Long term arrangements

[r00t]

Guys

What is your opinion regarding a long-term arrangement?

To clarify, in my perfect world, I'd be retaining an "escort" as a "girlfriend" for a few blocks of time a month for dates. I'd think like 2-4 hours maybe one or twice a week. I am more concerned about discretion than anything else as I am (very unhappily) married. I am trying to stay away from women in my entourage or worse, within my staff, to fill this position to avoid headaches.

Because I'm still married, my financial means are limited and I can afford a 1000-2000$ a month spend on top of all the fees related to dates and gifts. I don't expect any kind of exclusivity.

Is this the kind of setup that you've heard of? How should I go about putting this in place?

You're input welcome

Cheers

Pat

 

[pokerpro]

A 2000 $ a month budget, and you say it would be your maximum, means you have 500 $ per week in hooker money.
You plan on 2-4 hours meetings once or twice a week?
For 500 $ you will get something like 2 or 3 hours per week. You will not find a decent girl 8 hours per week for 500 $ !

Sorry to tell you this, but your plan doesn't seem realistic. If you want to see an escort multiple hours every week, it will cost you more then 2000 $.

 

[B52]

Try sugar daddy, you might find what you are looking for the $ you are willing to pay.
Not frank sps, it's an arrangement... no exclusivity.

 

[ShyMan]

How much money would you have to pay your ex-wife (after a divorce)? If it's about $2,000 a month, why not end your daily misery and be a happier man afterwards and then you can enjoy Hobbyland in peace.

 

[panthere]

How much money would you have to pay your ex-wife (after a divorce)? If it's about $2,000 a month, why not end your daily misery and be a happier man afterwards and then you can enjoy Hobbyland in peace.

Exactly..i mean exactly what i was thinking loll

 

[VStampede]

It's not a big budget but depending on what you expect... 2k, it would work once a week, which all things considered might still be better than nothing!

 

[talkinghead]

It's an interesting scenario. In scholarly terms, this forum is a secondary source; I'd do some primary research. Start seeing indies (since I doubt that an agency girl could schedule in the way you want). It's obviously important that you get along and that you like her if she's going to be a regular companion. When the chemistry feels right with one or even more, ask them about your idea. I can certainly imagine an escort appreciating a weekly gig with someone she considers safe and reliable, especially if you're easy company for her. She might set up a special rate that works for both of you.

 

[blkone]

Divorce, with a good lawyer, would be cheaper.

You said it 'unhappily' ...

 

[jalimon]

I am more concerned about discretion than anything else as I am (very unhappily) married.

I was once there. It took some time but I convince my ex that we could go from very unhappily married to very happy divorced. The focus was kids happyness is first and to always put our own ego aside. We are now both very happily divorced and having a blast. I now only see escort just to make sure not to break this. Would highly suggest you to consider this.

As for seeking a long term arrangment with a girl I have tried this a few times. But each time after 3-4 visit, the service would degrade... The girl took me for granted. Some will say I did not ask the right one, maybe...

Cheers!

 

[ShyMan]

As for seeking a long term arrangement with a girl I have tried this a few times. But each time after 3-4 visit, the service would degrade... The girl took me for granted. Some will say I did not ask the right one, maybe...

Cheers!

Just like having a regular GF --- sex is great in the beginning and then everything goes downhill after she gets used to you. :doh: Common response "I have a headache"! I'd got tired of hearing shit like this so one time I gave a GF a bottle of extra strength Tylenol -- after that we ended our short term relationship. Now she wants back; I tell her I have a headache. :bounce::lol:

 

[UncleBob]

I agree with Talkinghead post #7

It will not be easy to find what you're looking for at the price you want. But it is not impossible

As Talkinghead said, You have to put some effort to find a SP you get along with.

It is going to be more difficult to have such a deal if you're very sex demanding.
One good sog maybe 2 in 2+ hours... There must be more Social time obviously.

I do not believe you will find easily a deal at the price you want with most of the Merb Indies...
Depends what you're looking for in term of look and service.
You need to find someone that is not too business oriented and that will prefer quality moment with a good regular and sacrify some $$$.

Should you have such an agreement with an agency girl, keep it secret

 

[pokerpro]

I am more concerned about discretion than anything else as I am (very unhappily) married. I am trying to stay away from women in my entourage or worse, within my staff, to fill this position to avoid headaches.

Because I'm still married, my financial means are limited and I can afford a 1000-2000$ a month spend on top of all the fees related to dates and gifts.

If your top priority is discretion, it is very risky to go on dates and shopping in public places with a ''girlfriend'' . You seem to know a lot of people in your entourage and your staff, sooner or later you will get caught.

