Why DATY?

[General Gonad]

Why not? If the client is informed, I don't see an issue.

Anik,

"If the client is informed" being the key. Do you inform all your clients, even those that do not check your schedule? What if you just got it that morning, would you inform the client?

Most agency SPs do not inform the clients. I can pick them off from a mile away. They work every single day, often brutal shifts, and they never take time off. Some agency owners also provide sponges, a big no-no.

In my opinion, it is really gross if an SP works during her menstruations. I also wonder how hygienic it is and more importantly how safe it is. Just take time off from work during those days.

GG

 

[babefreak]

Personally, I would never perform DATY on an SP. Not that I don't like DATY. I absolutely adore it! But knowing about all the risks involved in doing it, it's way too risky.

With a girlfriend, this is the part about sex I enjoy the most. Of course, she must be fairly pretty first... Getting my face all wet from her love juices, licking her asshole at the same time, smelling her pussy's sweet perfume, gets me so f...ing horney! I can't imagine not doing this with her. I enjoy it almost as much as putting Mr. Happy in there.

You'd be surprised at how many women I met that had never had DATY performed by their previous boyfriend They were so shy at the beginning when I put my face down there the first time we had sex. For me, it was so normal. It freaks me out that so many men are disgusted by the thought of putting their face down there.

My opinion...

 

[EagerBeaver]

In my opinion, it is really gross if an SP works during her menstruations. GG

You may think it is gross, but I know it is gross, having had an SP menstruate all over me. Read this:

https://merb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=8752&highlight=bizarre+easter

 

[Just-ass-weet]

I always inform lovers of my status

It isn't for everyone, but enough guys like it. I would disclose this information without hesistation... it is a natural occurence and I have nothing to be ashamed of! If the guy choses not to see me, np,... just like some guys like having a girl who is menstrual (or don't mind), some guys like DATY and others don't. You may think it it gross for you, but for all you know, you have already done it.

The risks are pretty much the same as any other time of the month - but I would not encourage DATY. Do I use a sponge during that time of the month - yup... and most likely, you wouldn't detect it at all... I just happen to prefer being open about that time of the month. But go ahead, chastise me for telling the truth GG. In any case, what makes you the final judge on what is gross and when I should work or not? For a guy who doesn't like others judging him for yamming on the Y, you certainly know how to dish out judgements.

 

[babefreak]

For me it's not gross. I never minded having sex while a woman had her period. A woman I knew had such a lite bleeding that it didn't stop me from giving her DATY. But with others, it's a bit too much I'm afraid. Only the risks will some times turn me off.

 

[General Gonad]

In any case, what makes you the final judge on what is gross and when I should work or not? For a guy who doesn't like others judging him for yamming on the Y, you certainly know how to dish out judgements.

Yes, I think it's absolutely disgusting and I do not need to try it to convince myself. For a gal who is concerned on where the limits of GFE are heading, it surprises me that you have no problem working while on your period. Again, the risks are higher and it is unhygienic (actually just gross). A little time off will not kill you ladies who have no problem working even when you're menstruating.

GG

P.S. EB, I remember reading that review...totally gross!

 

[babefreak]

As Just-ass-sweet mentionned, if the client is informed and doesn't mind, than what's wrong with it? It's his problem. But of course, the SP must at least inform clients before they meet them.

GG, not all women have a problem with having sex while menstruating. Some even find that they are even more sensitive in that period. They will feel more pleasure. A few of my girlfriends actually told me this.

Of course, some women bleed like a shower so it becomes less appealing... You have to take precautions for the bed sheets and all...

 

[gamelessdork]

Generally I don`t, but sometimes if I`ve seen an SP enough, I want her to enjoy it too besides getting $$ from me. I did it for a bit last year to get experience at it, but it`s really nothing too it. The second time I had done it in my life, the SP (the romanian woman from Eleganza, I dunno if she`s there anymore.. the one with implants, speaks really great english) said I had a gift.. And then some girl I was dating after that said the same thing......

But normally I don`t, but sometimes they`ll ask you to do it... If it was early evening (which I normally do) then I`ll probably oblige.. But I figure, if they give me a , they risk themselves for me. Though I don`t want to get anything, I kinda want to return the favor, even though I`m paying them. though it is rare..

 

[Ben Dover]

FHB -- as always some excellent points...

I find it irritating how some posters are so quick to tell everyone what is right and what is wrong, as if only their opinions matter. Can`t people feel different ways about the same topic?

