Never done that (ask for the SP to wear an outfit, for outcall). How do you go about it? Just tell the booker the day before that you want her to wear a certain outfit, if she had one? Do you need to pay extra?
Requesting outfits, etiquettes
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Just ask the booker. He/she is there to help. Never paid extra, but in my case usually has to do with outfits I know is already available with the SP.
If it’s something that’s very unlikely that they would have. It’s probably better that you buy it and bring it with you
This is most likely easier done with an indy than an agency.
I prefer when clients ask for a vibe than specific items as I may not own them or it may not look good on me. For exemple, if you say that you like cute socks, nice lingerie, etc... I might answer more positively than if someone ask me for a specific color set of lingerie.
Thats funny because as early as last week I was texting a new SP and asked if she did lingerie and heels.. and after a brief delay she said to me " Your requests are a turn off and give off a bad vibe and good luck finding what you are looking for? .. needless to say I'm confused lol
Some ladies feel as if you are trying to disguise them or put on a costume of someone they are not instead of meeting them for who they are and what they have to offer.
We must tread very lightly when suggesting such scenarios.
I don’t think that was an outrageous request.
She could have simply said I don’t like wearing heels.
Consider yourself lucky with an attitude like that you are better off not seeing her.
I am sure you will have no problem finding what you are looking for.
Personally I don’t mind what they wear, what ever makes them comfortable and the ladies I see, I have seen them in heels, cocktail dresses, dressed to kill and ordinary street clothes what ever fit the occasion and what ever they chose to wear was fine by me.
I agree .. .don;t think it was weird or outrageous ... seems the service industry is losing the culture of service more and more as each day passes lol
I used to really enjoy outfit requests until people started asking for things I didn't have. I can accommodate certain requests personally, like if someone wants me to wear a certain color or a specific type of lingerie. I've even had someone ask me to welcome him naked in sneakers before, which isn't something I can do anymore lol but I still did it. Sometimes people request for me to be dressed in just jeans a t-shirt. But remember SP's don't necessarily have a wardrobe full of costumes and different types of outfits. I gave away a lot of my costume-y lingerie because it wasn't popular with most of my clients, and I don't own any costumes that are commonly requested, so I would appreciate if the person actually brings the outfit himself. Which is what 2 clients have done before, and it was really fun.
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That's a normal request to me, but I'm wondering if this person felt pressured to conform to a certain style that isn't hers. Her response was really rude tho and uncalled for. I almost always receive in lingerie and heels, doesn't seem that outrageous to me.
Omg the costume talk reminded me of something.
Please definitely ask your provider if she's okay with the outfit you intend to have her wear if you're buying it yourself. Don't just bring it and assume.
I usually love receiving new costumes or lingerie but I'll never forget how crass and dehumanizing it was that one time a client showed up with a brand new costume for me to wear and the costume was a costume of a fucking nazi uniform. Disgusting on so many levels.
Please definitely ask your provider if she's okay with the outfit you intend to have her wear if you're buying it yourself. Don't just bring it and assume.
I usually love receiving new costumes or lingerie but I'll never forget how crass and dehumanizing it was that one time a client showed up with a brand new costume for me to wear and the costume was a costume of a fucking nazi uniform. Disgusting on so many levels.
The request wasn’t outrageous but some people don’t like being asked. She has said it was a turn off for her to be asked so what you requested doesn’t seem to be the problem here.
You can try starting with “do you accept outfit requests?” and then proceed with your request.
I enjoy outfit requests but only when it’s something simple like can you wear a dress. If it’s “can you wear a tight short red dress” it’s not as fun because I don’t own that specific colour, style or maybe it’s in the laundry. It will also lowkey make me feel like if I don’t show up with the exact dress the person won’t have as much fun.
You can try starting with “do you accept outfit requests?” and then proceed with your request.
I enjoy outfit requests but only when it’s something simple like can you wear a dress. If it’s “can you wear a tight short red dress” it’s not as fun because I don’t own that specific colour, style or maybe it’s in the laundry. It will also lowkey make me feel like if I don’t show up with the exact dress the person won’t have as much fun.
I'm so sorry this happened to you, that's really fucked.
I think costumes can be a little upsetting sometimes even if it's something not that extreme. I've often had people request schoolgirl uniforms and cheerleader outfits. It's not that I wouldn't wear them, if the client brought the outfit I would wear it, but the teenage girl fantasy isn't my cup of tea and it comes with a certain expectation of roleplay and power dynamics.
If there was a hall of shame, this anecdote would belong there.
I feel the same way. That's why I'm saying if someone has a very specific request they should just get it for us.
Yeah it's up there in the list of craziest things that happened at work. I have no idea why he thought that was even remotely okay.
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