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I love that we can crop a quote and make it really weird
ymmv, lack of experience or new guy policy?
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I love that we can crop a quote and make it really weird
Daplaoke,
Because none of us were flies on the wall while you had this encounter it is very difficult to answer your question. I have often wondered what would happen if, like Jeff Goldblum, I can turn into a fly and watch one of these reported encounters.
As you gain more experience you will figure out YMMV/chemistry factors. One thing that greatly impacts on such factors, in my opinion, is the ability of the client to communicate in a way that puts a girl at ease. Girls want to feel that they are with a guy who is “normal”, and doesn’t creep them out. I have a very serious looking natural mug on my face and I learned early on in my “sexual career” (LOL) I had to develop better communication skills and demeanor and body language skills, because women meeting me for the first time would tell me I am very serious looking. If you can project that you are easygoing and affable it really, really helps in building chemistry and comfort. I have gotten better at it since I started out, by a lot. Experience really really is a great teacher on the issues you have raised. Of course, no matter how smooth a talker you are or how well you put a girl at ease, chemistry will not always be perfect with certain ladies. But language, demeanor, and being able to project a gentle, easygoing/affable nature will greatly enhance the chances things go well.
Because none of us were flies on the wall while you had this encounter it is very difficult to answer your question. I have often wondered what would happen if, like Jeff Goldblum, I can turn into a fly and watch one of these reported encounters.
As you gain more experience you will figure out YMMV/chemistry factors. One thing that greatly impacts on such factors, in my opinion, is the ability of the client to communicate in a way that puts a girl at ease. Girls want to feel that they are with a guy who is “normal”, and doesn’t creep them out. I have a very serious looking natural mug on my face and I learned early on in my “sexual career” (LOL) I had to develop better communication skills and demeanor and body language skills, because women meeting me for the first time would tell me I am very serious looking. If you can project that you are easygoing and affable it really, really helps in building chemistry and comfort. I have gotten better at it since I started out, by a lot. Experience really really is a great teacher on the issues you have raised. Of course, no matter how smooth a talker you are or how well you put a girl at ease, chemistry will not always be perfect with certain ladies. But language, demeanor, and being able to project a gentle, easygoing/affable nature will greatly enhance the chances things go well.
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I got the gist of your suggestions. I sort of treated this like a sport, you know, when you first start and not sure what you are doing, keep your eyes open and mouth shut. But it is a different sport, isn't it? lol, sometimes it requires you to keep you eyes closed and practice your mouth more(wink, wink).
I'm the kind of guy who would wait a long time to ask a girl out and blew the first date, so naturally, this is far out of my comfort zone and I got a steep learning curve.
@jalimon, I surly will adopt your attitude but I will not think about you any time during my happy hour, please get out of my head, hahaha
I got the gist of your suggestions. I sort of treated this like a sport, you know, when you first start and not sure what you are doing, keep your eyes open and mouth shut. But it is a different sport, isn't it? lol, sometimes it requires you to keep you eyes closed and practice your mouth more(wink, wink).
I'm the kind of guy who would wait a long time to ask a girl out and blew the first date, so naturally, this is far out of my comfort zone and I got a steep learning curve.
@jalimon, I surly will adopt your attitude but I will not think about you any time during my happy hour, please get out of my head, hahaha
Daplaoke,
You can be a late social bloomer, but even if not, as you develop more experience seeing escorts, Seeking Arrangement girls etc. you will get better at communication in this type of setting. My first experiences seeing escorts date back to my early 20s, in New York City, and I always felt socially awkward at that time and especially in a P4P situation. The key is becoming comfortable in your own skin and also developing communications skills to establish a basic rapport. Just remember that the women you pay for sexual services are people too, they have feelings and they like to be treated with dignity and respect and communicated with as a partner. Try to view it more as a business transaction and less as a romantic date, which it isn’t, while at the same time doing things for the girl that you might do on a first date (if that makes sense). That usually will serve to keep things professional and cordial.
You can be a late social bloomer, but even if not, as you develop more experience seeing escorts, Seeking Arrangement girls etc. you will get better at communication in this type of setting. My first experiences seeing escorts date back to my early 20s, in New York City, and I always felt socially awkward at that time and especially in a P4P situation. The key is becoming comfortable in your own skin and also developing communications skills to establish a basic rapport. Just remember that the women you pay for sexual services are people too, they have feelings and they like to be treated with dignity and respect and communicated with as a partner. Try to view it more as a business transaction and less as a romantic date, which it isn’t, while at the same time doing things for the girl that you might do on a first date (if that makes sense). That usually will serve to keep things professional and cordial.
I looked up her review thread and several quality reviewers I know, mentioned that she is normal GFE with DFK and BBBJ in her repertoire But she is a rookie and reserved....so a guy has to most definitely take charge of the situation. Next time Daploake pick a more seasoned girl with several pages of consistently good reviews.
Was this chic a newbie or a vet? I thought I read she was a newbie. U will get into DFK within 5 min when u get more seasoned....the only thing I woulda done differently is actually call and talk to one of the bookers. They want your repeat biz. They take into account all the things that come with being a newbie. For me, starting out, James from euphoria spent a good amount of time on the phone with me making suggestions and giving me the run down on his roster. @ XO Mia hooked me up with Elena. Talk to the bookers dude, they will do you well. All solid ones in MTL. ThereÂ’s no way a seasoned SP woulda allowed 30 mins of talk in a 1.5 hour session. Sometimes if you can afford it it pays to pay a premium. I think Sonia woulda taken your hand and walked you through everything. You will be fine, no worries
Yeah, she is pretty new. I thought there maybe be some chemistry between two newbies. Clearly not the case, haha.
I should've talk to the booker instead of texting for the appointment, that's very good advice, thanks!
I really Like Mia and Elena! I tried to book Elena actually when she was in the roster, but it was too late that day, she's fully booked...And I'll definitely book Sonia one day, if I could find a spot in her schedule and pass the screening
I should've talk to the booker instead of texting for the appointment, that's very good advice, thanks!
I really Like Mia and Elena! I tried to book Elena actually when she was in the roster, but it was too late that day, she's fully booked...And I'll definitely book Sonia one day, if I could find a spot in her schedule and pass the screening
I don’t like new on new matches. I like new girl on experienced client and experienced girl on new client, but not new on new matches. The reason why is the experience on one side or the other can carry the session through any awkward moments. New on new is just a mad experiment, sort of like putting an automobile engine into a makeshift homemade plane and taking off with it. There is a chance that a crash and burn is gonna happen.
The Elena and Mia I speak of are different then the ones on website now for XO and are not the ones maybe your thinking of. This was almost 2 years ago I refer to for me. Both moved to Another agency since. As a booker Mia was as good as they get and Elena was to me pretty much the gold standard GFE provider. But yea, lol, talk to the bookers!
as for YMMV, the more you do this the more variability you will see. You’ll get restrictions sometimes from providers whose review threads say they do everything with everyone and be surprised. My advice, no worries, and move the fuck on. The next provider may do shit with you and tell you not to mention in a review ;-) This is all extremely variable. The more you do it, the more you will see.
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