Wasted time.....

[Thor Jr]

I searched cause i thought i had read this topic before and did not get any results, mods please move this if need be.

Ok, i had an encounter that went like this: Lady arrives, she changes into something sexy, i pour us some wine and we sit and chat. Time is passing and we are having a great time, on numerous times i make little gestured moves, touching her bare thigh, placing my hand on her back and giving some lite massaging, move a little closer and kiss her bare shoulder and then our lips meet, we kiss passionately and then were back to talking again. Then again trying to move things along, back to kissing, some lite petting, breasts being gently caressed, my now rock hard tool of satisfaction being massaged and off to the bedroom we go, clothes come off, we jump onto the bed, a little kissing and i work my way down and after maybe about 5 minutes of DATY, bang, that irritating alarm goes off and at the same instant there goes my hard on. Well as you may have figured out, no sex for me tonight. I get the usual, oh im so sorry, ill make it up to you next time. I did appreciate the gesture and i felt like she really meant it. I could say that i was as much at fault as she was, but sometimes i believe the ladies do it on purpose. I have read other members having this problem, although this only happened once or twice to me,(that i can recall) my dilemma is, do you move on and toss this one as a loss and just never book the lady again or take her at her word and give her a chance to redeem herself and have a great time. What is your take on this? I will not write a review yet until i know for sure i will not see her again, if i do then ill write either a glowing review or a poor one. I have one head saying move on and the other one saying call and book her now and get what is coming to you. I have to admit, i am intrigued with both her personality and sexiness,and a very pretty lady.


So what do you think?

 

[Gil Grissom]

When I go to the buffet I get to the shrimp first, any additional stuff I wait for later. It was your choice to wait.

 

[EagerBeaver]

From your summary it’s really hard to figure out how this happened, maybe too much talking and time wasting by you, maybe time wasting by her. My questions:

1. Is she new to the biz (in which case she probably doesn’t know how to move things along)?

2. Any other reviews on her indicating she is a time waster?

Really hard to make any judgments on this especially since we know you are a veteran but as a fellow veteran I too sometimes talk too much and lose track of time, fortunately never to the point you reached here but had some rushed late sessions even on 2 hours booking from me blabbing too much and not getting down to business. It happens and it’s one reason I stopped drinking on dates because liquor makes me talk and talk and talk and it’s not what you want or need sometimes in these situations, which call for action.

 

[liloudallas]

I think you need to determine what are exactly your needs. If you need to have the "seduction" play in your encounter, book a 90-120 minutes session. That way you will have the time to do the chit-chat, go slow and bring the lady to ecstasy. I understand you want to properly treat the lady, but I think its asking a lot to chit-chat, share a bottle of wine and go the whole nine yards in a 60 minutes session. Last Saturday I booked an Indy (wont reveal who she was) that I have seen 6 times so far. Booked for 90 mins, share some wine, chit chat for maybe 40 mins with a lot of seduction, end-up with a session of more than 2 hours at no extra cost. I've being hobbying on and off for more than 25 years and had several hundreds of encounters, this was by far the most satisfying session I have ever had in my life. That was beyond the GFE. It was real. I can now die an happy man. Chemistry with an SP can build with time. Maybe give it a try another time but with a longer session?

 

[Thor Jr]

Hello EB,

She is new to the business and no reviews yet, i would be the first review if and when i write one. I did mention that i could be as much at fault as she was, i was enjoying our conversation and we did have a few laughs. I did the usual gestures to move things along without being to pushy considering she was new to the biz and i didn't want her to feel uncomfortable. I did ask to extend another half hour but she rejected cause of another appointment and she did arrive at my place 40 minutes late for our appointment.
And like i wrote, this does not happen frequently enough to me to write about it, maybe the second time in 20 years of seeing the ladies. My question is really in whether i should see her again to make things right or just move on, so many ladies to encounter. I believe that she did make an impression on me to even have put this into words here on merb. I would like to believe that she was sincere in her promise to make it to me next time, all i can say is time will tell and if i do, i will write a review reflecting both encounters.

Thank you for your input, much appreciated.

 

[Thor Jr]

I think you need to determine what are exactly your needs. If you need to have the "seduction" play in your encounter, book a 90-120 minutes session. That way you will have the time to do the chit-chat, go slow and bring the lady to ecstasy. I understand you want to properly treat the lady, but I think its asking a lot to chit-chat, share a bottle of wine and go the whole nine yards in a 60 minutes session. Last Saturday I booked an Indy (wont reveal who she was) that I have seen 6 times so far. Booked for 90 mins, share some wine, chit chat for maybe 40 mins with a lot of seduction, end-up with a session of more than 2 hours at no extra cost. I've being hobbying on and off for more than 25 years and had several hundreds of encounters, this was by far the most satisfying session I have ever had in my life. That was beyond the GFE. It was real. I can now die an happy man. Chemistry with an SP can build with time. Maybe give it a try another time but with a longer session?

