What's with all the back-channeling?!
The past few days I've been whammed with private messages after posting 6 reviews on 5 girls. My inbox completely filled up in no time. Guys, I've gotten fewer emails from actual dying people asking pertinent questions about what they're dying of than from guys here with breast and thigh questions. You'd think I was a counter clerk at KFC!
What's odd about all but one of them is that they ALL ask for information that I had made sure was already included in the reviews. Perhaps I may have been a bit too circumspect in descriptions. This was an attempt to be polite and to recognize that my preferences aren't shared by all. For future reference, when I say someone's "thighs are a bit, um, solid," I mean "too fat for me," OK? Reading between the occasional line is a skill to be developed, most particularly in this hobby.
With the exception of the one PM to which I alluded earlier, every single message also asked who had the larger breasts between Marie-Eve and some other girl. In one case I had specifically said that I wanted to see that other girl but failed (translation: how the heck should I know?!). In the other cases, the answer is clear from my postings. If there is some conceivable way in which I could have made more clear that Marie-Eve of GOF has the nicest, biggest, boobiest boobs I've ever enjoyed, I cannot imagine what that could be. Not to say I'm not hunting for even better, but I've not found them yet. (Sorry again, honey. You know what I mean.)
I also got several impatient duplicates of a few of the PM's. It actually transpires that I have a job. It's one where people die if I screw up, so I tend not to spend all day reading PM's on MERB or, indeed, anywhere else. Some evenings I don't read MERB until my kids have gone to bed. My wife certainly doesn't care about MERB, but believe it or not sometimes we actually spend time together NOT doing things related to Montreal totty.
Only one of these many PM's needed in any way to be private. The questions posed would better have been addressed by the entire community and would certainly have provided more wide-ranging and informed feedback than my own idiosyncratic views.
While I'm ranting: guys, women are really not in the least likely to respond with anything other than abject revulsion at many of the PM's that have been sent to LOM. The pathetic thing is that we really don't think any of the senders had that in mind. They seem to think that they are, in some bizarre way, being enticing. One way to combat the negative stereotypes about the sex industry is for its customers to avoid acting like the stereotype loser johns devoid of social skills that others so love to portray. Can it really be so difficult? One of the things we like about MERB is that on the boards discourse is generally intelligent and appropriate. In some cases this appears to be a veneer that slips in "private" messages.
To wind down this long-winded post: am I the only one, or do others believe that the more discussion is held out in the open, the better this board will be? And that the best use for PM's is for messages that are either truly too private or simply too tedious for public consumption?
Most discussions should be held in public, agreed. If a private question is asked publicly, I would then simply answer privately...
Originally Posted by muffinbuffer
I guess dying people have less energy to type than horny people!
I believe that most of the members of all the SP boards do not post reviews. Most of the ones that do post are sucking up to the SP, because they believe that they made a lasting impression on the SP, and she will remember fondly the session with the client, and give even better service when he books her again. Then again most people are suck-ups anyway. The other big group of board posters are angry....... I think mainly at themselves. They are social retards and have internal issues........ they believe that no one thinks they are attractive and send out a vibe/body language that creeps out the SP into wanting to just run away from them......... most don't, but they don't give their best performances either. Another small group of posters, have very bad personal hygiene or are extremely unattractive......... at first they give false suck up to the SP reviews, then get bitter about the lack of services offered to them & write angry reviews. Lastly the smallest group, are the True Nymphomaniac Scientists(god bless them all), who see enough SP's to post a most impressive list all by themselves....... they seem to like number ratings over novelette type reviews(I think they would much rather sleep with a SP, as opposed to writing about it...... writing is a waste of time, but a serious duty as well, so they must write a review, but they keep it short).
So I believe that the Lurkers, the Suck-Ups & the Social Retards will PM you because, they want to know if you are a suck up(and if your post is real?) or were just trying to make the SP look better than she is.
Personally I have gone through my lurking phase, and I most likely will always be a suck up and a bit of a social retard. I don't ever think I will ever get to the angry poster phase and I hope one day to be the Nymphomaniac Scientist poster............. like Hal! HA!
By the way, I am only speaking for myself & my experiences. I believe that we are all individuals and a very large group of members will NOT fit into the imaginary boxes/stereo-types that I have listed. If it isn't you, it isn't you. I have only met 1 other board member in person, so what do I really know about why you are getting so many PM's questioning your reviews? Yeah, so I am just guessing! I blame my Insomnia!
Oh by the way, I have only seen 4 Montreal SP's to date, all from Eleganza- Honey, Alicia(no longer working), Karyna(2nd times the charm) & Sofia. I have been cancelled in advance 3 times with booking for Karyna, Venus & Lianna. Of the 4 that I did see, 2 were on time- Karyna & Sofia, the other 2 were 20-30 minutes late. Read whatever you like into that.
wow... this is something new....
Originally Posted by happygolucky
No contradiction at all, if you actually read what I wrote. Let me re-summarize:
Originally Posted by Maxima
LOM is my wife. She gets a constant barrage of guys offering to send her photos of their dicks, astonishing personal abuse, and the most abjectly pathetic suggestions of how she (who has never suggested the slightest interest in having sex with any board members) might have sex with them.
