Paying for It (2024)
Just exactly what the title suggests.
A comedy/drama set in 1999 'bohemian-bourgeois' Toronto about an incredibly nerdish comic book artist who starts seeing SWs after the girlfriend he lives with suggests they "open up their relationship" so that she can begin seeing other men.
Probably the most positive representation of a "john" in the history of movies, at least insofar as he's bookish, intelligent & inoffensive (if socially awkward) but totally respectful of the women he meets.
The plot twist is that what begins as sexual liberation for her turns disastrously wrong through her increasingly bad choice of sexual partners.
Meanhile, for him, after an inauspicious start, seeing SWs becomes an invigorating, truly worthwhile experience, even pursuing it longterm especially after meeting soon-to-be regular "Denise."
It's all pretty frank, accurate for the most part, with plenty that everyone here will recognize as familar even if the film is set 25 years ago.
My only issue is that the sexual experience iself, as represented in the film for him, seemed much less wild, cathartic, empathic and aesthetically & physically pleasurable as the character himself makes it out to be. [Or at least as it was for me ... lol.]
Probably not for everyone but I enjoyed it a lot. It's based on a graphic novel and directed by Sook-Yin Lee, whom some will remember from a sexually-explicit film called Shortbus, which got her fired from the CBC, as well as MuchMuch (ruthlessly satirized in the film).
Here she talks about the film, as well as the problems will Bill C-36
Just exactly what the title suggests.
A comedy/drama set in 1999 'bohemian-bourgeois' Toronto about an incredibly nerdish comic book artist who starts seeing SWs after the girlfriend he lives with suggests they "open up their relationship" so that she can begin seeing other men.
Probably the most positive representation of a "john" in the history of movies, at least insofar as he's bookish, intelligent & inoffensive (if socially awkward) but totally respectful of the women he meets.
The plot twist is that what begins as sexual liberation for her turns disastrously wrong through her increasingly bad choice of sexual partners.
Meanhile, for him, after an inauspicious start, seeing SWs becomes an invigorating, truly worthwhile experience, even pursuing it longterm especially after meeting soon-to-be regular "Denise."
It's all pretty frank, accurate for the most part, with plenty that everyone here will recognize as familar even if the film is set 25 years ago.
My only issue is that the sexual experience iself, as represented in the film for him, seemed much less wild, cathartic, empathic and aesthetically & physically pleasurable as the character himself makes it out to be. [Or at least as it was for me ... lol.]
Probably not for everyone but I enjoyed it a lot. It's based on a graphic novel and directed by Sook-Yin Lee, whom some will remember from a sexually-explicit film called Shortbus, which got her fired from the CBC, as well as MuchMuch (ruthlessly satirized in the film).
Here she talks about the film, as well as the problems will Bill C-36
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