Is it possible to befriend an escort?

[DanilusVulpes]

So, before anyone comes rushing at me with the pitchforks, I'm not posting this thread for the sake of having free sessions or some other opportunistic garbage. I understand fully that it is, first and foremost, a business; it would be like asking a handyman to fix your broken pipework for gratis, simply because you're friends. No matter what, they still need money to sustain themselves.

With that out of the way, the reason I'm posting this thread is due to my genuine wonder if it is ever possible to befriend an escort, or perhaps even fall in love with one outside the boundaries of a session. It sounds silly, but I have been wondering, and hoping even, to meet and get to be acquainted with some women of the profession, simply to enjoy their company or get to know them better. I don't know how to go about it because I understand trying to bring small talk to an escort through their job line is rather annoying, and so I was hoping to get some advice on how to do it properly.

 

[Fradi]

Yes it is possible, but it takes a long time. It is natural for an SP to have trust issues with a stranger and it doesn’t happen often, it is something you cannot force or even look for it either happens naturally or it doesn’t.
I have a great relationship with my ATF we are friends but I never use that to take advantage of our client/escort relationship.

I am friends with another young lady also, but again I have known her for years as well and it really depends on what you mean by friendship, I don’t date any of them and I won’t go into detail, but we have a nice relationship and I always look forward to seeing them or talking to them.

Why would small talk with an escort be annoying, they probably like someone taking the time to treat them like any other woman instead of just a sex object.
The best advice I can give is to treat them each time as if it is your first date with a gorgeous lady who you want to impress, because that is exactly what I want to do each time I see my ATF and I have seen her so many times I lost count years ago.

They are women just like any other ( except that they are probably more gorgeous than what you are used to and you are assured of a good time) with the same wishes and dreams so treat them like that.

 

[Rosie Sparkles]

Again, we're humans. Not mythical creatures lol.

 

[envelopes]

No, not possible.

 

[Jazzman1218]

Yes, it's possible but it's rare. If you have good chemistry with a woman repeat and repeat and let that chemistry mature over time. Let everything happen, or not, naturally and organically. Chances are that it will become a comfortable, reliable, respectful, and pleasurable business relationship and that's all. But there's nothing wrong with that.

 

[UncleBuck]

I think it would be rather difficult to befriend an escort in a conventional sense because of two major obstacles. We’ll start off with a scenario where you were initially a client of theirs, and she’s still maintaining her escort career.

First, is their revenue. By befriending an escort I’d imagine you mean a friendship in the conventional sense - random phone and text conversations, and either planned or spontaneous hangouts or social activities — at no cost. Escorts do charge for social time / dates, so befriending you would be them deciding to not charge you for it. It would be less of an obstacle if it’s discussed that you’re foregoing sex with them (paid or not) in perpetuity. If you continue to pay them for sex but not social, you need to ask yourself if they’re in it for the actual friendship connection, or the occasional envelope when it happens.

Next is an identity thing. While some escorts are very open with everyone in their life about their occupation (including family), it’s fair to assume there are far more that are very secretive and selective about who they let know in their personal life. Befriending one in a conventional sense would also suggest sometimes mixing friend circles, which is a major concern for most.

In all, when talking about friendship in a conventional sense, I think one would stand a far greater chance befriending someone and later discovering they’re an active escort, or befriending an escort once they retire, rather than befriending an active escort whom you were a client of.

 

[Shaytana]

Yes, I’ve become good friends with a person I initially met through LL. We had not only good sexual chemistry but our humour was very similar. We often keep in touch.

 

[PSEfreak]

I will reluctantly say it is possible but the pitfalls are many.
I have a very close relationship with a mature SP ATM. We might even go away together for a vacation. We talk / text often on phone. I know her story, she knows mine. We are almost the same age. Sexually compatible.
I could very easily see this happening but I have been hesitant.
I wouldn't be surprised at all if she asked to date me exclusively and I'm not sure I would say no. It would change everything and I'm on fence if I want that.

 

[DanilusVulpes]

Again, we're humans. Not mythical creatures lol.

Nonsense, that is not what I had assumed, though the beauty of many escorts are certainly deserving of the term mythical.

Rather, I ask the question because I would feel much more comfortable and open about myself to someone who has understood and experienced the profession and its passions than someone who hasn't. The issue is mostly that barrier of professionalism; I wouldn't wish to come across as a freeloader if I find her most interesting and charming .

 

[DanilusVulpes]

Yes, I’ve become good friends with a person I initially met through LL. We had not only good sexual chemistry but our humour was very similar. We often keep in touch.

Would it be rude of me to ask for advice on how to possibly go about it? I have visited Leolist, but to say the profiles and advertisements there are absolutely daunting and intimidating to peruse through.

