Would you / Could you?

[eviltmp]

So I was interneting recently and came across something I would never, ever dream of doing. A most popular and well known indy escort around here got married this summer to whom can only be assumed as someone she met while working - i.e. he knows her line of business. She is still working and you can book her right now if you wish.
I know there have been many threads about dating an escort (even I contributed and the answer is always "just don't") but what about marrying one?

How many here would do it or even could do it?

BTW, Mazel tov to the newly weds!

 

[cloudsurf]

I`ve met quite a few escorts who I would have considered marrying, if I was in my early thirties.
There would have to be conditions. She would become a stay at home mom and we would have to be in love.

 

[Jamesrenard44]

I think the question is more about marrying an escort who is still active, receiving clients, so in other words, being intimate with other man. I've I cheated on my girlfriend with escorts, yes. Would I've I done in the beginning of our relationship or at stage of getting married, no. The line is thin but still exist for me. As I'm currently divorcing, I can't see myself starting to date a woman and still be active as a hobbyst. I started hobbying because there was something missing in my life but couldn't see myself having a mistress and being emotionally involved.

Marrying someone who see other people, it's just not for me

 

[eviltmp]

As James above correctly pointed out, it's more about having an *active* escort as a wife.

Maria, as for escorts deserving love and affection that's another topic and there are many threads already around that.

 

[Jamesrenard44]

Escorting is basically, a way to earn a living. There is a strong difference on this side VS hobbying that is intended to be a me-time-spoiling

I don't disagree! But reality is, you are having sex with other gentlemans, you are flirting with other gentlemans, you are buying lingerie to seduce other gentlemans. It's possible that a man and a woman be confortable in that but for the majority of us, including me, I doubt that it could be a possibility

 

[Oz-Man]

I would marry an escort. For me, it would be virtually no different from her going off to another job, except that she could probably work fewer hours. My main concern would be that it could lower the frequency of our own sexual relations. i had a coworker who used to exchange weekly massages with his wife until she became a professional masseuse, at which point she only gave him a massage on his birthday and on father's day. I wouldn't want a similar thing to happen if my wife were an escort!

 

[westwoody]

For sure I would.

I would want her to get the best possible mate for her though. She could probably do better than settle for me.

Most guys would be worried about her seeing guys that are richer/better looking/better at sex.

 

[jalimon]

In my early 20 to early 30's I most probably would have had a problem with that. But back then I had a lot of gf...

Now even if I am really not looking for relationship if it does happen I would have no problem for her to continue working. And yes she would most probably meet many men better at sex then me, good for her! Better looking? Not sure... That would depend on how she looks!

Cheers,

 

[Hamsaplow]

I wouldn't have a problem marrying a girl who use to be an escort or a MP, but I expect her to stop working in this field once married.
The same way I expect her to expect me to stop seeing escort and MP... do that make sense?

 

[jalimon]

I wouldn't have a problem marrying a girl who use to be an escort or a MP, but I expect her to stop working in this field once married.
The same way I expect her to expect me to stop seeing escort and MP... do that make sense?

No! Lol!

Cheers,

 

[Hamsaplow]

No! Lol!

Cheers,

See how complicated it is. That's why my goal in life is to marry a teacher or a librarian.

 

[jalimon]

See how complicated it is. That's why my goal in life is to marry a teacher or a librarian.

Haha yes it is. Like I wrote below what you said make sense for a younger dude I think. When you expect to raise a family in all, I guess it's not the best line of work

But when you're a mid-forty with kids... I would consider myself just lucky that a hottie SP wants to marry me and would never ask her what to do in life.

Cheers,

 

[BigBrowser]

I'm perplexed!
Some of you see no problem whatsoever in sharing an escort with hundreds of other "hobbyists" like you, but if you were to marry the girl, she would have to stop escorting because you won't "share your wife".
What's the difference exactly?
I would understand that someone need the exclusivity, but then again, how can you see an escort then?
Can someone please enlighten me?

To answer the original question, I would marry anyone if she's the one. If she's an escort, enjoys it and wants to keep on working, I will support her.

 

[Hamsaplow]

I'm perplexed!
Some of you see no problem whatsoever in sharing an escort with hundreds of other "hobbyists" like you, but if you were to marry the girl, she would have to stop escorting because you won't "share your wife".
What's the difference exactly?
I would understand that someone need the exclusivity, but then again, how can you see an escort then?
Can someone please enlighten me?

To answer the original question, I would marry anyone if she's the one. If she's an escort, enjoys it and wants to keep on working, I will support her.

For me there's a big difference.

While "hobbying", at least for me, there's no real emotions involve, sure we talk and all but the encounter is purely physical. When the hour is over it's over.

When you're married, there's past emotions, present emotions and hopefully future emotions.

As for the married escorts, they can correct me if i'm wrong, I'm pretty sure what she feel for her man is not the same she feel for a client.

 

[Numerati]

I wouldn't have a problem marrying a girl who use to be an escort or a MP, but I expect her to stop working in this field once married.
The same way I expect her to expect me to stop seeing escort and MP... do that make sense?

Very much so. As a guy who have reached that point you are bored with looking for new pussy.

 

[Julia Sky]

if you let your women see others male and you say it because you want the best for her ,you had a big lack of confidence and that"s mean you dont really love her

Some people have open rationships and love each other a lot. It takes lots of love and trust to have such a relationship with someone, actually.

 

[Sol Tee Nutz]

A persons past is their past, if the chance of marrying one was there I would do it but she would have to quit her job.

 

[EagerBeaver]

There was a very popular blonde, Russian, indy escort in Montreal around 12 years ago or so, HDH, and her husband was her booker as I recall. She had a long thread on MERB, had a good rep, etc. but I never saw her. I can't recall her name, but Cloudsurf, or one of the other old timers, probably would.

 

[BigBrowser]

Thank you Sam21! That does answer my question.
So, if I understand correctly, you don't mind sharing an escort because there's no love involved.
Whereas for your wife, it's different. You love her and could not accept sharing her. That makes sense.

But... if you love her, and that's what she wants? If she loves her job and would like to keep doing it. Wouldn't you let her? In the name of love?

 

[starry]

I could do it but only if my escort wife paid me for sex.