dating perspective.

I do well for myself financially but I don't have much free time, so making sex accessible (and that with wonderful people; we are quite lucky here in Montreal in that regard) allows me to entertain those urges and desires, but also to use my dating time to find people I truly connect with rather than just trying to sleep with someone.

The danger imo is to fall into the trap of expecting your dating partners to have sex with you like an SP or inversely to fall in love with an SP who is just doing his/her job.

 

[AirBo]

How did I get started with this industry? Do you remember the time before you were aware at how much this stuff existed?

My first time was early 20s. I had never thought about it but my roommate came to my room one day and said "Hey, how about we book an SP each?". I just said "sure"... felt natural lol

Then I did not hobby for many years. Got married, divorced and then I plunged.

have your sexual interests changed over time throughout hobbying?

LOL yes but not necessarily because of hobbying... still had an impact though

Has hobbying changed them in particular or allowed you to explore things that might have taken longer in a setting where you aren't just asking for with payment?

There are a couple of SPs that have had a major impact on my sexual life... and GFs too

I'm lucky enough to have had GFs at various points my life, but there is nothing like the rush of a first encounter or booking your favourite in this hobby.

 

[Mefy]

I've been in a relationship my whole life and just started this hobbying months ago.
I'm just enjoying this moment of being single and have some fun with SPs.
My interests have not changed much since starting.
WOW... Some SPs are really HOT! =)
I don't think I'm gonna be "addicted" to the highest level, since I know by experience having a real relationship with a Girlfriend is better than seeing any SPs.

 

[AirBo]

I still want sex, but everything else that comes with intimacy is a no go for me

Kind of my life story for the past 15-20 years. I have some very strong and nasty defence mechanisms in place that don't allow me to be truly engaged again. My relationships never last more than a few months and it's mostly my fault when they end.

 

[Halloween Mike]

Mine was just a need i had and it came as an escalation.

I always been very "mentally sexual" since i was a child. I was fapping in front of the TV watching Julie Masse videoclips while not being old enough to be in school... that tell you something. But as the years passed, it took up until being 15 or so to have a first girfriend and we didn't pass first base. Same with the second as i was 16 but she was 15 and not ready. Then sadly things reverted back to no girlfriend. My life wasn't at its best either when i was 17-18. Long story short internet became accessible and what used to be watching "Bleu Nuit" late at night when i was 12 and all other means of the old days (magazines, celebrity nude scenes in movies etc) turned to actual porn and i got "envious" of this. At the time i never expected i could had sex with women as hot as in those movies, i just wanted to do it with reg girls. But then i was introduced to strippers and if at first it was amazing, it soon turned to "i want more". First few tries for escort meetings around home were disasters lol, so i sticked with strippers until i found merb and by a big "luck" i experienced Montreal escorts and became addicated.

Im close to 40 now and my last girlfriend i was 16. So i kinda gave up on hope of finding love, even if i wish i could get it.

On the other hand, i enjoyed all these years and im gratefull of having be able to replicate those fantasies i saw in movies with women just as hot. But the "lust" and envy just keep escalating and sadly i kinda reach a point where i can't pursue further. I mean American Pornstars, the big names, 90% of them escorts, but its big $ and you either have to travel there or fly them to you for huge ammounts. Can't do it. So there will always be "more i wish i had", but its important to be gratefull for what i could actually do.

 

[Mefy]

I was fapping in front of the TV watching Julie Masse videoclips while not being old enough to be in school..

LOLL!! She was HOT!

 

[Halloween Mike]

LOLL!! She was HOT!

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Still is even at her age from recent appearence i saw.

 

[AirBo]

Mine was just a need i had and it came as an escalation.

I always been very "mentally sexual" since i was a child. I was fapping in front of the TV watching Julie Masse videoclips while not being old enough to be in school... that tell you something. But as the years passed, it took up until being 15 or so to have a first girfriend and we didn't pass first base. Same with the second as i was 16 but she was 15 and not ready. Then sadly things reverted back to no girlfriend. My life wasn't at its best either when i was 17-18. Long story short internet became accessible and what used to be watching "Bleu Nuit" late at night when i was 12 and all other means of the old days (magazines, celebrity nude scenes in movies etc) turned to actual porn and i got "envious" of this. At the time i never expected i could had sex with women as hot as in those movies, i just wanted to do it with reg girls. But then i was introduced to strippers and if at first it was amazing, it soon turned to "i want more". First few tries for escort meetings around home were disasters lol, so i sticked with strippers until i found merb and by a big "luck" i experienced Montreal escorts and became addicated.

