What's too personal to do?

[ravenazrael]

I have met several escorts who had some limits because they considered it was too personal and they would only do it in their personal lives with boyfriends.

A couple of girls said that they would only do anal with boyfriends, others consider swallowing is only for BF, same for facials. No shower with client policy. I think some only do LFK, There are others who are open to everything and more.

Each persona has different limits. What things have you found some girls find it too personal.... and Girls, what do you consider too personal?

Where I come from many girls did not do anal sex because they would only do it with the man they get married. Their believe was that they wanted to give something extra to the person who they would be willing to spend their lives with rather than doing it all with other guys.

 

[Kinky Cinderella]

DFK is not "too personal" but I need chemistry in order to provide it and that, It can''t be granted before I have met the guy...it is waayyyyy deeper than a superficial thing...

But what I found hilarious was before the gfe area...seeing girls explaining they do not BBBJ because they are affraid of STD but said right after it can be done with a slighter extra of 40-60$....each and every single time I was mentally cracked up..:"ok so not getting herpes or syphilis worths 40-60$?? ound: "

I used the exact same reason when I was working in an agency since I had no freakin clue who was the random dude of front of me...but I wasn't doing extras about it and couldn't stand negociation in order to do it for 40-60 or even a freakin 100$ ... even 500$ ...I would cut the crap short and remind him the clock kept tiquing while he was trying to get the impossible... ( :lol: in agency, the only thing that could have been colder than me is nitrous I think LOLL)

 

[Julia Sky]

I don't throw tantrums at my clients. Too personal.

LOL

 

[Julia Sky]

For me its the opposite. There are things I will NOT do with my GF, that I will do with an escort. Real freaky sexy stuff.

I once had a guy come see me to try what I am best at (we all know what it is). He told me that it was his GF who told him To book me because he was scared an intense FF would hurt her but she really wanted him to do it on her so she told him to try with me first to get comfortable with the idea.

What an amazing GF.

 

[ravenazrael]

Interesting Julia. It is hard to let the person you love have sex with others. The risk is that the person who has that new experience finds it more appealing and then never comes back the bf/gf. I know a swinger couple who broke up because of letting the other do some stuff with somebody else

 

[rosedelacourt]

limits

I would say that when you are an escort, but you also have a boyfriend, you need to have some boundaries. You need to have some ''special things'' you keep for your special person only. Otherwise, having sex with your boyfriend/girlfriend is no different than seeing a client. You can have good chemistry with a client sure, he might get some YMMV stuff. It all depends on what you really like at home and might not offer in a normal session.

 

[scdave2003]

I think an escort can do anything she wants with a client same as with a BF. With the BF there is an emotional connection that isn't at the same level as with a client. She can like the client but be in love with the BF.

 

[TheDon]

I one thing I absolutely hate the most and is the number 1 deal breaker for me is when an SP suddenly stops everything because she doesn't want herself to orgasm.

 

[ravenazrael]

I one thing I absolutely hate the most and is the number 1 deal breaker for me is when an SP suddenly stops everything because she doesn't want herself to orgasm.

Oh I feel you. Been there too

 

[Kinky Cinderella]

If an escort has a boyfriend and their relation is genuine, they have to set their bounderies as being faith with the heart and not with the body...

The only time I felt unfaith, I was stripping and the guy was so handsome, sensuous...I was dancing and jesus christ, I surprised myself wishing he would try to cross my limits to let him do it....but right away I felt so bad...the song ended and I stop dancing

ME:"it going to be 30$"
HIM, confused: I wanted to take few more....
ME: nahhh it will be 30$
HIM, getting even more lost:"did I do something wront???"
ME:"no...thats the main problem..."

So, the guy has to realized he has your heart and not feeling threat by your clients...otherwise, your client will feel like walking wallet and being dragged down..and I don't think it is a good selling pitch...nor it is aphrodisiac..the loved one has to feel he has exclusivity on your attention and internal parts..the clients should bot feel they worth less in order to make him feel better

 

[curly]

:crazy:Why on earth?!?!?

Ladies please explain! Seems to me having a client unskilled to give you pleasure must be much more frustrating!

 

[Kinky Cinderella]

Me?? I know the way I am..and it would have turn to a real intercourse right in the booth..i WANTED to have him inside me...and I hate not having what/who I want... :rant:

 

[charmer_]

There was a very well known SP that allowed both BBBJ and DATY as separate actions...but wouldn't allow 69 for personal reasons.

 

[here4agoodtime]

Me?? I know the way I am..and it would have turn to a real intercourse right in the booth..i WANTED to have him inside me...and I hate not having what/who I want... :rant:

I thought that you looked familiar ! lol That did happen to me at that club.

 

[cloudsurf]

For me too personal would be CIM...

