How to quit the Hobby/Addiction?

[No_Church_InThe_Wild]

We fault them when they’re distant, a bit cold and impersonable. But when they are great at their craft and succeed in making us feel like we are all charmers and studs some of us end up getting lost in the fantasy and thus fault them again. In the end one must be careful what they wish for , for they might just get it .
Really glad to hear that your back enjoying yourself OnlyDoggy. I hope this time you can put your doubts to bed and try to keep things in perspective .

When you take something for what it is you can’t get disappointed .
And you can behave accordingly.

 

[ShyMan]

In the end one must be careful what they wish for , for they might just get it .

Spending so much time in the Wild where there's No Church, you certainly have gained tremendous life's wisdoms.

For me, being in Montreal more frequently and for longer durations have significantly reduced my urge and desire to see escorts. I'm more turned on by seeing so many beautiful ladies everywhere I go in and around Montreal. I'm using my disposable monies on the great foods in Montreal and the art scene. Like most men, I do need to feed the beast in me and make Junior happy--that's where escorts save the day for me. I think it would be impossible to completely quit the hobby since there are so many beautiful and talented escorts in Montreal. And why should we quit--sex is great for the mind, body and soul.

 

[letsrock2012]

Quitting??? Forget it..... maybe when you die! *hehehe*

 

[No_Church_InThe_Wild]

@ShyMan Starve the beast and feed the soul? Is that your new mantra ?

No but seriously, well said and glad to hear that your enjoying everything that this beautiful city has to offer .
Be well my friend ShyMan :smile:

 

[cloudsurf]

Hey Cloud i get your point but in fairness to Doggy he did post his review in the incall section..

If you check his words closely ,then you`ll see that he saw A.R. back when she worked at MM and not recently.

It was a nice review though.....and I`m sure deservedly so.

 

[Bbw hunter]

If you check his words closely ,then you`ll see that he saw A.R. back when she worked at MM and not recently.

It was a nice review though.....and I`m sure deservedly so.

OK did not see that Cloud. You are clearly the seasoned vet here and looks like I jumped the gun BY overlooking that. YOU are correct he refers to the past tense in his opening sentence. DUH! Sorry pal!

 

[Georgy07]

Struggling with addiction

Hey,

I don't know if this has ever been talked about previously but i still have to take a chance.

I have been struggling with sex addiction for the past few years and i feel like i just hit rock bottom. I do not have fun when i see an SP anymore, i can barely have an erection and everytime i get out of a meeting i feel terribly depressed and a bit more poor. But still, i keep booking SPs.... i think its the thrill i get out of the fantasy or the fact that i will meet "Someone new"... Anyway, i just cant stand it anymore and i need your help!

Have you guys ever been through that? Any tricks or tips to get out of this?

Trust me, i am dead serious about my will to stop this but i still cant seem to find a way to stay out of it!

Thank you very much and have a good day

 

[613ottawaguy]

Stop masturbating to porn and give up jerking off in general. Go out and meet women outside of this hobby. Hang out with friends or do something to keep yourself very busy. Meditate for an hour every morning for at least 6 month. This will help you with your addiction.

 

[jalimon]

Happy234 go consult. Its the only way out. By admitting your problem here you already did a big step. Now you gotta let it out to someone that can really help.

cheers,

 

[hungry101]

Yes, This is when you know you've had too much. It is time to back off and go cold turkey. Last year I was in FKK land in between business calls and fucking everything that moved. My dick was actually sore! I remember I was bummed out but I couldn't leave. Too much stimula. So I got in the car and I drove to a historical landmark 3 or 4 hours away and I had the time of my life touring this historical site. It really changed my life. I got so much more out of it than another day seeing...well fine women by anyone's accounts but enough is enough.

You really need to get away from it. The hobby is like eating birthday cake. Can you imagine if you ate a birthday cake everyday for a month? You would be sick to death of it.

 

[jalimon]

Last year I was in FKK land in between business calls and fucking everything that moved. My dick was actually sore!

This could have been me meeting Hungry at that FKK...

Me: Hey Hungry what’s up fishing’s good?
Hungry: Ho men unfuckenbeleivable... fucking everything that moves... what bout you?
Me: I’m standing still!!

 

[hungry101]

^^^ Good one.

No but my point is that you need a break from the none stop fucking. I am a binge hobbyist, I admit it but I was hitting all the FKKs on the weekends and escorts during the week. My dick actually had a sore on it. It is sort of like golfing without a glove. One has to develop a bit of a callus on your left hand. The same is true for fucking. My dick was sore, my back was sore, my neck was sore. The best thing I ever did was go to the WWI site and see the Last Post. I made friends with other people touring and we had dinner and went to a pub...etc. And opened my eyes to a world event I had never really thought about and have been reading about off and on ever since.

I wasn't done with the hobby. I was just done with it for that trip.

 

[613ottawaguy]

Aren't we all here addicts? The ladies are our dealer. Lol.

But I can understand that it is seriously bad for some people. Take my advice. It will help you.

 

[MrProfiteroles]

Aren't we all here addicts? The ladies are our dealer.

Yes we are but the bookers are our dealers and the ladies our drug! Lol!

 

[donbusch]

It’s like alcohol. Most can enjoy it responsibly while some become alcoholics. It’s not a matter of willpower, just how one’s brain is wired.

If u’re prone to alcoholism or hobbyism then best to seek professional help and abstain completely.

 

[2fast2slow]

ive had more than a few moments where i REALLY regretted my encounter. It was either because:

* I 'stayed' rather than bailing before the encounter started when i realized I was not attracted to the person i just met 3 seconds ago
* not being able to get hard during an encouunter even though I am attracted (see my thread on rebooting my brain -
https://merb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?179548-Time-to-reboot-my-brain&highlight=reboot)
* despite being attracted and able to get hard not enjoying encouter because the provider offers bad service

To add insult to injury, you then proceed to pay a relatively large sum of money for something you did not enjoy. Man, I have felt bad in those situations, and even questioned many times if I have a problem/addiction.

Strangely, however, I never felt like I had a problem when I had a good encounter :smile: To the conntrary I feel like it was money very well spent, that my soul is refreshed, etc...

The trick is to not have (or greatly reduce) those bad encounters. If you are having trouble getting hard, and are a habitual porn user, reboot your brain. I did it a few months ago, and now I so much moore enjoy sex, i am back to being like a teenager, even sometimes not being able to withhold comming.

 

[613ottawaguy]

Yes we are but the bookers are our dealers and the ladies our drug! Lol!

Ah true lmao!

I actually want to be a booker myself but I'd imagine it would be allot of hassle and money to invest. Those guys are living the dream! Making money by being a pimp without really being one.

If this shit was more legal and lot less shady in the public eyes then Id open my own agency! I would personally see the girls and display the service acronyms they provide.

 

[Fradi]

^^^^

I think being a booker/owner would be the last thing I would want to be.
Can you imagine trying to mange 20 or so 21-25 year old gorgeous young women, what an impossible task.

No thanks I will stick to seeing my ATF and occasionally some others, I value my sanity.

 

[613ottawaguy]

^^^


Well you can always hire people to manage the girls for you. You can be the owner and financial backer. Doesn't mean you have to get practical.

 

[Melyssa]

Peux-t-on vraiment quitter ce hobby ?

Je pense que oui et non en quelque sorte. Bien quand on a un brin d’amour pour soi.