I'm in my mid twenties and am what you'd call a
Yuppie
In my existence I have met thousands of people my age and I can assure you that most of them are not into open relationships. I couldn't care less if couples have open relationships or not... as long as both parties are happy with the lifestyle they chose to love. I however would like to go back to the fact that most people (yes even in 2017) are not into having an open relationship. Most people would like to be monogamous. Of course cheating happens which defeats the purpose but that is another topic as one is doing something behind the other person's back.
Maybe the new generation is a little more open when it comes to open relationships but not the way that most people on this board think. I do think that there is some bias due to the nature of this forum/board. I can assure you that if you ask a 100 random people from different ethnicities if they would be down for a open relationship or if they would be open to marry and escort, I'd bet you that at least 90% would answer ''NO!'' instantly. It's not just for religious purposes it's also simply because most people are not comfortable with the idea that the mother/father (assuming the man is the escort) of their children has had their tongue shoved in another person's mouth day in and day out and then coming home and kissing them on the lips. How is it not understandable that this can be totally repulsive to most people? I certainly do not agree that ''escorting is a job like any other job''. I mean by definition, sure it's a ''job'' and there is a very high income associated with it... But let's not hide the fact that the nature of the job is very different than most jobs... Again, I totally respect those who would marry an escort but I do not understand how certain people here simply cannot understand how someone would NOT want to marry someone who fucks other men/women almost daily and comes home to their husband/wife. I personally could never do it. You can love someone and still end up not being in a relationship with them because you fundamentally disagree with certain behaviors, choices, ideologies, visions. Unfortunately love is not always enough for most people. And that does not make them selfish... They just want a partner that feels the same way they do on crucial things.
Most people also do not fall in love with escorts. Of course, we hear many stories of clients developing feelings with escorts but how often is that realistically? I might be wrong but I would assume it's less than 1%? Perhaps some of the ladies can give a more accurate %?
I don't think it has to do with being possessive. For me it has nothing to do with that. Again, I'm just not comfortable with the idea that my SO fucks, sucks and gets intimate with other men... The image would be way too disturbing for me and I wouldn't be able to live with it. As I am sure that most women (non escorts) would not be comfortable with their man sleeping with other women if he was a male escort.
I have also noticed westerners, Caucasians, white people... whatever term you like are much much more open to open relationships or marrying a SP. I can assure you that even young people like me, but who are Middle Eastern, Asian, African, etc are culturally less open to these types of arrangements. SoL Tee Nutz, you might be older, but you do not need to go back in time, and yes it is 2017 because most people... including my generation (all ethnicities combined) feel the same way as you and sam21 and Kilwa. You're not crazy... Take it from a young urban city guy
I couldn't marry an escort because I know for a fact that I couldn't fall in love with one. As someone pointed out earlier, it's a business transaction so I am able to have limitations beforehand. And If for some reason I end up developing feelings for her I would ask her if she wants to continue a relationship while being an escort at the same time. If her answer is ''yes'' I'll simply ask her to call me if ever her situation changes. I will be happier not marrying an escort than marrying one and going against my core values and having a constant image of what she is doing with other men.
Again, when both parties are okay with that, my hat goes off to you! For those that have no issues with dating/marrying an active escort, I respect your open mind-ness. But at the same time, if you're that open minded, try and understand why most people would not want to engage in a relationship with an escort, especially with all of the valid reasons given in this thread. I read many posts that almost suggest that those who do not want to marry an active escort are aliens or are too old or should self-reflect. These are all personal choices and everyone has a valid reason for why they wish/do not wish to do it.
I felt that this thread was going a bit off topic. Let us not forget that the question was If we would consider dating/marrying an active escort.
LBA out