 

[DanilusVulpes]

I will reluctantly say it is possible but the pitfalls are many.
I have a very close relationship with a mature SP ATM. We might even go away together for a vacation. We talk / text often on phone. I know her story, she knows mine. We are almost the same age. Sexually compatible.
I could very easily see this happening but I have been hesitant.
I wouldn't be surprised at all if she asked to date me exclusively and I'm not sure I would say no. It would change everything and I'm on fence if I want that.

It does sound like an ideal outcome, I won't lie; it is why I wish to perhaps pursue the escort route as to hopefully find myself a lovely companion or partner.

But, nobody said it was easy

 

[DanilusVulpes]

Yes it is possible, but it takes a long time. It is natural for an SP to have trust issues with a stranger and it doesn’t happen often, it is something you cannot force or even look for it either happens naturally or it doesn’t.
I have a great relationship with my ATF we are friends but I never use that to take advantage of our client/escort relationship.

I am friends with another young lady also, but again I have known her for years as well and it really depends on what you mean by friendship, I don’t date any of them and I won’t go into detail, but we have a nice relationship and I always look forward to seeing them or talking to them.

Why would small talk with an escort be annoying, they probably like someone taking the time to treat them like any other woman instead of just a sex object.
The best advice I can give is to treat them each time as if it is your first date with a gorgeous lady who you want to impress, because that is exactly what I want to do each time I see my ATF and I have seen her so many times I lost count years ago.

They are women just like any other ( except that they are probably more gorgeous than what you are used to and you are assured of a good time) with the same wishes and dreams so treat them like that.

I guess the issue has mostly been in the large amount of conflicting experiences I had spotted while I was searching the internet for anything concerning the escort life. Some just tell you not to bother them at all with small talk and hit them with the hour, the price, the session, goodbye and farewell. Others say they appreciate the company, the care, the humanity, but that evidently they're worried the person may have some less than savory ulterior motives, so it is best not to overdo it or even attempt it.

I won't lie that perhaps I'm speaking from a point of desperation, but I do genuinely wish to get acquainted and perhaps even connect with girls in the escort business. Mostly to befriend them, maybe even find my lover there. It's too much hopeful wishing, I know, but I do believe strongly that it's there where I can tempt my chance. But I wish to do it correctly.

 

[envelopes]

I guess the issue has mostly been in the large amount of conflicting experiences I had spotted while I was searching the internet for anything concerning the escort life. Some just tell you not to bother them at all with small talk and hit them with the hour, the price, the session, goodbye and farewell. Others say they appreciate the company, the care, the humanity, but that evidently they're worried the person may have some less than savory ulterior motives, so it is best not to overdo it or even attempt it.

I won't lie that perhaps I'm speaking from a point of desperation, but I do genuinely wish to get acquainted and perhaps even connect with girls in the escort business. Mostly to befriend them, maybe even find my lover there. It's too much hopeful wishing, I know, but I do believe strongly that it's there where I can tempt my chance. But I wish to do it correctly.

Wait... so you've never seen an escort before and you are asking this question? lol

It does sound like an ideal outcome, I won't lie; it is why I wish to perhaps pursue the escort route as to hopefully find myself a lovely companion or partner.

But, nobody said it was easy

Wait a minute..... you're trying to use escort services as a dating service? Oh, boy

 

[Jazzman1218]

I guess the issue has mostly been in the large amount of conflicting experiences I had spotted while I was searching the internet for anything concerning the escort life. Some just tell you not to bother them at all with small talk and hit them with the hour, the price, the session, goodbye and farewell. Others say they appreciate the company, the care, the humanity, but that evidently they're worried the person may have some less than savory ulterior motives, so it is best not to overdo it or even attempt it.

I won't lie that perhaps I'm speaking from a point of desperation, but I do genuinely wish to get acquainted and perhaps even connect with girls in the escort business. Mostly to befriend them, maybe even find my lover there. It's too much hopeful wishing, I know, but I do believe strongly that it's there where I can tempt my chance. But I wish to do it correctly.

Yikes. Good luck with all of that.

 

[Gazoo64]

I won't lie that perhaps I'm speaking from a point of desperation, but I do genuinely wish to get acquainted and perhaps even connect with girls in the escort business. Mostly to befriend them, maybe even find my lover there. It's too much hopeful wishing, I know, but I do believe strongly that it's there where I can tempt my chance. But I wish to do it correctly.

I’m not sure you’re going about it the proper way, but just my opinion. Becoming friends with an SP is not something you can plan, it will happen naturally (if it happens).

The reply of @UncleBuck describes it well!

After repeating with an SP many times, sometimes a friendship can develop, if you have things in common, get along, discuss each other’s private lives, etc. But it’s still a professional relationship, just that you might occasionally text/chat once in a while, occasionally hang out socially (probably paid, depending on arrangement), etc.

Beyond that (gf/bf relationship, etc), IMO it’s extremely unlikely, and if it would happen, it gets extremely complicated.

I don’t think you can meet an SP for the first time with the idea that you’ll become friends. It’s not a dating service. Lol! Most probably won’t work.

Just my 2 cents.

