Hello Booker
That's why now (and from long) some Indies are asking, sometimes, references or advance money deposit, to avoid this kind of behavior.
One of the major poster (of the past) on Merb had did it to a lots of ladies, and because I met him a couple of times, I gave him chances, but he cancel several times at last minute, and as an indy, I can't replace an encounter at last minute like that. So, he is well known now all around.
Another one was always booking at least, 2 ladies at the same time, and decided the day of the meeting, which one he prefers to see that day.... and he was even not ashame to say it to me, after a couple of time he cancelled, I was surprised how it could be possible and ask why, and that's the answer I got. And this one like to exchange long emails, several time, to say how excited he is, and how it is going to be fun to be together... So, that's a waste of time so much, and, of course, I did not want to meet him anymore, and it appears that this man is black listed by many if all ladies around. So, this kind of unrespectful people finish to be known.
So, because of those cases, I think to have soon a new politic of money deposit and references too, just to avoid the false demands & be sure to meet someone nice & feel safe, and, if someone cancelled in the past, there will be a % deposit the next time he wants to meet me, and he will lose it if he cancell again too near of the moment we should meet, because I reserve my time and refuse other demands to honor that engagement. Some say on their website: "Your time is as valuable than mine" and because I will begin to visit other cities soon, I just need to do such practice also. The nice gentlemen are always open to ladies who want to protect themselves, and they understand.