i'm not married. nor am i a rocket scientist or brain surgeon. however, i think i can answer this ?'n better than he can... three words:
he's horny.
Keeping the Wife from Finding Out!
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he's horny.
Just one...?
EB,
Your point is very valid and I believe in many circles well documented. Coupled with the "boredom" factor the thrill of getting the satisfaction elsewhere or secretly is a valid reason for many.
But then there is also the male who may be "satisfied" or could be seen as being that way by many with the sex from his partner. Perhaps that individual just needs a little extra spice or needs a little different spice in his life...ahhh...a thought that lends itself to the slippery, slope subject/question of, "Is man meant to be monogamous?"
There is also the whole "younger woman" thing...the proverbial male "fountain of youth" that we males find when we are intimate with those attractive, sexy, young women.
Now, back to the original question of the wife not finding out ... my second nickel contribution ... Never, ever get comfortable that you are not going to get caught because the minute you get too comfortable the unthinkable happens. I have found that saying true in business and in life.
Keep having fun.
Jman
EB,
Your point is very valid and I believe in many circles well documented. Coupled with the "boredom" factor the thrill of getting the satisfaction elsewhere or secretly is a valid reason for many.
But then there is also the male who may be "satisfied" or could be seen as being that way by many with the sex from his partner. Perhaps that individual just needs a little extra spice or needs a little different spice in his life...ahhh...a thought that lends itself to the slippery, slope subject/question of, "Is man meant to be monogamous?"
There is also the whole "younger woman" thing...the proverbial male "fountain of youth" that we males find when we are intimate with those attractive, sexy, young women.
Now, back to the original question of the wife not finding out ... my second nickel contribution ... Never, ever get comfortable that you are not going to get caught because the minute you get too comfortable the unthinkable happens. I have found that saying true in business and in life.
Keep having fun.
Jman
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Jman,
Your second nickle is a gem.
I need to keep being paranoid and careful. The second I get comforatble is the second I will slip up. Every vigilant
My circumstances may have changed though. When I was going out of town for a few days last week my wife asked me if I was going to see my girlfriend. She shot me a look. I didn't reply. No girlfriend but a lovely 3 hour visit with a lovely SP.
Thanks for the help.
Eros
Your second nickle is a gem.
I need to keep being paranoid and careful. The second I get comforatble is the second I will slip up. Every vigilant
My circumstances may have changed though. When I was going out of town for a few days last week my wife asked me if I was going to see my girlfriend. She shot me a look. I didn't reply. No girlfriend but a lovely 3 hour visit with a lovely SP.
Thanks for the help.
Eros
Hi Eros,
I know the experience. Women have an uncanny ability to somehow "know" or at least suspect... LOL!!!
They pick up on subtle (even microscopic) changes. Changes in our habits, our behaviors, our actions. Be aware of how you always did things and do not change anything ... do not change anything, not one thing. Thinks about it, you will understand what I am saying. Trust me, I have learned from experience and from the helpful advise of others including women. If you are an "intuitive" person like I am it will be a little easier to understand...but even then women usually have the upper hand when it comes to intuition. Also be aware they can bluff allot...I have found, as you did that "no reply" is often best. BTW, if you get defensive, you are usually dead in your tracks...lol.
So you posture of being ever vigilant is correct. More so, you have to try to stay one step ahead ... and you have to have a good poker face
.Good luck and have fun!
Jman
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Another two cents
In my active hobbying days, now over, I once carelessly had BBFS with an SP. I hadn`t asked for it, we just stupidly got carried away in the heat of the moment. I didn`t catch any STD, but just the fear of possibliy infecting my wife made me suspend our regular sex life. That was enough to precipitate the end of our relationship. She never found out, but the marriage ended nonetheless.
To your original question, ETS, you might think of being careful to avoid catching an STD, which in practice means renouncing .
In my active hobbying days, now over, I once carelessly had BBFS with an SP. I hadn`t asked for it, we just stupidly got carried away in the heat of the moment. I didn`t catch any STD, but just the fear of possibliy infecting my wife made me suspend our regular sex life. That was enough to precipitate the end of our relationship. She never found out, but the marriage ended nonetheless.
To your original question, ETS, you might think of being careful to avoid catching an STD, which in practice means renouncing .
that was very ``honorable`` of you to suspend your regular sex life out of ``caring`` about your wife, even if it caused an end to your marriage. I guess married guys who see SP`s or any guy in a relationship for that matter, should practice covering Everything, out of ``respect`` for their significant other, but then again if they cared enuff to cover up, then they should end the relationship before cheating in the first place, ``IF`` they cared.
for the record joeblow this is just a generalization , not geared at you. even tho i dont agree with any form of cheating, what you did by letting your relationship end for the reasons you stated shows you did have a heart.
I know the risk of getting a std thru is low but it seems it would weigh on ones conscious like crazy knowing they could then take that home to the wife/gf. How are ya gonna get out of that one when she tells you she caught something? is the husband/bf gonna accuse ``her`` of cheating? lol...
for the record joeblow this is just a generalization , not geared at you. even tho i dont agree with any form of cheating, what you did by letting your relationship end for the reasons you stated shows you did have a heart.
I know the risk of getting a std thru is low but it seems it would weigh on ones conscious like crazy knowing they could then take that home to the wife/gf. How are ya gonna get out of that one when she tells you she caught something? is the husband/bf gonna accuse ``her`` of cheating? lol...
Hello Iggy,
I appreciate your well intended and well thought out response. But I am afraid sometimes life is just not that simple in all of our minds.
Its kinda funny because I can remember having this conversation once with a childless sibling about raising children. The sibling had a position on an issue and would not see my side of the issue. Then low and behold a few years later after having a child its amazing how the sibling saw my side after walking a mile or two in my shoes...anyway I think you get my drift.
Keep having fun my friend.
Jman
Well?...... maybe it is not that simple, BUT, i have always lived by the standard of "what comes around, goes around" , thats how i see it, doesnt mean i am right, doesnt mean i am wrong, just my standards and opinon, nuff said.
Excellent standard...its all about doing the right thing. But you also gotta look out for number 1.
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