I hate my job too!

[UHGL]

This is just to say I hate my job and I understand we all hate our jobs.

It doesn't surprise me that SP's hate their jobs just like everyone else. Nor does it upset me if they state it. I wish I could tell you that, if a SP posted that I was a bad lay or she was faking it the whole time or I made her vomit afterwards, because she was so disgusted with what she had to do for money(me)........ that I would quit hobbying...... yeah, right! that's so not going to happen!

As with everyone that I deal with, I admire their professionalism and politeness, and if I had to guess, I would bet that they hated their jobs too, no matter what they do for a living. I think it is rare that someone hates me personally, and for the most part I don't take it that way.

If you are a SP that is reading this, and you somehow think you know who I am, please PM me, if you are, in any way not happy with our session and how I could make it better for the next SP that I book. I promise I will not attack you on any board and I will honestly listen to your advice.

Also if any SP or Client wants to book me for a discounted rate of $120 per hour, just to vent, talk or do anything else you want to do that is non-physical(yes, this means you cannot kill/torture me- for $120 an hour)........ you know all the bullsh*t that SP's seem to love at the start of the session, before they lose their clothes. Since this is only for you and I get no enjoyment out of it, how about you pay me for my services? I swear I will be pure spineless, understanding BFE and I will agree with everything you say. It will be a perfect fantasy for you, I won't walk away from you or turn on the TV during our session or try to change the subject..... for your cash we can talk about anything you like. Hell, as a extra, you can stay fully dressed and I will be totally naked to give you a sense of having more power. When I get rich and too tired of hearing your stories and drama, I will retire and post how I hated listening to all your bitching and that I really didn't care, what you felt..... it was just all about the money, just like almost everyone else. HA! Okay, this part is a joke!

I have never had a job that I would do for free. In the sense of a job or career, Love is vastly overrated.

I sincerely hope that all of us understand that SP'ing is a job, most likely the SP doesn't really care about us, it's just good business to provide us with our fantasy, that everyone is entitled to having their own opinions and lastly we should all try to treat each other nicely, respect each other and try to make our hobby fun for everyone.

 

[Special K]

All jokes aside as far as them hating their jobs that is really out of our control but as clients(johns) we can do certain things to make there time as pleasent as possible such as being freshly showered, being polite and friendly at all times, nothing short of this should be acceptable if you are a decent person.

Herein lies the problem though Daringly, decency, there's way too many disrespectful, dirty, straight up pieces of shit that these ladies are forced to deal with. I can see how it would get to anyone eventually, some alot quicker than others though.

SK

 

[UHGL]

thats great, now bend over while i whip this out, and well see how that $120 looks.

sorry, don't mean to come down on you but untill we have walked in thier shoes...

HA! Too funny! Read my post again. What services was I offering for $120?

Don't get all passive aggressive on me, attack me than say you're sorry. Just be honest and tell me what you think. We all have our own opinions on everything, and I seriously doubt any of us can alter any other person's thought process.

Try walking in my shoes, you'll stumble in my footstep.........Depeche Mode

 

[UHGL]

i would probably hate my job, too... if i had one.

where does one find these 'job' things? i'm currently travelling the world and can't seem to find a single one! what's wrong with me, dr.?

oh wait... are you a real dr.?

No, but I play one, in the fantasy world in my mind........ think "Nip Tuck"

 

[Possum Trot]

SK,

I agree with you, over the years i have heard many a story from sp's about rude, rough, and disrespectful clients. If they do this long enough sooner or later they are going to meet clients who are pieces of shit.

I have, perhaps surprisingly, heard very few stories about a**hole clients. I admit I deal with only one segment of the business and this may skew the results.

Or perhaps I just make every other client seem more desirable

 

[Dee]

I seriously doubt any of us can alter any other person's thought process.

I used to think we could, but you've changed my mind.

 

[UHGL]

Thank you everyone for your comments. I hope everyone who has commented understands what this thread is about. For the people who do not understand how my random thought pattern works, I will try to clear up my first post.

Many people hate their jobs

Most people only go to work for money

It is okay to tell people you hate your job

We should not attack people who post they hate their jobs

If you are a SP, please post WHY you hate your job, to help out the clients, who are nice enough to care about your feelings. You do not have to post because you feared for your life, I believe most MERBites would never threaten you with physical violence, and the ones that would, are laughing at this whole post. Feel free to post things like you hate clients asking for free services or your personal cell phone numbers or trying to go to the Greek isles without a official boarding pass........ I think quite a few clients assume too much.

