Been in the hobby for many many years, on and off. Been quiet for the last 10 years, being remarried with a wonderful woman. Yeah, some of you will ask: "You didn't learn the first time"? But when love knocks on the door, it's hard to resist! However, once a hobbyist, there's always a little something that keeps pulling you in here.
I've been in a friend with benefits relationship during about 8 months in 2016. She was a dream to be with, very nice woman. We would see each other a few times a week at the beginning, have breakfast together, spend the whole morning, have sex multiple times, discuss about our respective lives, being the confident of one another, etc. We had a monthly arrangement, and it felt like I was really helping her. We became very good friends, and even if our arrangement ended at some point, we are still in contact and sometime just have lunch together to share our respective stories. Even though she's much younger than me, I fell we'll remain friends foreever, or so I hope!
In fall I registered on SeekingArrangement. Those of you thinking it's only fake women and gold diggers, you just got unlucky. Yes there definitely are gold diggers on that site, as well as thiefs, and escorts trying to attract clients, posing as regular women. But once you get used to how everything works on the site, you can quickly identify who are legitimate women and who are potential troubles. Those who know me know I've had my share of trouble with women in this hobby, and I'm not as gullible as before. Live and learn I guess!
We may all have different goals: Meet as many women as possible, like SPs, or favor quality over quantity. I'm more of the later. I'm looking for ONE woman to share nice moments with, and her being my mistress sort of speak. I could look for a mistress my age and it would probably cost a lot less, but I love a woman in her 30's. At that age they know their sexuallity very well, they are beautiful, and are still young and willing to enjoy those pleasures without complicating their life too much.
I met a number of women on SeekingArrangement at the beginning, trying to find the perfect one. Their background range from unemployed to being students, secretaries, musicians, paint artists, gymnasts, insurance brokers, administrative assistants, and all kinds of life paths. I even met a very very smart medical student who was studying for being a heart surgeon. Regular women, but also EXCEPTIONAL ones. Some of these women are there mainly for the money aspect, but others are there because they have a busy life restricting them from meeting, while still wanting pleasures and spice in their life, but hate the bar scene and what not, and the arrangement is just a way to keep a distance while still getting what they want...
As I said, I have met a number of women there, and some were just OUTSTANDING! One of them was a gymnast, had a body "coupée au couteau", was very willing, and I could almost not fulfill her desires. In a two-three hours meeting with her, she'd typically want to have sex 3 - 4 - 5 times! Geez, I'm still good, but hold on a little! LOL The one I'm with right now, she's more sensual, intense, she reacts to everything I do, very affectionate. We've having lunch regularly, going to movies once in a while, I met her kid, I'm going to help her move at the end of the month (daytime, while I'm supposed to be "at work"). Anyhow, it's the kind of relationship where you get to know each other, get to appreciate each other for more than just sex, when trust builds up. Does that mean I'm exclusive to her? Nope. Although she fullfils 95% of my desires, the 5% being only when I feel too horny and she's at work or otherwise not available. Then I might go to a massage place or something, but it's kinda rare.
Bottom line, they are women, beautiful, loving, interresting, personnable, smart. If you demonstrate a minimum of respect for them, as with ANY relation with ANY individual, you will end up meeting wonderful human beings. They are also looking to find the perfect gentleman, and if you happen to be this gentleman, enjoy the ride!
CA