Relationship SP-client

[Salbandini]

I would, and have, with 3 different women. I would have married one of the ladies but we broke up not due to personal issues but rather to complications tied to immigration. We're still friends to this day. The work was never an issue for me and I've never been the jealous or possessive type, and we were pretty open about physicality. The "intimate" part for me is never about sex, although certainly sex is heightened with intimacy. I've never really understood why people choose to call it "being intimate" as opposed to "being physical" . I make a clear distinction between the two, but maybe that's just me.

Now, dating a stripper on the other hand, is a different proposition. I found dating a stripper to be far more invasive and frustrating than dating an SP. due in large part to the inability to fully control the atmosphere, or the clientele or the hours, as well as the culture (especially the drugs) that exists among the girls working in the clubs. I would far rather date an SP than a stripper. In fact, I would never date a stripper again, at least not while she's working as a stripper.

Maybe its not party atmosphere as stripper but the same drug game is involved with sps as well. Maybe not all but alot

 

[urquell]

No

Maybe its not party atmosphere as stripper but the same kinda drugs strippers take sps do as well. Maybe not all but alot

it's a different atmosphere, and the hours are different etc. It's all very different, honestly. It's not just about taking the drugs (the girls I date don't) but about the pervasive atmosphere and associations that come with the environment and the general lifestyle

 

[LeDodo]

It can be challenging for a man who has the opportunity to develop a friendship with a woman he used to see as a regular client. The constant desire to be intimate with her may make it difficult for him to refrain from returning as a client. Similarly, for her, it may be hard to be intimate with someone who was once a client but is no longer in that role.


There seem to be two different dynamics at play: one person may seek reassurance and connection through physical intimacy, while the other may need reassurance and a mental or emotional connection first, which can take more time to develop. This difference in timing might lead the man to revert to being a client.


Sometimes, it feels simpler to remain just a client, as it avoids disappointment on both sides.

What do you think?

In the first place there was something that attracted you to the person and you have that eagerness to know more. I find it challenging to try develop an emotional connection as you don't know how deep it can go or much you would know. In the process you'll walk on blurred lines and it requires a lot of emotional intelligence to respect her boundaries and maybe yours.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I would, and have, with 3 different women. I would have married one of the ladies but we broke up not due to personal issues but rather to complications tied to immigration. We're still friends to this day. The work was never an issue for me and I've never been the jealous or possessive type, and we were pretty open about physicality. The "intimate" part for me is never about sex, although certainly sex is heightened with intimacy. I've never really understood why people choose to call it "being intimate" as opposed to "being physical" . I make a clear distinction between the two, but maybe that's just me.

Now, dating a stripper on the other hand, is a different proposition. I found dating a stripper to be far more invasive and frustrating than dating an SP. due in large part to the inability to fully control the atmosphere, or the clientele or the hours, as well as the culture (especially the drugs) that exists among the girls working in the clubs. I would far rather date an SP than a stripper. In fact, I would never date a stripper again, at least not while she's working as a stripper.

That's really interesting.. I love that you can make the distinction between being intimate and being physical. Thank you for sharing! I think being a stripper seems to be a really hard job.. They work late hours. I find it difficult to date people in the night life scene too..

 

[jeffmathers]

I spent the whole day helping a provider who doesn't live in Montreal (or even this province) move. Met her boyfriend also. I met this provider 3 years ago and we had a lot in common. Went with her boyfriend to the dump and hung out with him afterwards at her place. I felt like I met another me sort of it was so fun to meet someone with so much in common with me. I feel happy for them that they have each other and I wish more providers who are looking for a significant other had someone like him. There is an emptiness to simply being physical with someone but to truly know someone at a deep level mentally and live at the same place as them seems magical. He was not a former client though.

It's always beautiful to see genuine love and people saying they love each other. I wish the SPs who think they'll never find love knew that they can find love. It's not easy but it's possible. Maybe more of a feel good story if mentioned that the provider doesn't conform to any traditional beauty standards (she isn't self conscious about it) yet has still found love. I don't know if there is a way to convince people who already conform to traditional beauty standards that their appearance isn't holding them back.

I get that it's mildly off topic but I daydream about the stigma providers face and how some things are more easily attainable for femmes who are civilians. It makes sense that a number of providers date other people in the industry as opposed to dating civilians.

Positives of dating someone with SW experience vs someone without it.

SWs are more likely to be similarly neurodivergent to me.

SWs are more likely to accept my large number of people I have had intimacy with.

SWs are more likely to know a person can be a good person and have struggled with dating.

A lot of civilians think being a good person means someone gets a relationship.

SWs are usually better at communicating boundaries than civilians though there are exceptions.

SWs are usually better at conflict de escalation tactics.