Hi,
I never book less than 90 minutes and push more for the 2 hour session cause i want more then a wam bam thank you mame. I want more then that. For me its not all about sex, its the road to the sex that i enjoy, i just want to make sure the road leads there.

 

[EagerBeaver]

I suspected she was new, it’s always delicate with the new ladies as to when and how to hit the “let’s get things moving along” button. And now that I mostly see SA girls in the USA I am in this situation all the time although it’s always a question of how many dates before intimacy happens which varies. And then when it’s agreed to it’s the same drill. I was literally the very first intimacy for a SB with more than a few and some are really shy even if they are comfortable with you.

I would take the loss and see her again, remind her of the promise to make it good and then see what happens, and then post a review. I can see how this happened- been there and done that. I would also suggest that if you pour some wine let her drink but you should take faux sips. Drinking wine is very bad for me as I get a diarrhea of the mouth and it’s not good. In my profession I have to flap the lips a lot but when I start drinking it’s like shifting into 10th gear and can get out of control. Wine also disorients your perception of time. So see if that helps. Good luck-

 

[Fradi]

You did say that this has only happened to you maybe once or twice.
She is quite new and you did enjoy her company and say that it is not all about sex which I can agree with.
I enjoy the companionship and having a glass of wine and getting to know the woman I am with as much as the bedroom gymnastics.

Why not give her another chance if you enjoyed being with her, only this time tell her that you would like to make sure you get to enjoy everything she has to offer, I am sure you can do this in a humorous way that won’t ruin the mood for either.

After all you haven’t lost your life’s savings, you could have spent money on way worse things than spending 90 minutes with a gorgeous young woman and enjoying her company even if you left a little disappointed.
Who knows maybe she has every intention in making it up to you and perhaps feels a bit embarrassed that she was a bit inexperienced.
I don’t view a couple of hundred bucks as a huge loss especially when it is not an obvious bait and switch or someone just scamming you.

 

[hungry101]

I achieved a milestone in my career and I took a party out to an upscale Brazilian Churrascaria. I told them not to fill up at the salad bar. I said "have a little heart of palm and a few lettuce leaves but focus on the main course." Many filled up and barely ate any meat and were full by the time the picanha came out. You spent too much time at the salad bar.

However, a good escort would of done two things: 1.) She would of initiated sex and 2.) she might of put the alarm on snooze like many girl have so I can at least attempt to get off #2. She's new so maybe she hasn't acquired that internal clock and skill to move things along. Most of the blame is on you. You might have called the agency and extended or you may tell them your story and maybe they will tell you tough luck or maybe they will give you a credit.

In all my days, this has not happened to me. Excuse me but I kind of find it hard to fathom. How does this happen?

 

[EagerBeaver]

I think you need to determine what are exactly your needs. If you need to have the "seduction" play in your encounter, book a 90-120 minutes session. That way you will have the time to do the chit-chat, go slow and bring the lady to ecstasy. I understand you want to properly treat the lady, but I think its asking a lot to chit-chat, share a bottle of wine and go the whole nine yards in a 60 minutes session. ?

I did not see this post until now and I agree with the above. The situation happened because of a combination of things: (1) newness of the lady and not knowing when to accelerate or taking cues to do so; (2) desire of the client to enjoy conversation and a bottle of wine; (3) do the give and then the take and (4) all in 60 minutes.

A long time ago I was friendly with another guy who used to be a frequent poster here on MERB and in Doc Holliday's saloon way back in the day around 2002-2004. We ended up both being frequent clients of the same indy lady at FKS and she used to tell me about him and contrast him with me in our approaches to the session. She said to me he would "get right down to business" and pretty much dispensed with idle chit chat. She enjoyed conversation and banter with me, and one time on a paid 2 hour date she did not leave my room after the 2 hours were over. I soon figured out she did not have any place else to be (evidently) and when she stayed on into my planned dinner time, I invited her to join me for dinner. She accepted. With our 2 hour paid date over, it then became about a 6 hour dinner date inclusive of social time she spent just talking to me in my hotel room post sexual interlude. Of course, when the date is over, an indy who is off the clock and has no other dates is free to do whatever she wants, and I was just glad she wanted to spend more time with me, even if it was just social time. I ended walking with her from the old Hyatt all the way up St. Catherine to rue de la Montagne and we randomly selected an Italian restaurant, just north of Sherbrooke, which went out of business around 12 years ago. Was a truly lovely evening and sometimes stuff like that happens to all of us who have been around long enough. This was back in the summer of 2004 if I recall correctly. It is hard to believe it is almost 16 years ago.

