To review or not to review...
Everybody seems to have their reasons to post or not to post reviews and I agree with many of those which have already been mentioned. Since I’ve joined MERB in early 2005 and started to rely on reviews as well as on private exchanges, I’ve been quite successful with my encounters. With some intuition and a bit of luck, I also got to discover a few interesting newcomers and only a limited number of real deceptions.
I’ll generally put an appreciation about my new satisfying encounters and most certainly about all my exceptional ones. When the passion is there, it’s easy to hit the keyboard and tell a good story. I’ve relied on other’s reviews to guide my choices and if my own reviews can help others doing the very same thing, then it’s a win-win situation between hobbyists. Each review generates PM exchanges where additional info and comments are shared, then frequently leaning towards other providers.
Like many others, I don’t post about all my encounters. After a few posts concerning the same lady, I generally feel that I’ve said all there is to say. I may revisit this lady over and over, but I won’t post about her over and over. I’ll respect the occasional non-review wishes and will adjust my review style, which is not very much graphic to start with, not to hurt someone’s sensitivities. I also believe that keeping scores out of the equation helps at this level.
I don’t always make the effort to post a review about an ordinary encounter or a bad one. When I’m not inspired, I find it very hard to take the time to tell about it. Guess I also don’t like negativism that much. I believe in chemistry, so whenever something doesn’t work sometimes, I just forget about it and move on to better things. It's not very useful to discuss a mismatch or complain about it publicly when there’s nothing really to do about it.
If everybody is acting like me, I realize that the fact that certain SPs may have an attitude problem or don’t consistently provide certain GFE services while they are marketed as such but really warrant a YMMV label, won’t get out as quickly to other members. And there’s nothing wrong with YMMV from my perspective as long as it’s really what it is.
Not posting reviews when there is a recurrent limitation or problem may not help a provider correct the situation. If nobody tells someone something is wrong, it’s hard to do something to improve the situation. In these cases, I prefer to give a feedback directly to the provider, especially when it's ask for, rather than posting publicly. If the provider really cares, corrective actions may be taken before negative reviews accumulate and a bad reputation is created.
Not posting a review to prevent a SP to become too popular and to be able to book more easily afterward doesn’t fit well with me. I just can’t understand those who can be selfish enough to do this. If you do it, it’s really your decision but at least to come to brag about it later on publicly.
Finally, some situations would definitely spark me to post a negative review, such as bait & switch, someone with a bad attitude (such as leaving way before the allocated time with no other apparent reason than “you had your SOG and it’s over boy”) or one of my most effective passion-killer, someone requesting extras for standard services (either these are simply not on the menu - this is YMMV - or it’s a fraud as far as I'm concerned).
Lion Heart
Everybody seems to have their reasons to post or not to post reviews and I agree with many of those which have already been mentioned. Since I’ve joined MERB in early 2005 and started to rely on reviews as well as on private exchanges, I’ve been quite successful with my encounters. With some intuition and a bit of luck, I also got to discover a few interesting newcomers and only a limited number of real deceptions.
I’ll generally put an appreciation about my new satisfying encounters and most certainly about all my exceptional ones. When the passion is there, it’s easy to hit the keyboard and tell a good story. I’ve relied on other’s reviews to guide my choices and if my own reviews can help others doing the very same thing, then it’s a win-win situation between hobbyists. Each review generates PM exchanges where additional info and comments are shared, then frequently leaning towards other providers.
Like many others, I don’t post about all my encounters. After a few posts concerning the same lady, I generally feel that I’ve said all there is to say. I may revisit this lady over and over, but I won’t post about her over and over. I’ll respect the occasional non-review wishes and will adjust my review style, which is not very much graphic to start with, not to hurt someone’s sensitivities. I also believe that keeping scores out of the equation helps at this level.
I don’t always make the effort to post a review about an ordinary encounter or a bad one. When I’m not inspired, I find it very hard to take the time to tell about it. Guess I also don’t like negativism that much. I believe in chemistry, so whenever something doesn’t work sometimes, I just forget about it and move on to better things. It's not very useful to discuss a mismatch or complain about it publicly when there’s nothing really to do about it.
If everybody is acting like me, I realize that the fact that certain SPs may have an attitude problem or don’t consistently provide certain GFE services while they are marketed as such but really warrant a YMMV label, won’t get out as quickly to other members. And there’s nothing wrong with YMMV from my perspective as long as it’s really what it is.
Not posting reviews when there is a recurrent limitation or problem may not help a provider correct the situation. If nobody tells someone something is wrong, it’s hard to do something to improve the situation. In these cases, I prefer to give a feedback directly to the provider, especially when it's ask for, rather than posting publicly. If the provider really cares, corrective actions may be taken before negative reviews accumulate and a bad reputation is created.
Not posting a review to prevent a SP to become too popular and to be able to book more easily afterward doesn’t fit well with me. I just can’t understand those who can be selfish enough to do this. If you do it, it’s really your decision but at least to come to brag about it later on publicly.
Finally, some situations would definitely spark me to post a negative review, such as bait & switch, someone with a bad attitude (such as leaving way before the allocated time with no other apparent reason than “you had your SOG and it’s over boy”) or one of my most effective passion-killer, someone requesting extras for standard services (either these are simply not on the menu - this is YMMV - or it’s a fraud as far as I'm concerned).
Lion Heart