At least the messages to me aren't from board members demanding I have sex with them. They are, thus far invariably, asking things clearly stated in my postings.
In suggesting that it is usually better to post publicly rather than PM, I mean that asking "whose breasts are larger?" or "how was the kissing?" or "how would you compare the following two girls, neither of whom you have ever met?" are best asked and discussed in public. "Hey, baby, let me ram my dick down your throat until you choke on your own vomit while I try to pull off your nipples" is appropriate for neither the public forums nor my wife's PM box.
No, my wife and I typically post from our individual laptops. Since we`re on a NAT home network, it`s the same IP. I did explain the gist of this with my de-lurking post in the Lounge. If the mods have a problem with this, I`m sure they`ll let one or both of us know. Personally, I thought it would be far more likely to cause confusion to have the same username posting about receiving DATY and watching her husband do things *and* posting about receiving and being ridden CG. Certainly most of us would have called ``shenanigans`` on that. Thus, I created my own account. I suppose there`s nothing to stop you from making up a wife, but I hardly see the point.
Women often get so many crude emails, PM`s, etc. in settings like this (and in life in general) that to report them all to mods is a waste of time on most boards. It`s easier and far more painless for her just to plink them into oblivion and move on with her own life. Occasionally she shows me the more amusing or pathetic ones first.
I`m not railing against private messages in general. I`ve used them and benefited from them when there`s no point in conversing something in public.
My point is that if so much communication is back-channel, what ends up in the front channel? Seriously - a dozen PM`s from 3 users within 10 hours all asking me the same question about whether A`s or B`s breasts are larger? A couple more from one guy asking me to compare A and C and quoting the message in which I lamented I`d never seen C?! Now, if that had been posted in a public section, he might have gotten a response useful to him. In PM`s it wasn`t even theoretically feasible.
Since you`re ``more than confused`` even after my earlier explanation, there may be no hope of my clearing that up. However, feel free to PM me!
If you care enough, ask yourself why some discussions are not being held in public. Possible reasons include but are not limited to moderation, shilling, pimps childish machinations, white knights and the wider category of animators, regulators, lackeys...
Originally Posted by hormone
Boards somewhat work like mainstream newspapers. There's a certain discipline that needs to be met. In "well-run" review boards, posters are not supposed to write things they know. They're supposed to write things that are required for service to boards owners/advertisers (the "/" is open to interpretation).
This is no quantum physics. There are details people can choose to know or ignore, but the basic principles are completely transparent, it takes great efforts not to see them.
Wow, Maxima. I had no idea that anyone would take my comments as a "wholesale accusation" or "moral teaching." If you believe that guys are likely to get lucky sending unsolicited, extremely crude messages to women then there is probably nothing I can say that will convince you otherwise. As far as "supporting proof" of this, I guess I'm at a loss. As a guy, I certainly find some of these messages here and on other boards revolting and I trust my wife when she says she does, too. Maybe they work for some people. I shouldn't, perhaps, make blanket assumptions. However, if anyone here has actually set up a successful meeting with a woman by offering to send her a photo of your gigantic dick it might help the discussion if that person can let us know about it.
I think I must be missing something here. What is it about my post that you take such strong exception to? The points I was (apparently unsuccessfully) trying to make were: 1) asking and answering questions that are likely to be of general interest on the open boards contributes more than doing so via back channels, and 2) chicks often dig subtlety and typically aren't going to throw themselves at the guy who sends them the most crude messages. That's pretty much it. I had no idea this could possibly piss anyone off as much as it appears to have done with you.
I think this is a perfect example of a discussion that really should be taken offline to the PM channel.
Is your "/" also open to interpretation?
Originally Posted by Maxima
Given your handle, I thought you were a merchandiser at Dunkin' Donuts. My bad.
Originally Posted by muffinbuffer
I used to demean the board that way but my 2 days ban brought me back to my senses. Thank God!
Originally Posted by muffinbuffer
For them to approach her in such a way, would there be something about LOM that the said senders have, perhaps, figured out?
Originally Posted by muffinbuffer
Maxima, I don't recall ever having received an offensive PM from you. Why are you taking this so personally?
Ziggy, your suggestion is offensive to me. What possible basis do you have to make such comments about me?
Originally Posted by Ziggy Montana
Up until now I've always felt welcomed here. If this is a boys only club I can go play somewhere else.
It wasn't a comment, it was a question.
Originally Posted by LOM
According to muffinbuffer, you've been receiving several PM's which content can only arouse "abject revulsion". Following that, a case was made against the posters of the said PM's based on assumptions.
The whole matter could have been dealt privately with the Mods but muffinbuffer choose instead to make it public. In the process, he demands we accept his summary of evidence.
The PM's might or not have been "unsolicited" and "extremely crude", as described, we can't tell given that: (1) we did not read the said PM's; (2) provided that there are any, we don't know the background stories.
As far as I can remember, no other woman (nor male spokesperson) has ever complained in public about been harassed the way it was described on this thread. Your case appears to be unique.
In view of the above, it's not unreasonable to suggest alternative scenarios, hence my question.