I still laugh about the meeting I had with a gentleman and he asked for it and I replied that me I was ''Girlfriend Experience'' and for me CIM would fall in the ''Wife Experience''...
He looked at me and said very dryly: ''you don't know my wife...''

Now I just blame the calorie count...

Just the opposite for me. My wife and most of my girlfriends didn`t want cim.
14 out of the last 15 escorts that I`ve seen this year, allowed cim and half of them swallowed without me requesting it.
Different worlds we live in.

 

[hungry101]

I have met several escorts who had some limits because they considered it was too personal and they would only do it in their personal lives with boyfriends.

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I think it is human, normal and very natural to try to draw the line somewhere. It allows the girl to rationalize that she still has a measure of self respect while providing a service that is much maligned by civilians. However, you cannot get away from it. The service we hobbyists seek is very personal. For the girl to save face (and I don't blame her) she needs to draw the line. So here are a few things that the girl should not do with any customer: Actually loving someone is more personal than any physical act. Only give your heart to you lover. There are some physical personal acts that a girl could save for her boyfriend/lover and future husband. How about making breakfast for him (or her) the next morning? I think bearing someone's child would also be very personal? From the hobbyists side I feel that my bank account and Social Security ID is too personal etc.

I long for the day when sex workers are not stereotyped as runaways and trafficked underage girls forced into doing something that they have no desire to do mostly to support a drug habit. Talk to Hanna at Unicorns Faith Healers. She will tell you that having a sexual outlet and a strong orgasm not only feels good but is also good therapy and necessary to maintain ones mental health.

 

[EagerBeaver]

Lines sometimes get drawn that are artificial. I have noticed a lot of posters on MERB accept at face value what an SP tells them. Yes, many SPs and civilian women will say something is too personal because they aren’t comfortable doing it with you. However that may change after she sees you 2-3 times depending on your behavior, chivalry and generosity. Many women told me that they wouldn’t CIM, for whatever reason, and later did. I remember one SP in particular who told me she wouldn’t CIM because she didn’t think it was safe. However when I saw her the third time and offered a substantial tip she did. My sense is it’s partly a comfort level thing and partly a tip issue depending on the lady.

This isn’t to say that when a woman draws the line it’s never for real. But many times it isn’t. Also, they are not lying, in most cases if an SP doesn’t really know you and you have not proven anything to her as far as gentlemanliness, she isn’t going to want to do it.

By the way the thumbs up icon appears in this post and wasn’t meant to go with it. I don’t know how to edit it out because it isn’t appearing as editable text.

 

[Kinky Cinderella]

Yeah hungry's idea is nice...but in my opinion, if boyfriend feel that uncomfortable by being with an sp so he needs some physical exclusivity, their is a problem way bigger than the sp's menu and I really do not think restraining her meny will make her job acceptable in the eyes of a man who can't cope with that...

And seriously, as an human being, if I had a boyfriend who do escorting and I know I just can't handle many things he does with his clients..but when I try to open it up with him, he replies that he bakes some cookies for me and he does his own spagetti's sauce, I seriously couldn't care less.. (and I would even say if this is the answer he would give me about my insecurity, I would take this more as an insult)

 

[ravenazrael]

I knew some girls who did porn who stopped doing porn because they fell in love and they did not want to share sex with anybody else. Maybe when a SP who has a boyfriend and continues being a SP means that she is not actually in love??

 

[Kinky Cinderella]

Raven :
Sexuality is in the brain
Love is in the heart

Love and Pleasure don't always come together...

But the thing is, if I know there is a difference between the courtesan and the woman that I am, the man who would be by my side and in love with me wouldn't see Alyssa going for an encounter, he would see Me...this is only one lady...and this lady was about to give in for someone else...this is where the clash starts...

Some ladies won't dig and stick to the first degree's message coming from her boyfriend for many various reasons : she thinks he would be comfortable enough to tell her the real and ugly truth if he wasn't at ease with that, or she just don't have the energy (neither the time) to read between the lines...But in my studies, with my knowledge, lets say we are a couple and you start to ask me if I can stop doing this or that, I would only see an insecure man who is trying his best to look in control because he wouldn't dare to tell me what to do or encourage me to change my life habits or him...that could be for many various reasons as well: you could just not be in a situation where you could financially help me the way I need so you don't want to ask me to manage my lifestyle in a different way for your own well-being and you might consider it too selfish..... So I would feel a serious discussion has to happen because yes I could be deeply in love and couldn't manage being in this job if it hurts you...so we could check the options..stripping..webcam..etc

I think the main problem gets when there is a minimal lack of communication, especially in this kind of relationship where someone has to cope with something the majority couldn't deal with...because then the couple's issue become a sort of "me against you" instead of "you & me against the problem"...so each tries to get the best from the other without fixing the problem in itself... (the funniest part is that I was rereading my post quickly and looked at my signature, I was referring to sexuality but could match the topic here as well lol)