Random thoughts: What’s on your mind lately? Part 2

[jeffmathers]

It should be turning off between 4 and 10pm.. or something like that

what if social media was off from 11pm to 6am?

 

[Enjoying life]

May I ask where you found out about this? I think it definitely should be talked about, but in the academic circles I've been in, I've heard otherwise. I think it also on the type of domestic abuse.. If psychological violence counts is included in domestic violence, I wouldn't be surprised if that is the truth, but for physical and sexual violence I'm not so sure if that's the case...

Also when you are talking about ''women acting in self defense'', it makes me wonder how the research you're talking about was conducted. In a lot of cases of domestic abuse, the victim ends up snapping and maybe at some point hitting back or retaliating.. There are no ''perfect victims''. I don't think a woman who eventually hits her husband back who is constantly beating her up is the abuser here. There's also a very commonly known phenomenon called DARVO, where an abuser will victimize themselves and turn everyone against the victim and eventually convince them that he is the perpetrator. This is actually very common. Some people are really manipulative and it's actually hard to know who to believe. Most abusers I've met convinced everyone they were the actual victims.. I usually give people the benefit of the doubt until I figured out that actually yes they were the aggressor.

Also, the police has recently gotten better at handling cases of domestic violence recently but historically that hasn't always been the case. Restraining orders often do nothing, and historically often the police hasn't taken violence seriously at all and victims aren't believed or are blamed. (specially if they defended themselves or acted in a way that wasn't like the pure perfect innocent victim).. I definitely think all types of violence should be talked about, and men should feel safer to come forward if they've experienced violence. It's hard to know what the statistics really are because very few people actually report to the police. I think for me it's hard to believe that the prevalence is roughly the same, not because I'm a dirty feminist who hates men (I am not and I'm annoyed I have to spell it out constantly), but because of personal experience and things I've witnessed in my personal life on multiple occasion. I have however witnessed domestic abuse against men, from both women and men, and it does exist.

I'm not really sure that I want to talk about this subject openly on this forum because I have many haters here and people who think I complain for nothing or write too long paragraphs but I'd be down to discuss this elsewhere. I also by the way would never invalidate a man who has been the victim of abuse, he deserves just as much support as a woman.

I went through emotional abuse with a woman! I handed it well as she cried then was a mean firecracker just like that !

 

[Rebaynia]

Imagine if social media closed everyday at 6pm like a shop ... We will all be forced to socialize with family, friends, go outside, do some activities ...

And those who work until 6pm would never get to see social media.

 

[LeDodo]

And those who work until 6pm would never get to see social media.

That would not be a bad thing

 

[Rebaynia]

That would not be a bad thing

From working while covid was happening, I could say there is a great deal of feeling like missing out on life, when the rest of the world gets to expierience downtime to enjoy communicating with eachother, while you only get to have the life of grind till you drop, and do it all over again tomorrow, many people who had jobs that didn't give that downtime, quit, because they felt like they were missing out.

I personally haven't had cable for over a decade, 1 because I think it BS to pay for a service and have 65% of the channels be useless to me, I won't watch French TV, French language is not welcome in the sanctity of my home. 2 because I refuse to let a device dictate to me what time I get to live or expierience what I want. My life and living it comes first, and devices and downtime are for when what works for me. Not planning my life around others dictating my schedule.

Then again I don't really get the draw of social media, I do it when I can and get around to it. It is not something I enjoy, but something I had to learn to get into for business reasons, and see it as a chore to be relevant online.

If I had to also plan to do it within a set time frame, it would just be abandoned because it's already a chore to maintain.

 

[bodick7]

I think it BS to pay for a service and have 65% of the channels be useless to me, I won't watch French TV, French language is not welcome in the sanctity of my home.

Everybody probably watch less than 5% of all channels regularly dear.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I went through emotional abuse with a woman! I handed it well as she cried then was a mean firecracker just like that !

I'm sorry you experienced emotional abuse.

I don't want to talk about this anymore. I thought I was shedding light on something, but it was deflected.

I feel stupid. Honestly I feel pressured to explain myself by detailing personal experiences & things my friends and the women in my family experienced and I don't want to. (And I'm pretty sure you guys don't want to hear these stories, either. Let's stay positive)

 

[Lunaseraphim]

what if social media was off from 11pm to 6am?

I don't think that's a good idea. A lot of people have insomnia or are working at night alone. I think social media being off during certain hours could be positive tho. I've always been a shy person so I met friends on the internet.