GG -- if health was truly your biggest concern, you would avoid DATY and etc -- AS WELL AS avoiding SPs who work on the rag. I happen to agree with you that SPs should never work during their period and I would avoid any that were known to do so, but instead of trying to police the world, I think we`d all just be better served to do what we each think is right and to protect ourselves by making the best personal decisions that we can. You can cry about it all you want but the bastards who try to initiate BBFS as well as the SPs who allow it (oh-la-la... I just finished reading that horror-thread) and infected SPs etc etc will continue to do what they do all the same...

If Anik wants to work during her period, it`s up to her. People who are aware of it can make their own educated decisions about seeing her.

Back to the topic of this thread... My original comment was going to be the following... I do love DATY when the passion is right and the moment is at hand -- and especially when the Y is compact, clean shaven, beautifully shaped and smells/tastes just perfect.. It turns me on to feel a gorgeous woman clamp her hands behind my head as she starts bucking like a wild animal in unrelenting climax... That being said, I have the good fortune to be experiencing some exceptional and frequent DATY in my personal life, which may be one of the factors that makes me less inclined to engage with SPs. I usually sort of feel like --``well, why do I need to go there -- it can`t be better than what I`m getting already``... but on the rare occaision the desire grabs me and I can`t help but to go for it...

What I really wanted to mention and what actually bothers me a bit (this has happened 2 times in the last 12 months) is when, during a heated/passionate moment an SP will basically insist that ``it`s my turn`` or that she ``needs`` me to go down on her. For me, especially when I`m not feeling so inclined, this can put a negative spin on the encounter... Both times I accepted the offer as I didn`t want to ``spoil the mood`` and both times the SPs responded shortly thereafter with thunderous orgasms -- but both times I was left with a bad taste in my mouth (figuratively )... There was not a cleanliness issue or anything, as these were both gorgeous, clean and in both cases positively reviewed ladies, but I really felt like -- hey, this is my time, and my buck and I should get to decide what I feel like doing... Of course, you guys can be quick to say hey BD, you did decide... and I know it`s true, but it was due to the pressure and the feeling that the encounter might deteriorate or go downhill if I did not comply with the request, even more so when the SP has asked me more than once and seems to be begging for it...

I`m wondering if others have experienced this... If so, what are your thoughts? Has anyone found a tactful way to avoid DATY without harming the flow of the encounter? I once said something jokingly like -- ``if I did that, then you would be the one paying me`` and it did not seem to go over very well...

Maybe I just need to be more like Dirtier and tell them ``you are my human fuck doll`` I`m not eating your pussy -- now get back on your knees so I get back to denting the back of your throat...

BD

 

[dirtierasigetolder]

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Maybe I just need to be more like Dirtier and tell them "you are my human fuck doll" I'm not eating your pussy -- now get back on your knees so I get back to denting the back of your throat...

BD

What you got spies in the hotels I frequent? It's happened to me that an SP wanted DATY and I said I want a million dollars but you don't see anybody giving it to me. I then realized that they can only ask for it if they don't have something in there mouths...That's the real secret

 

[Regular Guy]

An experience for the two of you!

It never ceases to amaze me that when guys ask for a genuine GFE they have reservations when they get it. Think guys. With a girlfriend you are there for the both of you. Asking for a GFE implies an unwritten promise: that what you experience with her will be a lovemaking session similar to what you would experience with a girlfriend. Chat, kid her a bit, share your sense of humour (if you have one), establish a rapport and more. Foreplay is all about arousal not just for you but for her because you cue off her. Her passion is exciting. The more she is excited the more she gets your blood boiling with passion. And for you DATY is arousing for her. And you get to taste her body chemistry and that can be intimate and arousing for you. If it is done right this is not a one-sided experience. If you make it that, then you are short changing yourself on the passion end. Is your experience one long chain of “Do this” or “Do that. I like it.” Okay sure go for it. Then you are looking for, as one poster put it, a fuck doll. And by disrespecting your chosen sp like that, what does that make you?

On the question of sp's working through menstruation? First menstruation is natural and a part of being a woman. It is part of the miracle of life. It may even add to the experience for some guys. But, I do have to disagree with sp's working at this time unless a customer specifically requests it, period (No pun intended). And that means even sponges are out. We are all about sexual experiences and fantasy here. And what we do must be within keeping with that idea. Menstruation though a beautiful and natural part of the reproductive experience can leave something to be desired aesthetically unless it holds a special meaning for you.

On the question of risk, I believe there is a greater risk with ingesting semen. And BBFS is out, no ifs ands or buts. If risk is a concern, it is all relative for any who are part of this lifestyle. But I do believe the risk is relatively minimal for DATY.

 

[JustBob]

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[EagerBeaver]

Just to get the thread back on track, here is the problem: some women are only interested in vaginal stimulation rather than clitoral stimulation. And with such women, DATY is usually a waste of time, even if you are pretty good at it. Those women enjoying or requiring vaginal stimulation need to be fucked, or have digits inserted.

