How to say : I will never take you as customer to someone ??

[Sexy_BBW_Véro]

The question is ... How to say on the telephone that we are not interested to take someone as customers?

If a girl don't like your voice or your manners on the first contact by telephone ... how she can tell you clearly that she will never see you ... and in a way to don't hurt you ?

Your help will be very appreciated because seriously, some people just never understand when we tell them that we are not available every time they called during the last 3 months

I think that is just normal to we need to have good feeling on the first contact if not, it will be better for both of us to you go see someone else ... Am I wrong?

 

[Dragonatic]

How to say on the telephone that we are not interested to take someone as customers?

Here is your answer : Sorry but I don't want you as a customers.

Don't waste your time searching how you can do this....

And you said "to don't hurt you", well.... the guy that is calling you he is not talking to his girlfriend, he is talking to a pure stranger for him...... and he is talking to someone he will pay to have sex....(most of the time.. ).. So... Be yourself, be honest and tell him the truth!! Who cares if you hurt him?? There is many other sp he can see... He don't own you!

 

[Horny B]

The question is ... How to say on the telephone that we are not interested to take someone as customers?

If a girl don't like your voice or your manners on the first contact by telephone ... how she can tell you clearly that she will never see you ... and in a way to don't hurt you ?

Your help will be very appreciated because seriously, some people just never understand when we tell them that we are not available every time they called during the last 3 months

I think that is just normal to we need to have good feeling on the first contact if not, it will be better for both of us to you go see someone else ... Am I wrong?

Sweet Vero, I think you already said it all. Just explain that the first contact over the phone, is very important for you, that you must feel the vibe with the prospect customer. That unfortunately not feeling this Vibe with him, will most likely, according to your experience, make that you will not be able to give the Level of Service that he Would expect and is Entitled to.
Therefore as you have stated " it would better for both of you that he go see someone else" You will most probably have the Frustrated one that will unfortunately tell you to F.O. but at least he shouldn't call you for 3 months. I guess that those bad experience come with the territory.

 

[HG Hunter]

You could generalize the statement and say "I'm sorry, but I'm not taking on any new clients at this time."
That way, the message is as clear as can be, and you've not said anything the caller could take as a personal affront.

If it's someone you've seen before, then Horny B's approach shold be good. Explain that there was no chemistry on your end, therefore you don't feel taht you could deliver a quality session and that's not fair to the client.

 

[Sexy_BBW_Véro]

It's not someone I have seen before ...

If I say to someone that I don't take new customers ... he will tell me that he just saw my ads and It's not write in it.

I'm telling you ... it's not 1 person ... it's about 3 or 4 guys ... they call me almost every day that i'm working since 3 months and they didn't realized since all of this time ... I always answered that I was not available with a bad attitude ... I don't know what to do to they stop calling my cell phone

 

[Sexy_BBW_Véro]

Sweet Vero, I think you already said it all. Just explain that the first contact over the phone, is very important for you, that you must feel the vibe with the prospect customer. That unfortunately not feeling this Vibe with him, will most likely, according to your experience, make that you will not be able to give the Level of Service that he Would expect and is Entitled to.
Therefore as you have stated " it would better for both of you that he go see someone else" You will most probably have the Frustrated one that will unfortunately tell you to F.O. but at least he shouldn't call you for 3 months. I guess that those bad experience come with the territory.

Maybe ... I will try this one tomorrow!
they will tell me bad words i'm pretty sure ... because it's exactly the reason why I don't want to see them ... they seems to be kind of controlant guys and they don't seems to have any respect for a woman if you know what I mean ...

 

[albacore]

If a girl don't like your voice or your manners on the first contact by telephone ... how she can tell you clearly that she will never see you ... and in a way to don't hurt you ?... some people just never understand when we tell them that we are not available every time they called during the last 3 months.

I think that is just normal to we need to have good feeling on the first contact if not, it will be better for both of us to you go see someone else ... Am I wrong?

Totally normal (for both client and provider) to have a good vibe when you make that first contact, esp. when the provider is an Indy (as you're usually in contact with the SP directly). From the client's side, if you don't feel like the SP is in a good mood, sounds tired, sounds disinterested, sounds like she's seen too many clients that day, etc., just move on. Spend your hard earned money elsewhere. Better that you know right away, no? Being turned down is a normal part of hobbying. Just have to learn not to take it personally. (sh)it happens.

If the SP doesn't have a good vibe about you, she'll let you know in a subtle way or more directly. I agree with Horny B's subtle suggestion (good one) which would be honest from your side. You don't think you would be able to give your best to the client so, better he moves on and get the satisfaction he's looking for somewhere else. There's a good number of BBW's in town, there's choice. Just because you advertise your services does not mean you are obliged to take everyone. Of course not.

Maybe these guys can't take rejection, even if it's done in a nice way. Who knows. Bonne chance Vero!

 

[Miss Maria]

Vero, this is a very touchy subject and even though I value direct honesty, I prefer to opt for a more polite subtle way when dealing with this kind of uncomfortable situation. It isn't easy.

I find some men have a very difficult time taking rejection from a girl in general. I mean, it is never fun being rejected but when you feel confident and secure with yourself, you don't usually take it too personally. If a guy in a bar offers me a drink or invites me to dance and I say no thank you I am not interested, they often turn around and say something like 'whore'. Seeing this difficulty taking rejection from a 'regular girl', it seems to me that it would just be even harder when contacting a working girl. Some guys think that because they are willing to give money, that any working girl can belong to them whenever they want. They see escorts as the lowest of the lows and if you get rejected by THAT imagine what that makes of you. You can't even get a girl to pleasure you even if you pay her. I can see how this rejection could easily affect the self-esteem of a person who might already have a fragile self esteem in the first place.