Im close to 40 now and my last girlfriend i was 16. So i kinda gave up on hope of finding love, even if i wish i could get it.

On the other hand, i enjoyed all these years and im gratefull of having be able to replicate those fantasies i saw in movies with women just as hot. But the "lust" and envy just keep escalating and sadly i kinda reach a point where i can't pursue further. I mean American Pornstars, the big names, 90% of them escorts, but its big $ and you either have to travel there or fly them to you for huge ammounts. Can't do it. So there will always be "more i wish i had", but its important to be gratefull for what i could actually do.

You're articulate, you have insight, you're sensitive, you're opened. I love your posts

 

[dagreatness]

I got tired of trying the dating game, I was striking out like crazy and was still a V and in Quebec that is brutal in late teen’s, early 20’s. I was making money and was not even spending much of it and if I was it was dumb on things, plus I was still living with parents.

Then I went to a MP nearby work had a really good time and was like this is so much easier than paying for dates or trying to woo a girl. So then it progressed over the years.

I am not doing this to fall in love, the girls know what I want and they know why we are both there for. The chit chat is super easy to do, but gf nope I just want to hit it and quit it.

I remember in my early days I was always telling the booker don’t give me a girl that can just do 15 minutes or less. Give me one that can last or don’t let me book them. I have told many a booker that. If I pay for the hour I want the entire hour.

 

[bodick7]

I booked my first SP because I was sick and tired to unsuccessfully date a GF…
Now guess what happened afterward? Shazam! I got an unexpected GF and a 20 years hiatus.
We badly hit menopause wall togheter… Wasn’t her fault nor mine
After 3 years without any sexual intercourses, I jumped over the fence for good
It’s not perfect but at least I have some harmony back which I was crually missing.

 

[Picamar]

I booked my first SP because I was sick and tired to unsuccessfully date a GF…
Now guess what happened afterward? Shazam! I got an unexpected GF and a 20 years hiatus.
We badly hit menopause wall togheter… Wasn’t her fault nor mine
After 3 years without any sexual intercourses, I jumped over the fence for good
It’s not perfect but at least I have some harmony back which I was crually missing.

And are you both of you still together?

 

[Krish12]

Got excited when I watched some crazy porn and just looked at couple websites and found out that my fantasy can be brought into real life. Since then Ive met and repeated most of them in last 18 months since I started this hobby
Isabella Devine
Sonya@euphoria
Lena@euphoria
Kate @xo
Kasha@xo
Harley @xo
Juliette@euphoria
Mia@euphoria
Heaven@Euphoria
April Rose-indy
Melina May-indy
Lea marquise-indy
Lexy 36d
Maxime Luna
April Dyson
Dina @ Euphoria

 

[Fradi]

I saw a few when I started playing pro sports at age 16-26 ( I stopped when I got married)
but I never payed for those they were gifts from fans/ sponsors from an older bar tender buddy of mine as a thank you on nights when I would take over the bar for him at the sports club that sponsored my team. He knew every brothel in the downtown area and would take me to one after he came to close the bar. It was fun but at that time I didn’t think too much of it as I was usually younger than the escort and had girlfriends my own age.

I pretty much had the pick of girls in my ethnic community as I was well known and had a number of girlfriends.
I guess I had enough of the night life as it was pretty much every Friday to Monday morning so I finally found the woman of my dreams and had a fairy tale life with her for over 35 years until cancer took her from me. I was happy, I had everything I ever dreamed about a gorgeous wife who I adored , children a good income, I never thought of cheating on her.

By this time obviously I was not a young guy anymore and it took me over 5 years to finally approach a young lady after looking through literally hundreds of SP photographs and somehow always going back to the same one. Dating just didn’t interest me anymore.
Well I have been seeing her close to 6 years now, she is my ATF and I could not have picked a more gorgeous or kinder and thoughtful young lady.
I see one other young lady also who I have known close to 5 years but not as frequently and in between a few new ones.

I am pretty easy to please and obviously my habits haven’t changed much I like a close connection and friendship with the ladies I see.
I like to know that I will have a fabulous time every time I see them and still after so many years look forward to it each time.
I feel lucky to have my ATF in my life, she was exactly what I needed at a time of my life when I was not in a good state and I will always be grateful for her kindness and the way she has treated me over the years. Just an amazing young lady.

 

[bodick7]

And are you both of you still together?

Yes.