 

[Passionné]

Is this the kind of setup that you've heard of? How should I go about putting this in place?

Cheers

Pat

I had something like this arrangement for several years. It all depends on how much you are expecting and how tight or loose you want the arrangements to be. The more control you try to have the more issues there will be especially with the more exclusivity you try to have. Two to four hours once or twice a week probably does not work for a maximum $2000. Two to three times a month for two to three hours is more likely. If you are very lucky time out for lunch or dinner off the clock might be offered but it would be very unusual. Don't ask for it.

Don't do it with an escort you have feelings for. Guys who have done that eventually try to have more and more control leading to failure. Keep it light and you will be much better off.

 

[ourson1960]

Thanks, Patron, for the advice. I'm thinking about how to make my hobby workable as well, and your suggestions seem really smart.

 

[talkinghead]

I don't know and I've never done long term with an escort, but I can easily imagine clicking with an attractive open minded Indy, establishing a good working relationship and some mutual understanding, and then over many months trying out all kinds of things that are better with someone who knows me: role plays, costumes, kinks, fantasies. Or maybe that's just me; I care much more these days about the"connection " than the other stuff. I'd probably get tired of a different agency girl every week--eventually! Maybe?

Also, I think it's a cool thought experiment. Indulge it about longer and remember, OP, that your interests and drives may not be everyone's.

 

[r00t]

Holy cow

That is all amazing input.

Some of the advice is tough, but true. Like, why even bother with a relationship arrangement when that formula is not working for me in the first place?

If I skip the "social" piece, my budget is fine for getting new girls on a regular basis and I have you guys to help me vet the girls so I get only the best !

I do have a second home I can use (nice new condo downtown), so I don't even need to use "incall" services.

At my London (UK) office location things are easier. I can just walk into a bar which promotes SPs and I can pick the one I like with no worries about the law.

Thanks again guys tor your responses, I will truly appreciate them.

 

[jalimon]

Quit thinking like a married guy and start thinking like a successful John. Your brain and your dick will thank you.

Took me 4 years to get there. I whish I had read this back then

Cheers,

 

[starry]

At the upper end of your projected weekly hours (8) I really don't see how it can work within your budget. At the lower end (2 hours a week or 8 per month) I think that you could manage it financially. Of course you need to find the right girl though if what you want is to see her on a regular basis. You obviously need to like the girl if you mean to see her a lot (and that would eliminate some prospects) and while there are certainly some gems out there they are usually in demand and therefore not always available for this type of arrangement. A good girl also likely has all the regulars she either wants or needs. So finding the right person may not be all that easy.
On the other hand it is certainly possible. I see three different SPs pretty much every week each for an hour. I think that qualifies me, and them too for that matter, as "regular". I see one of these ladies usually once a week outside of the "working relationship" and as a friend for whom I have affectionate feelings. Funny but the affection seems to actually get in the way of the sexual relationship so the possibility of it becoming (at least for you) a real GFE is something you might want to consider as possible downside (not that I'm complaining). I dont worry much about running into people I know when I'm out and about with her because I spent the last 20 years living in another city for business reasons, but that might be a concern for others. I spend about $3,000 per month hobbying.

 

[Maria Divina]

Patron

One hour is more than enough for you. You are able to have "2 rounds and socialize & talk in between", it seems you are having a particular pace of a young in his 20ies.

For me, an hour, it's just a little appetizer, hey hey hey :eyebrows:

Each person is different, we cannot say to someone "do this, and do that... and if you are not doing this & that, you are a moron then"
It is totally missing of openness and sensibility to others realities. Some are empathic & respectuous, and others, not at all.

 

[Maria Divina]

You are obviously good at marketing. I just wanted him to understand that there are plenty of reviews for him to read and for him to understand that many of us have not found younger, agency escorts to be cold or robotic during their standard one hour sessions. The agency ladies do not post on merb, so their voices are rarely heard.

I just answered with my heart with my own reality, as a woman. That's always been easy for some men on escort's boards to put away the opinion of a woman based on "marketing". It's just appeared that I respect my own personal woman pace in my encounters. What I did write "Be yourself" is exactly what I do. I think it is the way to avoid bad souvenirs and feeling like "shit" after. And I do sincerely believe that men and women in this "industry" are just living all the same feelings inside, the same questioning, the same fears, the same effects after. We are all humans, after all. :nod:

So logically, the very best advice I could give, to escorts & to gentlemen of "all sorts" is just "Be yourself" know who you are, know your limits, and respect them. And you will be "hobby happy".

By the way, I am wishing you for 2017 all the best.

Peace on Earth for people of good will. Paix sur terre pour les gens de bonne volonté.

:angel: