Passionné,
So, imagine you meet a Sp, not during an encounter, but in your day to day life. It appears that after a time, when the things are getting a bit more serious between you and her, she decided to tell you that she is sp'ing (Whatever it is: escort, massage, dancing... -and she did not tell you before because, she was waiting to see if you weren't still another ordinary guy "de passage", someone there for just a couple of months) and you tell her that she has to stop for you to really believe that she is committed to you. Ok, fine, she does accept because she does love you. But after what will happen? Her income won't be the same, and I imagine you will have to help her, because you are committed and you will support her financial unbalance then, right?
I consider both sides, client and escort absolutely equal in this business, even if of course she has many more intimate physical interactions than I because that is the nature of what she does. We are both still equal. I really hate seeing people on this board refer to escorts as ..."prostitutes"..."fakes"...."money grubbers"..."whores"...all those things numerous clients have said as if they are any better. I saw some of that just a couple of days ago. Hypocrite! When I see that I think...hey asshole...you're doing exactly the same damn thing. Who the hell are you to judge when you are the foundation of what she is doing. Wake up and smell your own ass!!!
If I got involved not knowing and wanting to commit because I was in love then she has to stop. I could not love someone completely, though I may not be able to avoid some loving feelings as it happened once before, because someone who would stay in the business after is not committing herself to me as I would to her. For either side to say you have to be monogamous but if you love me you will let me continue with others is nonsense for me. That would tell me from my view either partner is not in love. It would be like a betrayal of the way I feel about what love is. In the escort's case it's also about safety in many ways. How could I be comfortable letting the person I love continue in something that can be especially unsafe or dangerous beyond normal jobs.
As for money, yeah it's the reality of survival. It cannot be ignored. But again if either person is doing something the other cannot live with you find alternative ways of making money. If I told you later after you were starting to fall in love I was also doing something illegal you could not live with but it provided a service in demand like selling (lightweight for lack of a better term) drugs would you be fine if I kept doing it because of the money despite your serious dislike with it?
If you are looking at the money issue from one side, as in it's okay to do something for you because it pays a lot and forget the situation could be the same with the other person against your strong feelings then you need to reconsider the situation and ask yourself if your own commitment is the same as what you are looking for from him.
To answer your question directly. There's always an alternative way to make money. If an escort says this is the way I know to make good money and won't change she is telling me she won't commit to love. Others may see it differently, but that's me. When I saw that escort years ago I never said anything deceptive to play with her feelings or string her along for selfish purposes or any purpose. I've found I can't do that to anyone. So now I tell you. In my view commitment is both ways. Both do or both don't. And I honor what I commit to, especially when it involves loving another person.
Cheers