However I think what would be a lot better is if there were more initiatives for people to socialize in natural ways with people who have similar interests as them, with people in their neighborhood etc. specially events that are diversified... Like sober events, free events, events that aren't super late at night.. smaller gatherings etc

 

[FranckDV8]

Am I the only man who prefers oral sex, mutual masturbation, edging, prostate stimulation, fingering or using toys rather than penetration?

 

[Lunaseraphim]

Am I the only man who prefers oral sex, mutual masturbation, edging, prostate stimulation, fingering or using toys rather than penetration?

No! A lot of men prefer that

 

[jeffmathers]

I don't think that's a good idea. A lot of people have insomnia or are working at night alone. I think social media being off during certain hours could be positive tho. I've always been a shy person so I met friends on the internet.

However I think what would be a lot better is if there were more initiatives for people to socialize in natural ways with people who have similar interests as them, with people in their neighborhood etc. specially events that are diversified... Like sober events, free events, events that aren't super late at night.. smaller gatherings etc

yeah. Also I have friends in many time zones so an 8 hour ban worldwide would mean not being able to talk to a Tokyo friend of mine for 16 hours a day due to the way overlap would occur.

 

[jeffmathers]

No! A lot of men prefer that

I feel deja vu from the post you're replying to.

 

[Rebaynia]

Am I the only man who prefers oral sex, mutual masturbation, edging, prostate stimulation, fingering or using toys rather than penetration?

There are so many ways to enjoy someone else, that penetration is often the most basic, and least inventive way. Even penetration falls flat, if there is none of the rest to get it exciting and worked up into.
It is very common for those with inventive minds to want and enjoy the many other ways to have fun too, and can often find things they like more than the basics while exploring.

 

[Giselle Montreal]

yeah. Also I have friends in many time zones so an 8 hour ban worldwide would mean not being able to talk to a Tokyo friend of mine for 16 hours a day due to the way overlap would occur.

If he's your friend, than you could just talk to him on the phone, or facetime or zoom.

 

[LeDodo]

Am I the only man who prefers oral sex, mutual masturbation, edging, prostate stimulation, fingering or using toys rather than penetration?

All of that add more fun to penetration

 

[FranckDV8]

There are so many ways to enjoy someone else, that penetration is often the most basic, and least inventive way. Even penetration falls flat, if there is none of the rest to get it exciting and worked up into.
It is very common for those with inventive minds to want and enjoy the many other ways to have fun too, and can often find things they like more than the basics while exploring.

To read the majority of reviews... penetration always seems to be included in the sessions... Talking about sessions without penetration may be taboo!

 

[FranckDV8]

All of that add more fun to penetration

Of course, but for me, penetration is not absolutely necessary, although fun.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

To read the majority of reviews... penetration always seems to be included in the sessions... Talking about sessions without penetration may be taboo!

There are different style of reviews, I've noticed that mine aren't written in detail, which gives me mixed feelings. On one hand, I like the discretion.. I'm not a huge fan of details of my encounters with gentlemen being revealed on the internet. On the other hand, I know some men are worried we won't provide the services we say we provide....

I think you are right, men who want different types of sessions are less likely to write reviews. You're far from the only one who doesn't want penetration during sessions. Some clients are the opposite, they go straight from kissing to penetration.. no bbbj or daty (their choice, probably safety related)

I've realized however that a lot of people have critical thinking and emotional regulation skills and are capable of asking for what they want.

 

[Rebaynia]

To read the majority of reviews... penetration always seems to be included in the sessions... Talking about sessions without penetration may be taboo!

Lol. Get me worked up enough with the rest, and I'm the one doing the insisting.

But to add to what you are saying. There are men who also suffer with ED, often medication helps, but in some of the rare cases, penetration might be a thing of the past. The other options suggested provides pleasures, reguardless of the ability to get hard or not. Sometimes tricks can be found in the process of discovery, and I have seen what in all intense purposes was a flacid penis, still ejaculate.

These are people who likely would not write reviews, as they want to keep the expieriences of their visits private. Understandably

 

[Rebaynia]

Lol. Get me worked up enough with the rest, and I'm the one doing the insisting.

But to add to what you are saying. There are men who also suffer with ED, often medication helps, but in some of the rare cases, penetration might be a thing of the past. The other options suggested provides pleasures, reguardless of the ability to get hard or not. Sometimes tricks can be found in the process of discovery, and I have seen what in all intense purposes was a flacid penis, still ejaculate.

These are people who likely would not write reviews, as they want to keep the expieriences of their visits private. Understandably

My random thought of the moment...

I need to smoke a joint so I stop sounding like a damn sex ed teacher. Dumb myself down a bit so my vocabulary doesn't sound too hoity-toity.