Anyhow, trying to be diplomat when rejecting someone can be a difficult task. Maybe I would use something along these line: I am very flattered by your desire to spend time with me and I thank you very much for choosing me but unfortunately I do not feel comfortable meeting with you. Please respect my choice. I wish you the best of luck in your searches.

Hope this can help a little!

Maria
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[spindoc]

say no

A woman always has the right to say no, if you say that simple and straight and the guy doesn't get it then you are right not to want to take them as a client in the first place.

 

[master_bates]

maybe they are members here and they will get the point by reading this thread

 

[Sexy_BBW_Véro]

maybe they are members here and they will get the point by reading this thread

I wish ...

 

[HG Hunter]

It's not someone I have seen before ...

If I say to someone that I don't take new customers ... he will tell me that he just saw my ads and It's not write in it.

I'm telling you ... it's not 1 person ... it's about 3 or 4 guys ... they call me almost every day that i'm working since 3 months and they didn't realized since all of this time ... I always answered that I was not available with a bad attitude ... I don't know what to do to they stop calling my cell phone

Just tell them that the ad is always there to remind your established clients that you are still there and willing to see them. There is a lot of competition and you don't want to be forgotten when your boys are looking around for their next adventure.

 

[Sexy_BBW_Véro]

If I didn't know any better, I'd say this whole thread is an attempt at cheap publicity.

I'm certain I'm wrong.

You know me enough to know that you're wrong

It's more a way to make some points clear with some persons who must read merb ... like master bates said ... but i'm still taking the suggestion in case I still need it later

 

[Turbodick]

Triple your rates.

 

[Jman47]

Anyhow, trying to be diplomat when rejecting someone can be a difficult task. Maybe I would use something along these line: I am very flattered by your desire to spend time with me and I thank you very much for choosing me but unfortunately I do not feel comfortable meeting with you. Please respect my choice. I wish you the best of luck in your searches.

From the male perspective...Well put. You are correct in that most men do not handle rejection well at all. But, prolonged rejection or indirect rejection can even be worse ....because in the male mind there is "still the possibility for something" since they have not been told "NO".

They key to your answer is not that you said no...which you did; it is HOW you said no. This principle is true in any business. The one who is told no WILL feel rejected no matter what...it just stings a little less if it is done, as you say...diplomatically and I will add, yet directly.

 

[CLOUD 500]

Vero, this is a very touchy subject and even though I value direct honesty, I prefer to opt for a more polite subtle way when dealing with this kind of uncomfortable situation. It isn't easy.

Anyhow, trying to be diplomat when rejecting someone can be a difficult task. Maybe I would use something along these line: I am very flattered by your desire to spend time with me and I thank you very much for choosing me but unfortunately I do not feel comfortable meeting with you. Please respect my choice. I wish you the best of luck in your searches.

Hope this can help a little!

Maria
XXXX

Personally... me I would prefer a more direct answer because sugar coating a rejection hurts more then a direct one. But that is just me. Many times giving a diplomatic answer will give hope to the customer that there is a chance. Kind of like telling a stripper when prompted for dances "I will dance you later". She might keep on coming back. I like your answer as it communicates the message directly but I do not believe it is necessary to sugar coat the answer. My two cents.

 

[Lily from Montreal]

I usually write back that I do not feel I am the right person for him...that way it takes the focus out of him,I do not reject him per se, I try to convey that he needs someone else ...

Of course since I do not deal with my potential friends on the phone it does allow me a certain distanciation. Even that way I found out that a flat no is potential for an escalation of insult, and it worse I am sure for phone conversation.

It is true that because there is a money aspect to our type of meeting that some thinks that we should accept anybody...people are always suprise when I told them au contraire I refuse about 80% of demands...I prefer to miss on a nice meeting than taking chances...if I get any bad vibes it is a no-no

Even being this careful I still had once to change my phone number because someone I met became too shall we say possessive...

good luck Vero

 

[Aryaan]

I think by being honest, u are actually doing a favor to the client, I would prefer not to see a lady, rather than have an unsatisfactory and no-fun experience with her. And also Montreal has a lot of choices.

How to be polite in saying no: Well as u said u can say I am not looking for anyone new, and the ad is for my clients to know that I am available. Or if u think the client is not polite and professional on the phone do mention it to him. Or u could just say "I don't think we are going to have the same chemistry, and i prefer not seeing you for the fact that I will not be doing justice to your money and your time that will be wasted"
All the best.

 

[sinbad]

Of course a girl has every right to see who she pleases, but surely the point here is that a guy being refused on the basis of a phone call is confused. What is the reason for the refusal? What has he done wrong? He is not likely to figure this out. The bad vibes come from somewhere. Decide what creeps you out and give a reason based on this feeling. Is he too aggressive, too demanding, asking for services you don't provide. Certainly, you don't have to give a reason, but I think you've got a better chance of getting rid of him if he has some idea of what you dislike.

Sinbad

 

[CLOUD 500]

I do not think it really matters why a SP choose to refuse a client. She has her reasons... after all even if it is being done for money she will have to be very intimate with the customer. Having said that my point is the way the refusal is conveyed. I believe the direct response is always the way to go. Leaving any chance for a future callback will only prolonge the uncomfortable situation for both the SP and client. It has to be clear that she is not interested in seeing this customer but it can be done in a tactile way. Maybe giving him a reason will give the potential customer some closure on this.