A close and very popular SP friend of mine reached out to me recently about a situation she had come up while out on a dinner date with a client. She was asking my advice and thoughts about it and I suggested a thread to hear how others felt on the matter besides just mine. She does not post on Merb other than to advertise and agreed for me to post about this and she welcomes everyones opinions, thoughts and advice on her situation about how you would have handled it. I won't name the lady so I kindly ask you to please respect her privacy and do not ask.
So here is what happened, my sp friend was out on a sp/client dinner date at a local restaurant and she was approached by a gf (who has no idea she is a sp) and as the gf was talking she used my friends real name, real address, talked about family and other things that my friend would have never talked about with a client and of course the client heard all of this. My friend could not stop her gf from talking because afterall she was on a "date" and her gf might have thought it was weird if she did not act normal in that situation and remember the gf has NO IDEA that her friend is a sp. My friend was very upset and excused herself to the restroom (after the gf left her table) to get herself together and to regain her composure. She felt so bad she just wanted to end the date but being a professional, she decided to return and continue.
What came next in my opinion was completely wrong and goes against protocol of being a "client" in this business. The guy started using the sp's real name to address her and did so the rest of the evening. He also asked questions about personal things in her life that he overheard and she was very uncomfortable and asked him to stop but he didn't so she sped up the date as much as she could. She just wanted to get out of there and back to the hotel so she had some kind of privacy and not be around a lot of people and remember she was really upset as she is a very private person and discretion is always expected. Being the professional she is and the total sweetheart she is, she did not want to ruin the clients evening since he had it planned for some time so she stayed until the service was complete then left an hour early. She is very popular so it was not about the money but like I said she is a sweetheart and has a huge heart. And for the record, if the client was not talking about her private stuff and using her real name she would have had no problem to continue the date as planned but the fact he did not respect her privacy really upset her. It was not his fault he heard the things he did but that is where it should have stopped.
Her questions are:
1. Should she have left the restaurant immediately and cancelled the date then or did she make the good decision to stay even tho she was NOT happy with the way the client handled the situation?
2. Was it ok for him to talk about what he heard and to call her by her real name?
3. Ladies, has this ever happened to you and how did you react? or how do you think you would handle it if this does happen at some point in the future?
4. Guys, have you ever had a friend/friends come up to you on a date with a sp when out in public? How did or would you handle it?
Thoughts and opinions are welcome because she is still very confused about the whole situation and wonders what to do if this ever happens again and under those same circumstances of how a client might invade her personal and/or private space.
I have my own opinions about this which I have shared with her and lets just say she is a better person than I for staying and continuing the "date" because I would have been out of there quicker than roadrunner running from Wile E. Coyote if someone broke the "code of conduct" in this business regarding discretion and used info that he had no business doing so, whether he heard it by accident or not. It was blatant disrespect in my mind.
Thoughts???
So here is what happened, my sp friend was out on a sp/client dinner date at a local restaurant and she was approached by a gf (who has no idea she is a sp) and as the gf was talking she used my friends real name, real address, talked about family and other things that my friend would have never talked about with a client and of course the client heard all of this. My friend could not stop her gf from talking because afterall she was on a "date" and her gf might have thought it was weird if she did not act normal in that situation and remember the gf has NO IDEA that her friend is a sp. My friend was very upset and excused herself to the restroom (after the gf left her table) to get herself together and to regain her composure. She felt so bad she just wanted to end the date but being a professional, she decided to return and continue.
What came next in my opinion was completely wrong and goes against protocol of being a "client" in this business. The guy started using the sp's real name to address her and did so the rest of the evening. He also asked questions about personal things in her life that he overheard and she was very uncomfortable and asked him to stop but he didn't so she sped up the date as much as she could. She just wanted to get out of there and back to the hotel so she had some kind of privacy and not be around a lot of people and remember she was really upset as she is a very private person and discretion is always expected. Being the professional she is and the total sweetheart she is, she did not want to ruin the clients evening since he had it planned for some time so she stayed until the service was complete then left an hour early. She is very popular so it was not about the money but like I said she is a sweetheart and has a huge heart. And for the record, if the client was not talking about her private stuff and using her real name she would have had no problem to continue the date as planned but the fact he did not respect her privacy really upset her. It was not his fault he heard the things he did but that is where it should have stopped.
Her questions are:
1. Should she have left the restaurant immediately and cancelled the date then or did she make the good decision to stay even tho she was NOT happy with the way the client handled the situation?
2. Was it ok for him to talk about what he heard and to call her by her real name?
3. Ladies, has this ever happened to you and how did you react? or how do you think you would handle it if this does happen at some point in the future?
4. Guys, have you ever had a friend/friends come up to you on a date with a sp when out in public? How did or would you handle it?
Thoughts and opinions are welcome because she is still very confused about the whole situation and wonders what to do if this ever happens again and under those same circumstances of how a client might invade her personal and/or private space.
I have my own opinions about this which I have shared with her and lets just say she is a better person than I for staying and continuing the "date" because I would have been out of there quicker than roadrunner running from Wile E. Coyote if someone broke the "code of conduct" in this business regarding discretion and used info that he had no business doing so, whether he heard it by accident or not. It was blatant disrespect in my mind.
Thoughts???
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