This is a pro-hobby board, so just telling us that this is the worst job you have ever had, without a reason, is just like saying "F" all of you..... but if you mentioned ways we could make it better for you and the rest of the SP's, that would have a positive impact, while still letting people know about your negative experience.

Most clients will never make as much as a SP in a hourly rate.

Some clients don't like excessive small talk or long shower times. Most clients will never get paid $180 per hour to take a shower, smoke a cigerette or talk about meaningless subjects. Most clients don't expect you to lead in the session or not to take a shower, but most clients are clock watchers just as most SP's are clock watchers(to be professional & to respect their next clients & drivers). Most clients feel better if they pay for a hour, to spend most of it naked with you than most of it fully clothed.

I don't hate a certain SP for posting that this was the worst job she has ever had or to tell everyone to have fun in our dirty hobby.

I do wish that she would have tried to explain why it was her worst job or give us a clue on how to make it better.

I do not like that people are attacking her, because they do not like her honest opinion.

I think it is perfectly natural to only do a job for the money. This is nothing to get upset over.

Okay, that is what my post was really about. Sorry, I lied, I really don't hate my job........ but still, I really only do it for the money.

Thank you again everyone for reading and adding your opinions!

 

[UHGL]

this is what i did?or was it not enough clear?
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ok i modified my post

No, it was clear. Thank you for your honesty and sharing of your personal experiences.

For the most part, things that you hated about this hobby, are not things that many MERBite could change or that even apply to us. I don't believe many MERBites would attack you(I could be wrong on this one, I have only met 5 face to face), I am sorry, but as a woman, I believe you will always have this fear of violence, regardless of what you do for a living. There will always be violent men that hate women. If we are fat, old or ugly, this is not something we can easily change. I don't believe for the most part that there is a high percentage of MERBites that are cops.

The thing we can do something about, is to kick out all our loser friends, before the Escort gets there, that just want to gawk at the Escort, so there will not be a surprise behind the hotel room door of a crowd of strange men.

I am glad you found a job that let's you express yourself without driving you crazy. Good luck with that. If you ever meet a heavy Asian guy about your grandfather's age from Las Vegas, please ask him if he is UHGL? I would love to just talk & share a drink with you in a bar you feel safe in.

 

[kimthesexystripper]

bonne réponse lol

 

[montreal_monk01]

You just do not spit in the hands that once fed you!!

Hating my job is one thing. Spitting in the hands that once fed me in another thing (mainly when no one pulled a trigger and forced me to do it).
Bottom line, it is a question of attitute and class: I am sure that classy women like Vicky (XXXtase), Tamara (Indy) or Kim (Devilish) have no deeply embedded enraging frustration (in regards with the hobby) pending to explode once they retire Given ultimate choice, they would have probably not chosen the hobby, but they are at it and respect the good it is providing to them. My 2 cents that once retired, their class will show up and they will just quit with grace. And that's why gracious pearls like Vicky, Tamara and Kim will always be remembered as legends, while others will leave their mark as simple BUMS!

 

[montreal_monk01]

Maria Divina,
You're way too classy, so I know you would have never left as a bum!

 

[UHGL]

The number 1 thing I hate (and I'm pretty sure I'm not the only one) is a client who asks do you have a boyfriend
answer one : you say no... then most of the time the client goes on and on about who it's impossible because you're cute, nice, bla bla bla
answer two: you say yes... then it's the "I dont understand a guy who lets his girlfriend do that" topic that goes on for 5 minutes

bottom line: you don't really want know, we don't really want to talk about it, it doesn't change anything in the client-sp relationship so

could you please avoid that question

kim xxx

Thank you Kim, I have never asked that question and now I am glad that I never did. I agree with you.

 

[UHGL]

Except when :

1-I agree with the idea of asking if i got a boyfriend or not...is not a really good idea.... and i can add that a lots of questions about my life, when they're asked one after another one...it was not good too!!! That made me feel to be in front of a journalist, or a policeman... Really not good for putting the right mood...Just talk about generality, and if you desire to share... your life, your preoccupations, your kids, your wife, sports, travels...anything else.... as you wish...

2-That's really, but really nice and simple to offer something to drink when the lady is arriving... even is water...!!! That's a welcoming think to put someone more at ease.... When a man didn't do, i did have the impression that something wrong just happen, and putting some doubt about how the rest of the "secret meeting" will continue... Am i alone in that case?? Just don't know...But experience in life show me clearly that i am, generally, like a lots of women for my tastes and expectations....

3- Yes, when a man want to do something that i didn't want, like....a)Insisting to do something i just say "No" to or b)just want to do something without asking if i'm willing to....That's clear that was unwanted and, THAT, i just HATED it...!!! Total irrespectual attitude...!!!


