Are you talking about girls you saw at agencies tho? Because that's very different from an indy.
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Are you talking about girls you saw at agencies tho? Because that's very different from an indy.
Looks like you will be willing to use the Buy now pay laterPay at the end, 100% of the time under normal circumstances. I am , however, quite willing to display the cash, put it on the dresser clearly visible, etc etc, so that she know it's there and for her. It does not go into her hand until the end of the session, period. If she insists then I walk. I do admit to being more of a product of international hobbying though, where it's a hard and fast rule that you never, ever, under any circumstances, pay up front and anyone who does is an idiot. I would very likely be more flexible with the ladies of MERB. It absolutely boggles my mind that anyone would prepay tips though. I think that's just insane. I can't even imagine prepaying waiter or taxi tips prior to receiving service and I can't see why this would be any different.
I have absolutely no idea what point you were trying to make, sorry. Can you explain please?Looks like you will be willing to use the Buy now pay later
I agree that it's about comfort, but not about comfort for both sides, necessarily. You have a number of women here who are saying to you that they feel uncomfortable with not getting the cash because they fear clients will run out on them or short change, and probably most of them have some kind of story about men who have done just that. Having the cash up front mitigates that issue for them. The perspective here is about making the ladies comfortable, which is fine as far as it goes. On the flip side by paying the cash up front the risk has shifted from the lady to the guy. Now the guy is potentially on the hook for being short changed in either services or time as well. Every guy who mongers has some story about a girl who promised something and didn't deliver, or who ran out of the room as soon as they guy popped, 11 minutes into the session or some such. The point is that one party is going to be less comfortable than the other, in a general sort of sense, which may not be in any severe kind of way but is there. The question is simply deciding who that is going to be. The guy has control over the cash initially and he gets to decide whether he wants to relinquish control of it or not. People can make that choice individually based on their personalities and preferences.I always choose my service provider carefully. If I'm not comfortable paying upfront, it's because I'm simply not comfortable with her. An envelope, well seen, confidence on both sides which allows us to focus on what is really important.
In your rush to jump to a conclusion and fervently declare your decency you jumped over the point completely, and you missed it, even after Valentina just finished re-articulating parts of it for you. I will say though, that I don't feel that my integrity, decency and morals are compromised by virtue of whether I pay the lady in full at the beginning or at the end of the session, and no one has ever maligned my basic decency as far as I know.What you might see as parroting I see as basic human decency but everyone has their own opinion on what that means. I’m not jaded by bad experiences (yet) and have not been burned/regretted a session to a degree that would necessitate me holding the cash hostage. It wild to think of someone withholding payment bc an sp didn’t fulfill some acronym or sexual act. I’ll swear off sps altogether before I get to that point.
Damn. I never thought that my short post would trigger such long reactions! I will be more specific in the next ones. Newbie mistake… ☠️Fellas. Just pay in quarters… you’ll get more time out of her while she picks it up and counts it from the floor.
Welcome to MERB bro. You’ll trigger everyone and their grandmaDamn. I never thought that my short post would trigger such long reactions! I will be more specific in the next ones. Newbie mistake… ☠️
The only part she wasn't in agreement with was with randos on LL (which I've made clear I haven't tried), and that she understands that perspective from the client side but she prefers it up front, as will every provider (whether they require it upfront or not). Call it simping or whatever you like, I give zero fucks about anyone's opinion on any online forum and actually, just being on this board should be enough for most sps to second guess seeing anyone here IRL, if we're being completely honest. I'd rather be what I think is decent and called a white knight etc than whatever the opposite of that is. Again, if I had to compromise that in order to potentially save a few bucks from a 'mercenary' (who hurt you.. lol) then I probably would just get out of this altogether.In your rush to jump to a conclusion and fervently declare your decency you jumped over the point completely, and you missed it, even after Valentina just finished re-articulating parts of it for you. I will say though, that I don't feel that my integrity, decency and morals are compromised by virtue of whether I pay the lady in full at the beginning or at the end of the session, and no one has ever maligned my basic decency as far as I know.
What I did say is that we have a tendency to talk to the ladies on this board, with their preferences and their rules and standards, and the guys tend to want to apply those same standards to the rest of the mongering world, even though the local ladies are not representatve of that world (hence the parroting). Don't worry, I wasn't talking about your simping tendencies, or anything of the sort, nor was I insulting the ladies and their practices..I was simply referring to people's tendencies to want to follow simple rules along the easiest path, whether it's appropriate or not.
I don't even know where to begin with the "hostage cash" idea without being mean about it, so I'm just going to let that one go for now.
Nah, it's a great question actually, and important. You're getting varied responses too so it's all good. Decide what you want to do in the end.Damn. I never thought that my short post would trigger such long reactions! I will be more specific in the next ones. Newbie mistake… ☠️
I tend to agree with you, but again it all comes down to perception and personal preference. From the ladies standpoint there's lots of timewaster out there and there'd be 1000% more if they didn't take deposits. I suspect that that there's probably even guys who send deposits that don't show up. Maybe the ladies could chime in there. I'd be curious to know how often it happens. A deposit helps them weed out the guys who don't have skin in the game, if you'll pardon the expression. lolFor incall I have usually paid upfront. Not sure why but I guess because if I didi not have any cash what could the lady do? not much
for Outcall, I only pay at the end, I dont offer up front and I dont believe have had any women ask for it upfront. But here the tables are
reversed, since the outcall is at my private residence, the lady could make a huge stink if I didnt pay etc.
the ONE THING I will never do is give a deposit in advance. From my point of veiw, a fools folly. Nothing what so ever stops the lady from just not showing up
or changing the time or etc. I know some one will say but if she is a well know MERB person, then its likely ok. Well the reverse of that would then also be true,
If the guy is well known on MERB then he should also be OK not to expect a deposit from. The other reason of course is I dont want electronic transfers visible to
a provider. Just my opinion