I tend to agree with you. But moderation can be very difficult to reach for some people. Myself, i've always dealt with obsessive/compulsive disorder issues throughout my life. I'm also very impulsive also. In high school, it was either no girlfriend or 5-6 at once. When i discovered computers and the internet, i stayed up for nearly 2 straight days at one time. And then i moved on to gambling, then extreme socializing (i was once a mega party-animal, not much different than Bluto on 'Animal House'....actually, my siblings nicknamed me "Van Wilder" when i was in my late teens/early 20's), then sex, then sps, etc.
I once decided to try stop seeing sps and i set up my own mini-harem instead. All non-sps. There were 6 or 7 girls of various agences in my 'group' and we all knew what to expect. Friends with benefits and nothing more. But it barely lasted 3 weeks. Jealousy. The worse ones were the older girls. As soon as they'd been drinking socially and spot me with another girl, it wasn't pretty. The emails i'd receive from them afterwards weren't pretty either. Of course, the apologies would come the following day or so when they'd sober up. So i had enough of this crap and put an end to my 'harem' and resumed hobbying.
My life is currently stable because i know how to control my urges/splurges.....but i nearly lost control again this summer when i'd be going to Mtl every 2 weeks.....every week at one point.
So for someone like myself, discovering moderation and staying there is a constant struggle.