Remember that is really, but really important to be fresh clean, just minutes ago....Not the shower of the morning... ...and fresh breath too!!!!!!! ...and to be polite and cordial... ....hahahahaha....
And to have fun ....

Thank you Maria for your input and advice. Although I would hope by now that MERBites would know to offer some basic refreshments and be as clean as they can be before the session. As long as you keep meeting men who don't take these basic steps, please keep mentioning them.

About talking about your personal life, I think most of your clients are going to have a hard time doing that. I briefly met you at the December 2007 GT at The De La Montagne, and I found you so easy to talk to and you have this very caring look in your eyes when you speak. I think you make men forget that you are a Escort and not their date. I normally don't get too personal in my conversations, because I normally don't feel that much of a emotional connection with a lot of the younger SP's......... with you I think it would be hard to respect your privacy, but I will try, now that I know that it is wrong.

About understanding a Escort's limitations, this is something I always respect.

Thank you again Maria, for your tips and insights.

 

[Maxime]

Ce thread est des plus intéressants à mon sens. Il est vrai que ces filles font un travail d'abord et avant tout, une activité génératrice de revenus. Alors, il est totalement STUPIDE de penser que ces filles vont tomber en amour avec nous même si on devient un client régulier, et qu'on les gête énormément.

C'est d'ailleurs une des raisons pour laquelle je suis consommateur de SP. Je n'ai pas à me soucier des sentiments de la fille, je peux être comme je suis, je n'ai pas à m'inquiéter de ma performance et de ce que je suis physiquement.

Je suis évidemment poli, respectueux et doux avec les filles que je rencontre. C'est une règle d'or pour moi! Et je sonne un petit pourboire à celles que j'ai senti un effort pour me satisfaire. Pour les remercier et leur montrer que j'ai apprécié leur effort et leur compagnie, pas pour qu'elles tombent en amour avec moi!

Par contre, je ne suis pas d'accord UHGL avec toi quand tu dis qu'il n'y a que Vicky, Kim et Tamara de mémorables dans le milieu. Bien sûr, tu viens de parler des 3 plus grosses légendes de l'escorting montréalais en ce moment. Pour avoir rencontré Kim à 2 reprises, il est vrai que cette demoiselle se démarque remarquablement des autres!

Mais il y a plein de SP qui donnent un bon service et qui s'efforcent vraiment de donner satisfaction à leurs clients! Voici celles que j'ai rencontrées qui m'ont donné satistaction, non seulement à moi mais à d'autres aussi:

Annabelle (ex-Celine's fantaisies, maintenant indy, que de sensualité!)

Marie-Eve d'Asservissante (une vraie tornade au lit, plein d'énergie, presque autant de reviews que les 3 que tu as mentionnées)

Isabelle LaRochelle de montréal Sex city (une fille très drôle et unique, qui pourrait donner des bons conseils à plein de débutantes dans le milieu)

Savannah de Woman in passion (une future Annabelle, je l'adore!)

Caroline de MontréalXXXtase (experte pour embrasser et pour l'oral)

Arianne Valmont (excellente dans son style d'amante passionnée)

Et il y a plein d'autres SPS que je n'ai pas rencontrées mais que d'autres merbistes pourraient nommer...

 

[Maxime]

Et j'ai oublié également la masseuse Clara du Studio Lotus, dont j'ai été son client pendant presque 2 ans. Très sympathique, et de la sympathie naturelle! Vraiment GFE dans l'attitude (faut pas s'attendre à tout avec une masseuse)! Elle a d'ailleurs plein de bonnes reviews dans la section Montreal massage Studio Lotus, au moins le 2 tiers des reviews sont sur elle. De loin la STAR du Studio!

Si vous voulez un bon massage personnalisé avec une fille vraiment gentille et attentionnée, Clara est pour vous!

 

[Rocker74]

Alors, il est totalement STUPIDE de penser que ces filles vont tomber en amour avec nous même si on devient un client régulier, et qu'on les gête énormément.
[...]Pour les remercier et leur montrer que j'ai apprécié leur effort et leur compagnie, pas pour qu'elles tombent en amour avec moi![...]

Leçon numéro un...je m'adresse au monde entier ici. L'amour n'existe pas ce n'est qu'un mythe stupide. Un peu comme croîre à la fée des étoiles, le père Noël etc.. Alors il n'y a vraiment aucun danger qu'elle tombe en amour avec toi ou qui que ce soit d'autre.