I would be interested in knowing what % of women prefer clitoral stimulation and what % prefer vaginal stimulation. This is the important question yet nobody here is thinking about asking it.

I know one SP who seems to enjoy having her clitoris manually rather than orally stimulated, so there may actually be a subcategory for those favoring clitoral stimulation.

Has anyone looked into the studies on this?

 

[dirtierasigetolder]

...And for you DATY is arousing for her. And you get to taste her body chemistry and that can be intimate and arousing for you. If it is done right this is not a one-sided experience. If you make it that, then you are short changing yourself on the passion end. Is your experience one long chain of “Do this” or “Do that. I like it.” Okay sure go for it. Then you are looking for, as one poster put it, a fuck doll. And by disrespecting your chosen sp like that, what does that make you?

Who says we're asking for GFE...if you read what I said then you know DFK, LFK, DATY are all out of the question. I don't want my SP to be my girlfriend, crap I barely want the wife to be my girlfriend...I want my SP to be a nasty dirty woman who can teach me shit and make me blush. I want to release the inner perv! I just that can't see the mother of my children sucking me off after I greek her...but I can definetly see an SP doing that

So once again you're all putting your beliefs and applying them to the rest of us. I always say if DATY does it for you, knock yourself out...to each his own...but don't judge me cause I don't need emotional crap or to lie to myself for an hour that this lady is my friend.

 

[dirtierasigetolder]

For dirtierasigetolder:

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Attention pussy shoppers! Take advantage of our penny pussy sale! If you buy one piece of pussy at the regular price, you get another piece of pussy of equal or lesser value for only a penny! Try and beat pussy for a penny! If you can find cheaper pussy anywhere else, fuckkkkkkkkkk it!"

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[General Gonad]

I would be interested in knowing what % of women prefer clitoral stimulation and what % prefer vaginal stimulation. This is the important question yet nobody here is thinking about asking it.

I know one SP who seems to enjoy having her clitoris manually rather than orally stimulated, so there may actually be a subcategory for those favoring clitoral stimulation.

Has anyone looked into the studies on this?

EB,

Can I nominate you to be the lead researcher and I'll be your assistant, sampling the goods while you analyze the figures!

GG

 

[dirtierasigetolder]

EB,

Can I nominate you to be the lead researcher and I'll be your assistant, sampling the goods while you analyze the figures!

GG

Hey Anik, there's a job opening as a lab rat...Pay is good and you get to work with a General

 

[Regular Guy]

Who says we're asking for GFE...if you read what I said then you know DFK, LFK, DATY are all out of the question. I don't want my SP to be my girlfriend, crap I barely want the wife to be my girlfriend...I want my SP to be a nasty dirty woman who can teach me shit and make me blush. I want to release the inner perv! I just that can't see the mother of my children sucking me off after I greek her...but I can definetly see an SP doing that

So once again you're all putting your beliefs and applying them to the rest of us. I always say if DATY does it for you, knock yourself out...to each his own...but don't judge me cause I don't need emotional crap or to lie to myself for an hour that this lady is my friend.

First off, who said my post on GFE was directed at you. You have made it clear as to your opinion of women. I am quite sure by now everyone who reads this board is well aware where you stand. So when you post here it is an opinion. But when I post here it is applying my beliefs to as you put it, "the rest of us"? What is this "us" stuff? Do us all a favour and let people make up their own minds as to what side of the argument they will go with.

 

[JustBob]

Now I will answer the question, so please pay attention.

Why DATY?

Replace "why DATY" with "why ANYTHING" and the answer remains the same. Because there are all kinds of clients with different wants, needs and preferences, and there are all kinds of SP's out there who can fulfill them. All you need to do is choose accordingly and remember that, whether you want GFE, PSE, role play, or something else, once an SP has crossed your doorstep, you have entered fantasy land and you must understand the game in order to maximize your experience. So, as long as you understand this, hey, whatever floats your boat...

That said, what annoys the hell out of me are those (and you know who you are) who constantly project their needs and wants onto others and feel compelled to provide "advice", often in the form of condescending crap, as to how one should behave with an SP. Your act ain't fooling anyone so please cut it out.

 

[Fat Happy Buddha]

A word of advice...

Some of you may have read the book "The Zen of Archery". If you have, then you will be familiar with the philosophy that says when practising archery, you should "Be the target." This philosophy has been adapted to other activities. Racecar drivers routinely tell themselves to "Be the road". Hunters aiming at a buck tell themselves to "Be the animal". Hobbiests need to be aware, however, that it is very dangerous to apply this philosophy in the practice of DATY. If you do, at least be very selective about the words you use. There are some members of Merb who chose the wrong word and look what happened to them.