 

[Snuggles]

I am a workaholic even when young and did not make time to social interact much. Tried strip clubs a few times but did not scratch the itch. Found merb and figured take the leap. Had a nice encounter and enjoyed meeting the girls. Around 40 now and dating is pretty hard(tried a lot of mobile apps, most of them have bots profiles) and I crave to have a nice gfe now and then

 

[bodick7]

I am a workaholic even when young and did not make time to social interact much. Tried strip clubs a few times but did not scratch the itch. Found merb and figured take the leap. Had a nice encounter and enjoyed meeting the girls. Around 40 now and dating is pretty hard(tried a lot of mobile apps, most of them have bots profiles) and I crave to have a nice gfe now and then

I was about in the same situation. I met my GF when one of my brother’s friend introduced me in his friends network. One night, he came with 2 girls at a music concert. One was a super gorgeous red head…the rest is history.
If you ever get invitations, don’t refuse because you never know.

 

[Nachoy]

Did not start until my 30s.
Typically 30 year virgin
Well almost.
Had 3 GFs short term relationships prior to seeing SPs
Sex wasn’t very good up to then
Was complaining to one of my friends about all the bad sex I had in my life.
And how hard it was to find good partner
He was bachelor and didn’t have any trouble finding girls to sleep with
He said “ Nachoy, I know exactly what you need.”
Took me to a massage parlor , He knew all the girls and set me up with SP who gave “good service”
Didn’t know what to expect.
Was actually scared, just sat there
But nothing to worry and she gave me a really long CBJ
Felt too easy
I was unprepared. Told her I had no cash and promise I would go to ATM and pay her later

 

[Daffy]

I just had my first hobby experience a few weeks ago, eventually I'll do my second try.

2 years without sex.

About 4 years ago my partner started having problems down there, at first it was a bit of pain during and after intercourse and that delayed our relationships to once a week, once a month, once every 4 months... And the last time before the 2 years was almost 8 months...

Her condition affected our relationship outside the bedroom... Long walks? Pain... Bicycle ride? Pain... Tight clothes? Pain... So, sex was off the table.

I never cheated... At some point she saw my frustration and out of nowhere she laid the basic rules, she said:

- I don't want to ever know/meet/cross path (with) her.
- Don't fall in love (no feelings).
- I don't want to know when it happens (I have to be the same as usual, no changes on my behavior).
- Very important, ALWAYS wear protection, if somehow I get an STD the deal is off and there will be consequences.
- The deal ends when she ask.
- No kissing (I failed this one, my first experience, the girl just took me by surprise, I didn't had the emotional energy and didn't stopped her).

That was the only time she talked about it, when she finished talking I nodded (not one word) and we continued to watch the movie.

That was a few months ago. Since then I slowly changed a bit my behavior, I started to give her longer and longer hugs after my days at the job, like seeking comfort after a long day. Why? Because I knew me, I knew that if someday I decided to try the hobby, I would feel shitty and it was my way to ask forgiveness. Man, it hurts me to write this, fuck.

As I said, my first (and only) experience was a few weeks ago.

Did I felt shitty and guilty? Absolutely.
Did it felt good? Oh yeah.
Would I do it again? For sure, eventually if the deal stands.
Do I love my partner? Yes, no doubt, never planned on leaving her and I'm grateful for the opportunity.

 

[Obvio-0bvio]

At the tender age of 13, I had my first BJ with a girl from school that awakened a deep sexual addiction within me. As the years went by, this inclination towards sexual fantasies grew even stronger, consuming my thoughts and desires. It was during my late teens, around 18 to 19 years old, that I embarked on a journey of exploring both service providers and the thrill of picking up ladies from bars.

My life became a perpetual cycle of transitioning from committed relationships to being single, and then immersing myself in the enticing world of service providers and bar encounters simultaneously. This dual pursuit of pleasure became a defining feature of my existence, adding a complex and exhilarating dimension to my sexual journey.

For over two decades, this pattern has persisted, seemingly unaltered by the passage of time.The only time I deviated from this routine was during periods of singleness,my debased nature took over and I would frequently engage with various service providers, sometimes as often as five days a week. Additionally, I would occasionally indulge in encounters with ladies I met at bars, typically three or four per month, until a new relationship knocked at my door.

This tumultuous ride has been filled with its fair share of ups and downs, yet I find myself unable to deny the allure and excitement it brings. Despite any potential regrets, I cannot help but hope that this lifestyle will endure until the inevitable decline of my sexual abilities.