 

[Numerati]

My encounters were always two hours minimum so the deed always gets done. Only did an hour once when I was in Vegas and the lady couldn't find my hotel because it was new back then and was a pain to find and get to (The Vdara at the City Center). Took her an hour to find my place and by then it was kind of late and she was irritated which I understand. But session still went well.

Always control the dynamics and the flow of the session.

Only time when the girl tried to stall from a second or third SOG is because she just couldn't handle the long deed and that also only happened once.

 

[liloudallas]

Hi,
I never book less than 90 minutes and push more for the 2 hour session cause i want more then a wam bam thank you mame. I want more then that. For me its not all about sex, its the road to the sex that i enjoy, i just want to make sure the road leads there.

If you are really attracted to her, book her again and see how she react. Might be a lack of experience. Might be a time waster. The only way to know is to see her again. Years ago I met a SP who couldn't simply stop talking. At one point I simply told her that I was not there to talk. She got the message.

 

[jalimon]

You are a respected veteran here you should have done a polite review of what happened. Maybe 10 other newbie got the same treatment as you had since you saw her...

Cheers,

 

[hungry101]

This is true Jaliman. She may think that this is the way to do it. Chat the guy up and keep your clothes on. Not a good start. I would not be happy if a girl left my room without doing the deed.

 

[Sol Tee Nutz]

When I go to the buffet I get to the shrimp first, any additional stuff I wait for later. It was your choice to wait.

Same but 5ish minutes to say hi first.

 

[The Nature Boy]

Thor man I just had this fucking bullshit pulled on me!!!!! And it was by a popular escort whose got stellar reviews!!!! I saw her for an hour session and her shift was like 8 hours and my appointment was right in the middle! She just kept going on and on, I was like thinking to myself “yo when the fuck is this shit gonna start!?!? Wtf?” Then she started showing me pictures and shit on the phone and I was like “oh shit we got only 20 min left from what your phone says.” She acted all surprised and started with the kissy kissy and grinding. Anywhoo....I just found it hard to believe that a seasoned SP like herself wasn’t stalling and trying to run out clock. It was late, there wasn’t likely another client afterwards n kinda wonder if she woulda been like times up, u can extend if you want. Look man, you always hear about guys acting like dicks with the girls, but there’s a definite flip side. U seem like a nice guy Thor. Sometimes, with nice guys if people see that, they will take advantage. You kinda have to be on guard about that. Sometimes with certain people if they see a little bit of an opening they’ll come in and take a lot. Not sure if this was the case with your situation as the SP was new but, just saying, keep a heads up about this stuff. This chic I saw seemed a bit of a trickster, was talkin about comin over after her shift and spending the night. I’d probably wake up in the morning and find my watch on eBay. Just keep this stuff in mind. Anywhoo, I’ll let you boys know how the second appointment goes tomorrow with her.

 

[hungry101]

. This chic I saw seemed a bit of a trickster, was talkin about comin over after her shift and spending the night. I’d probably wake up in the morning and find my watch on eBay. Just keep this stuff in mind. Anywhoo, I’ll let you boys know how the second appointment goes tomorrow with her.

Are you kidding NB? Is this like the old joke....Warning! I ran into two hot girls
at Wallmart. They clean your windows and you offer to pay them but the two hot girls ask you to drive you to another WallMart. They get in the car and one distracts you by rubbing her boobs on you while the other steals your wallet. Beware of these girl! It happened Monday, Tuesday, again on Thursday and twice on Friday... WallMart has wallets on sale 2 for 1....

Why would you see her again? Are you guys writing reviews?

 

[The Nature Boy]

Of course I’m gonna see her again!!! Those last 20 min of the session was some insane shit and if any of you fuckers experienced that I bet you’d be going back for more!!!! DO NOT JUDGE ME!!!! Plus I know I can be one interesting chap when I wanna be so I’m gonna give her the benefit of the doubt.

 

[jalimon]

Me too i am puzzled... NB reading your post its hard to believe you had a good time.

I pity these girl if they meet me Not much of a talker..

 

[Flyingby]

I agree. NB your dick must be talking and not your brain
I booked an indy and told her that i ain’t much for cuddling or talking. More into wham bam ciao ma’am.
She cancelled my appointment saying we were not a good fit. Which i totally respect and am fascinated even more now by her honesty and not wasting my time.
If a girl talks and wasted time. I unzip my pants and put my cock close to her mouth