Relationship SP-client

[Salbandini]

I would, and have, with 3 different women. I would have married one of the ladies but we broke up not due to personal issues but rather to complications tied to immigration. We're still friends to this day. The work was never an issue for me and I've never been the jealous or possessive type, and we were pretty open about physicality. The "intimate" part for me is never about sex, although certainly sex is heightened with intimacy. I've never really understood why people choose to call it "being intimate" as opposed to "being physical" . I make a clear distinction between the two, but maybe that's just me.

Now, dating a stripper on the other hand, is a different proposition. I found dating a stripper to be far more invasive and frustrating than dating an SP. due in large part to the inability to fully control the atmosphere, or the clientele or the hours, as well as the culture (especially the drugs) that exists among the girls working in the clubs. I would far rather date an SP than a stripper. In fact, I would never date a stripper again, at least not while she's working as a stripper.

Maybe its not party atmosphere as stripper but the same drug game is involved with sps as well. Maybe not all but alot

 

[urquell]

No

Maybe its not party atmosphere as stripper but the same kinda drugs strippers take sps do as well. Maybe not all but alot

it's a different atmosphere, and the hours are different etc. It's all very different, honestly. It's not just about taking the drugs (the girls I date don't) but about the pervasive atmosphere and associations that come with the environment and the general lifestyle

 

[LeDodo]

It can be challenging for a man who has the opportunity to develop a friendship with a woman he used to see as a regular client. The constant desire to be intimate with her may make it difficult for him to refrain from returning as a client. Similarly, for her, it may be hard to be intimate with someone who was once a client but is no longer in that role.


There seem to be two different dynamics at play: one person may seek reassurance and connection through physical intimacy, while the other may need reassurance and a mental or emotional connection first, which can take more time to develop. This difference in timing might lead the man to revert to being a client.


Sometimes, it feels simpler to remain just a client, as it avoids disappointment on both sides.

What do you think?

In the first place there was something that attracted you to the person and you have that eagerness to know more. I find it challenging to try develop an emotional connection as you don't know how deep it can go or much you would know. In the process you'll walk on blurred lines and it requires a lot of emotional intelligence to respect her boundaries and maybe yours.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I would, and have, with 3 different women. I would have married one of the ladies but we broke up not due to personal issues but rather to complications tied to immigration. We're still friends to this day. The work was never an issue for me and I've never been the jealous or possessive type, and we were pretty open about physicality. The "intimate" part for me is never about sex, although certainly sex is heightened with intimacy. I've never really understood why people choose to call it "being intimate" as opposed to "being physical" . I make a clear distinction between the two, but maybe that's just me.

Now, dating a stripper on the other hand, is a different proposition. I found dating a stripper to be far more invasive and frustrating than dating an SP. due in large part to the inability to fully control the atmosphere, or the clientele or the hours, as well as the culture (especially the drugs) that exists among the girls working in the clubs. I would far rather date an SP than a stripper. In fact, I would never date a stripper again, at least not while she's working as a stripper.

That's really interesting.. I love that you can make the distinction between being intimate and being physical. Thank you for sharing! I think being a stripper seems to be a really hard job.. They work late hours. I find it difficult to date people in the night life scene too..