The provider you see has Facebook account and can see her "friends" list

[Sexicanboy]

Okay not sure this topic was brought up before. How does it make you feel when the provider you see regularly has FAcebook account and can see her "friends" list. She has this "favorite" dildo that puts a like on every post. You see she interacts more with a particular one than others. I know I know In our minds she's a service provider and there to provide a service. put aside jealousy etc etc

But deep inside, Is the feeling of being "special" for your moment kind of fizzle out when you see this type of behaviour? Is it a turn off? Does imake t you feel competative?

 

[jalimon]

If you browse too much her FB account you will then start appearing to her as a suggested friend no? Then she will discover you as well? I rarely use FB so if one can confirm.

Cheers,

 

[Flyingby]

I think you will get way too many responses about this topic that will be completely different. And most likely not true. Most guys won’t admit to jealousy. Especially not here.


My point is. It’s not the providers problem or fault if a dildo is jealous of another dildo. Just like johns have their favorites so do escorts

 

[Sexicanboy]

Thanks for your reply. I already know how I feel it's a turnoff. I was making a survey who feels the same way. If escorts have their favorite. Why make it public?

 

[Sexicanboy]

If you browse too much her FB account you will then start appearing to her as a suggested friend no? Then she will discover you as well? I rarely use FB so if one can confirm.

Cheers,

NOt intersted in being on the list anymore. Don"t want to be discovered. lol. There is a separate story. which is another subject. all good.

 

[happyhobbist]

Very interesting.
When you have a regular with whom you have a spectacular time and a particular connection, you become intoxicated by it.
So there is a bit of struggle with jealousy when you're reminded that she's a service provider and has other regulars which seem to enjoy the same kind of connection.
You always want to be the special one, i guess it's in our genes or hormones.
I admit being jealous of my ATF's other regulars. (;D at Flyingby)
But I've been working hard to put the emotions aside, accepting that it's her job and to truly enjoy nonetheless the privileged time I have with her.
She makes me feel special all the time, so that should be enough. Who cares about the others!
I think i've done a pretty good job, because I can now openly talk with her about her other regulars with much less cringing.
Also when I see a glowing review of her on merb, I now feel proud of her work and wish her continued success.
It'll means she's making the world a better place by spreading well-being to other "patients" ;D.

But I understand that you should try to keep information about other regulars as private as possible to keep the sizzle going.
I'm sure a lot of people gets turned off when that barrier is broken. It's human nature.

 

[Halloween Mike]

There is a few hot ladies i check at times on instagram, i dunno if there escorts or not, i discovered there profiles trough pages like "quebec daily babes" and such. Sometimes there is one middle age/older man that totally look like a client who comment on almost every post telling her how hot she is and such and sometimes saying he "miss" her. It totally look like this dude's a client :lol:

 

[Flyingby]

If you feel "special" to any one of these providers, no matter how nice they may be to you, then you are delusional and I'll get you a helmet and a box of crayons.

We are a source of income...nothing more.

Really? ...not sure I 100% agree with you. Obviously we are a source of income. I think the dillusion is if you expect it for free or a relationship. But i think sometimes it is more than just casual. Whether it be as a confident. Or someone she can ask advice to. Or give a special rate.

I do think we can have something special with our atf, dosen’t mean it’s love. It just means that you both open up to each other a little bit more. You might be there in a moment where she needs a human touch.
Most girls say that while they are providers. They won’t have boyfriends. Everyone needs some form of empathy at some point. Sometimes just holding her tightly and telling her everything will be alright goes a long way. And the John who offers that might be a little more special than the rest.

Finally. If you want to avoid being jealous or have feeling of resentment to another John. Don’t be a regular. Just do one-offs

 

[Julia Sky]

Curious if anyone ever stumbled on my real life IG (that I don’t really use anymore btw) lol! I know I gave it to one member of this board.

JTF : Not exactly true. While I don’t consider the majority of my clients to be my friends, there are some I do consider friends and I will keep seeing (not necessarily in a sexual context) once I retire. The other day I was feeling low so I went to a clients place just to talk & spend time with him, no money exchanged. I even gave a freebie once to a member of the board because I liked him as a person lol. He’s one of those I consider somewhat of a friend, we never had an appointment (the freebie was not during an appointment) so he’s not a source of income to me and probably never will unless he books me before I retire lol, I just like him as a person even though we don’t always agree on stuff. I don’t care just for the money and I’m sure it’s the same for other girls. Granted, some clients are just a source of income (esp. one timers) but that is not the case for every single client.

 

[hungry101]

If you feel "special" to any one of these providers,
We are a source of income...nothing more.

I think that this is a healthy attitude for guys that can get sucked in. I don't believe it is 100% accurate but if you have this attitude you can't get hurt too bad. In many situations, it is to the girls advantage to make you think otherwise.

I like to think of this as the car dealer that you feel obligated to buy cars from because you have bought so many cars from that guy. This happens. But if you like the service you continue to buy from that guy. However, I know people that have given up price shopping due to a relationship with the guy in a suit. There are all kinds of examples of this.

 

[hungry101]

Some sp see us as Atms. Some really like us. Some are quick fucks. Some we really Like to see. They're people just like us. But if you see theor civi self or social medias just keep it to yourself. They tend to.

Good advice. How would you like them to treat your personal information? Treat theirs the same. Having said this, I am guilty at looking photos of girls in the past that were not meant for my eyes.

Facebook is terrible for privacy. It is unclear to me how they are also linked to Pinterest and other social media but it seems that they are. Be careful what you upload on to these sites.

Also, how do you take it all down? My father passed away 5 years ago and I continue to get messages from him and I continue to get messages from the grave. I keep trying to tell FB that his account is hacked and nothing happens.

 

[Mithanon]

A couple indy's have had me pop up as a friend suggestion on FB, at first we thought it was a location based thing but fb messenger actually lists the real reason when you open a new message with someone you haven't wrote to before:

"*** used your phone number to reach you"

so, facebook is looking at their outgoing texts lol. avoidable by using a fake number maybe but I don't care enough

 

[No_Church_InThe_Wild]

You don’t really get to decide who is gonna be your favourite .The same way that you can’t control how they ( your Favourites ) view you as a client.
And as for Johns being jealous of other Johns, or wondering if your thought of as special , or even favoured by some SP ? Well I find that kind of thinking foolish and a bit childish.Best to remain indifferent.
There is no room for sentimentality in this industry. Wearing your heart on your sleeve can spell trouble. So save yourself the aggravation and wear it on the inside ,where god intended.

That being said its only normal and basic human nature to open up with SPs ,, especially if they are your favourites . And it’s also a reality that repeating with them often makes you run the risk of getting emotionally attached.
But such is this pastime and if you are someone who values familiarity with your chosen favourites then you have to accept this risk ,,,sort of like an occupational hazard .
But do stay a bit guarded and try to keep the real stuff for the real world . I keep it professional. The more I like the SP the more I try to follow some basic guidelines and remain as levelheaded as humanly possible. In closing favouritism has always been unimportant to me . Ultimately what matters to me is to try and build a good client/sp rapport and make it pleasant for both of us . As simple as that ,,, or so It seems.

 

[Lord Canarvon]

The founder of McAfee antivirus said in an interview that if you do not want anyone or everyone to know what you do on the internet the do not put it on there. He is totally anonymous on the internet.