 

[LC18]

Yes, one of my good friends used to be a client. He’s close to my age and we have a lot in common.

We are friends, we had sex outside of our SP-client relationship. He gifted me things too. I would say it has evolved into a sugar daddy-baby situation but that’s just us.

you could definitely be friend with a SP and not pay a single dime.

 

[Fradi]

I guess the issue has mostly been in the large amount of conflicting experiences I had spotted while I was searching the internet for anything concerning the escort life. Some just tell you not to bother them at all with small talk and hit them with the hour, the price, the session, goodbye and farewell. Others say they appreciate the company, the care, the humanity, but that evidently they're worried the person may have some less than savory ulterior motives, so it is best not to overdo it or even attempt it.

I won't lie that perhaps I'm speaking from a point of desperation, but I do genuinely wish to get acquainted and perhaps even connect with girls in the escort business. Mostly to befriend them, maybe even find my lover there. It's too much hopeful wishing, I know, but I do believe strongly that it's there where I can tempt my chance. But I wish to do it correctly.

Somehow I think you have managed to become fascinated with the world of escorts and think it would be great to date or fall in love with them.
You are barking up the wrong tree, the majority are in it for the money and have a life outside of that and have no intention to get romantically involved with their clients. If you happen to meet one in a different setting not as a client it may be entirely different.

Yes treating them with kindness and respect will always go a long way and ensure that they will treat you the same, but this should be the same with every woman you meet regardless if they are civilian or an SP. This however does not mean they have any romantic feelings towards you it is a job a way for them to pay the rent and to enjoy some of the finer things in life. Some simply do it because they cannot tolerate a job where their time is regulated and they have rules to follow and a boss hanging over them.

It is much more difficult I would think to date an escort than a civilian very few people could handle your girlfriend or future wife fucking other men and then coming home to you, I know I couldn’t, I am not the sharing kind when I love somebody.
Friendship yes I am lucky to be able to call my ATF a friend and we have been for many years, perhaps if I was anywhere close to her in age I might think differently as it would be so easy to fall in love with her but I am way to old and wise for that and she deserves someone that will make her happy and fulfill her dreams like I had a lifetime with the woman of my dreams.

 

[DanilusVulpes]

Somehow I think you have managed to become fascinated with the world of escorts and think it would be great to date or fall in love with them.
You are barking up the wrong tree, the majority are in it for the money and have a life outside of that and have no intention to get romantically involved with their clients. If you happen to meet one in a different setting not as a client it may be entirely different.

Yes treating them with kindness and respect will always go a long way and ensure that they will treat you the same, but this should be the same with every woman you meet regardless if they are civilian or an SP. This however does not mean they have any romantic feelings towards you it is a job a way for them to pay the rent and to enjoy some of the finer things in life. Some simply do it because they cannot tolerate a job where their time is regulated and they have rules to follow and a boss hanging over them.

It is much more difficult I would think to date an escort than a civilian very few people could handle your girlfriend or future wife fucking other men and then coming home to you, I know I couldn’t, I am not the sharing kind when I love somebody.
Friendship yes I am lucky to be able to call my ATF a friend and we have been for many years, perhaps if I was anywhere close to her in age I might think differently as it would be so easy to fall in love with her but I am way to old and wise for that and she deserves someone that will make her happy and fulfill her dreams like I had a lifetime with the woman of my dreams.

Perhaps you're right. Perhaps you're not. I won't wish to make bold assumptions of knowing any better in a place that is completely out of my league; I would only hope that there could've been an opportunity for connection or something, anything in the world of the night life than having to simply treat it as a professional transaction but, I guess that's the whole point.

Nonetheless, I'm grateful for the advice, and I might just altogether keep my distance from it all. I simply just don't know how to get around it without having my heart broken or my expectations muddled in any way but, frankly, maybe I am just not cut out for it.

 

[DanilusVulpes]

Yes, one of my good friends used to be a client. He’s close to my age and we have a lot in common.

We are friends, we had sex outside of our SP-client relationship. He gifted me things too. I would say it has evolved into a sugar daddy-baby situation but that’s just us.

you could definitely be friend with a SP and not pay a single dime.

The only issue is finding that special SP in which you connect with, and that is, to my knowledge, like seeking the purest diamond among a wide trove of other gems and fine stones. Not that I don't have the patience for it, but I would feel worn down if time and again, I try to connect with an SP, only to be rebuffed in a manner that would have the SP think I'm just trying to be a sleazeball getting freebies or something.

And, well, being accused of something I'm not tends to be a frustrating/painful experience.

 

[LC18]

I totally understand @DanilusVulpes It’s all about trust and how it’s presented. If you walk into a SP’s incall demanding to be her friend, it won’t work.

If there’s a SP that you like, that you’ve seen regularly and that you’ve always been respectful with. Start by asking for social dates so that she knows that you appreciate more than just her body. From there, you can discuss the possibility of having an arrangement or simply ask her if she’s ever been with a client outside of her paid time.