J'ai suffisament de vécu maintenant dans la vie pour affirmer que l'amour n'existe pas...je ne l'ai jamais vu...entendu...croiser...senti...ressenti...de quelque façon que ce soit. Du moins comme il est décrit dans les livres romantique...à l'eau de rose...dans les films...pièce de théâtre ou encore légende rapporté par monsieur et madame tous le monde. Le rêve est quelque chose de puissant et nécessaire à l'humain et l'amour n'est rien d'autre qu'un rêve d'être pris pour ce que nous sommes dans une acceptation inconditionnelle. DREAM ON!

Maintenant vous parler des "SP" comme si vous parlé du barbier. Il est vrai que certaine profession peuvent laisser de glace mais d'autre sont plus difficile à gérer. Après tous elles sont des être humain et non pas des machines...les sentiments et les émotions ne sont pas quelque chose de totalement contrôlable. Vous pouvez contrôler mais parfois (et Dieu merci) ,il est possible que vous soyez subjuguer. Sinon le contrôle totale de vos émotions et de vos sentiments feront de vous un mort vivant.

Puis moi je suis pas intéresser par la nécrophilie. Je préfère un être vivant et présent et possiblement charmé. Je mets beaucoup d'effort pour que mon rituel sexuelle, sociale etc...soit le plus humanisant possible, car c'est juste dans l'échange totale que je trouve mon vrai plaisir.

Sur une autre note...quand tu n'aime pas ton job il en revient qu'à toi de le changer...de faire autre chose dans la vie. Oublier pas que quand vous aimer pas ce que vous faite, c'est quand réalité vous devriez accomplir autre chose dans la vie, mais vous vous borner à vivre pour quelque chose ou quelqu'un plutôt que vous même.

Rocker

PS:Ont dirait avec les discours que je lis ici qu'il y en à qui veulent s'assurer de toujours maintenir les SP captive de leur "travail"... mais c'est pas ça la liberté voyons.

Rocker

 

[Maxime]

Rocker74 je suis désolé mais je ne comprends pas ce que ta théorie sur l'amour vient faire sur ce thread. Pourrais-tu expliciter ton idée stp?

Pour ma part, si j'ai parlé d'amour, c'est que j'ai lu que sur ce threrad, certains avaient relevé le fait que des clients s'offusquaient de ne pas avoir vu la passion dans les yeux de la demoiselle pendant qu'ils baisaient...

Je voulais juste mentionner que ces filles font une job, et il n'est pas nécessaire qu'un client sente la passion dans les yeux d'une fille. C'est en continuité à cette déclaration que j'ai écrit ça. Et je sais que plusieurs clients tombent en amour avec une SP, et il ne faut pas penser ça jamais. Et pour le bourboire, je voulais seulement dire que, comme un client satisfait donne un pourboire au resto, j'en donne 1 à la SP c'est tout.

Je vois justement les SPS comme des êtres humains à part entière, et non pas seulement comme des machines. C'est pour ça que je tente de rendre mes rencontres agréables. Mais je sais que plusieurs clients ne le voient pas comme ça!

 

[Regular Guy]

Match-ups?

but i had a lot of "complaint"(not sure if its the right word...about my coldness....especially after a costumer attack me with a knife...yeah already happen)..always risk yourself to get a violent customer..or arrived in a place with a lot of men in the room,...get a cop...have to fuck with ugly men...my customers often had the same age than my father..or grand father...i was 19...

I can certainly sympathize with you about customers behaving badly and of course I expect that a police officer would make you nervous. As for looks and age? Well I suppose that is not something a customer can control. Perhaps sp's with this kind of problem should make this clear to the agency owner and the receptionist so they can spare the customer those cold feelings and keep the sp from having to suffer through it. I am sure the customer would have a much better time with another sp.

 

[UHGL]

Par contre, je ne suis pas d'accord UHGL avec toi quand tu dis qu'il n'y a que Vicky, Kim et Tamara de mémorables dans le milieu. Bien sûr, tu viens de parler des 3 plus grosses légendes de l'escorting montréalais en ce moment. Pour avoir rencontré Kim à 2 reprises, il est vrai que cette demoiselle se démarque remarquablement des autres!

Maxime,

Thank you for your insight. I am sorry my French is horrible at best. I did not mention Vicky, Kim or Tamara..... or really any Escorts in my post. I think you meant Montreal_Monk01? For the record, I have not met Vicky, Kim or Tamara.

 

[montreal_monk01]

I think you meant Montreal_Monk01? For the record, I have not met Vicky, Kim or Tamara.

True, he was referring to me and is saying that he does not agree that there are just Vicky, Kim or Tam as the best ones. Which is fine since it is a de-facto reality that we all have our favourites. He has his. I have mine. To ME, Kim, Vicky and Tam are the BEST of the BEST