Good afternoon,
I want to talk about the situation around here.
Hi Shantie,
I want to adresse a bit about this situation because i understand what you mean but i also have seen the other side being active on Twitter and seeing a lot of SW messages. Ill try to adresse every points.
1) I lot of provider don't want to post anymore on merb. In the past merb, was the reference.
I think Merb has always been seen as a necessary "evil" by certain providers. I am not saying all of course, some enjoy it, but some think the very concept of review is "gross" or they want a certain type of reviews.This can be tricky to balance. I seen the term "slhobbyst" pup often for instance.
2) 75% of all the text I receive in the day is lost of time
I can feel you on that. I personally only inquire if i have legit intention to book, that said i do not live in Montreal and its not because i text in a certain day that its to make a booking right away tough. It may be in a week or 2, i may be inquiring to see if the type of service may fit. I make very few trips to Montreal and i try to be "selective" on who i see. In your specific case i think you been always very open about what you offer or not so that extra step is not necessary and peoples shouldn't make you loose your time. But its not all providers who do.
3)
90% dont introduced themselve
(Age, name, time, day, duration, what kind of service)
When looking at an indy add, i note everything she would like to know. So if its there, ill make sure to answer it. But if its not, ill admit i may not give by default all these infos. Simply because i do not think about it.
4) 75% dont have any references or dont want to give deposit
This is the trickiest one for me. I mostly use agencies and often they do not "count" as reference. Most of the indies i saw currently are retired or do not publicaly advertise, i will admit at the moment i have not much "valid references" to provide. But im willing to provide my board handle. Would that be enough for you out of curiosity? I mean i been around for over a decade, im well known in the community. I know some providers do not like my take and would probably refuse to see me out of personal opinions. I been blocked by some on twitter for instance. That said its always about opinions and such. Im as "safe" as it can get. When it comes to deposit its really not something i want to do. Im not at ease with this. At the very worst for somebody very well reviewed/known i would be ok with a gift card concept, but im not ok with the bank transfer concept. Just a personal thing.
5) 75% last minute
This one i totally understand your point of view, but i also understand the clients point of view. As i say i am not from Montreal, i need to book in advance so in my case advance pre-booking is my way. But i have a friend who told me he need to be "horny" to book someone. It just happen for him. Granted myself i have a very high libido (not sure if its the right term) but what im trying to say is im kinda always "horny" lol, even the days im tired or less feeling it. So its not too much an issue for me having to work that way. Maybe last booking options work better with agencies, but even agencies these days are often 75% booked even before the first shift start. So clients need to accomodate, especially if trying to see someone popular. Anyway what im trying to say is i agree with you on this one, but its easy for me as i have a high libido.
6) 50% ask me stuff who are in my restrictions
If its clearly listed as a restriction, they shouldn't ask. Im with you on that.
7)
Stop to compare provider...
Put ahead the good quality of them not only physical.....
My better sex experience was with a heart not a body.
Comparing when going for a "service" is sadly something that come up naturally. Its not with bad intents. I do try personally to put all the positive and look is only a part of what make a great encounter that way, but its what may draw me to someone originally (unless we meet in a party or have several online interaction and i feel i would really get a good time with that person) I agree on last part as i had stellar meetings where the providers was not the hottest ever. If i have to choose between a super hot one that is disinterested and give me the vibe she would rather be anywhere but there at that moment, or one that is not as "bomshell" but is fully into it, of course i choose the latest.
8)
Be prepare, clean, listen.
Make her feel at her best.
Be generous..
Please be smart and don't encourage any bad bisness....
I always do the first line, and i always try to be friendly and make her feel at ease, altough i myself have still some shyness in meetings even over a decade later, sometimes resulting funny enough in me talking too much or being all over the place lol. This can be ease up a lot when the provider is friendly and nice tough. As for being generous well... im assuming you mean gifts and tips, but you have to understand its not everyone that is that way. Ill be honest with you, i save money to see providers, and altough i don't mind paying for extras (its only normal) , thats as much as i usually go. In outcall i often have beers (and i drink micros, not commercial, so its always quality stuff) these days so i offer it but i don't go out of my way to buy an expensive bottle of wine or other fancy stuff. I only book 1h too tough i don't feel its much of a requirement to have an open bar if you know what i mean. In incall i assume she got what she need there so i never bring anything. I don't drink myself before sex, just after, and in incall i got to leave when its done so...
Im not sure what you meant in the last line. I try to stick with merb and avoid shady ads myself, but some guys just like the thrill of "the hunt" so i guess to each their own...
9)
The thing I like to know, it's if you looking for :
1. solo or duo :
2. gfe or pse or dom :
3. incall or outcall:
4. Which day ?
5. What time ?
6. Duration of the session :
7. What you are looking for (specific request) :
Location : xx
Thats a lot to cram in a first text imo and ill be honest i would never think of putting all of that. For instance maybe its just me and how i operate but a provider or agency booker should assume that if unspecify, you want a solo and 1h. I think a duo inquiry will be specifically mentioned as well as peoples who enjoy multiple hours. The rare times i get the time question its at the end when all is set, i just reply yeah 1 hour is fine for me. Some of the rest tough is totally normal to provide like wich day and time slot (i usually suggest one but im open to a counter offer).
10) For the review : only possitive should be allowed. If negative will be about the cleaning, bad organisation, bad connexion, bad hygiene.
This i disagree. I think a review should be honest. There is obviously ways to say stuff politely. But if something was really not to your liking, mentioning it may help others who like the same thing or maybe even be a constructive criticism for the provider. That said your last points cover mostly what can make things go south to me. I put "connection" in the same basket as chemistry but also "not trying", disinterested etc.
10) I think we should not put gfe or pse on à service.
I think GFE is well defined in montreal, altough PSE can be a bit more "variable". Some says PSE is greek/anal, for me its mostly facial. Its just the term PSE is kinda easier/classier than saying the porn theme in my opinion. But maybe its just me that is kinda shy to ask "i would like to do a facial, is that ok" lol.
I will conclude this first post in saying that the same feeling you been seeing among providers toward merb, i been seeing it as a client toward providers who use social medias. I don't want to be rude, but i feel some providers really are more "entitled" these days or are just expressing it more than before. I agree with Captain Fantastic. Since Covid it seem the indy side has been cranking their rates off the roof, asking for more things (deposits, more reference, full names etc) and just as he says, trying to change the culture of Montreal overall. Thats their right, but its also ours to like the old ways and decide not to partake. I don't think i can say much more because Merb Moderation has been very picky about talking rates in the last couple years, even when not targetting a specific provider, but lets just say that Hotels, Plane tickets etc are not cheap. Having to constantly tour is probably taking up a chunk of that money. And reason for touring so often (unless they love visiting these places that much), is likely because they ain't getting enough business in Montreal and well ill let you put 2 and 2 together.
But i do agree with you we should make effort on both side. I know some clients are just time wasters or plain bad peoples. I heard about it and i seen some text. I understand providers get cranked up fast and put some major rules sometimes to avoid these. That said, i will say there is a few providers i would had likely book by now if not for certain restrictions in booking (deposit etc). I respect their decision to do business that way, but in doing so they remove me as a client and surely others. Some may be happy to not get my business because im not a high roller and its what they want, but if their "screening" would be a bit more open (allowing a merb long time handle for instance) then i would book. When i see an expensive indy post "available" every day in her add thread im like ... well... business must be low. But why you think?
I feel there is a client/provider arm wrestling at this time, and its about who will "break" first to shape the futur of Montreal. It shouldn't be that way. We should all make efforts.
