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    I ll go straight to the point. I have a new girl that I date. About 1 month.
    Our first intimate moment was excellent, and lasted for over an hour. Great sex, like always... I just learned this week a very bad news about a member of my family, but then again, what can I do. I meet this girl another time, we had diner and wine (reasonable, 1 bottle for 2), and then we went to bed for some intimate moment, but then, FUCK ME, nothing nada. I couldnt get it hard at all, not even a little. I really wanted, but it just didnt work. Ok for that, I was stress for the evening, diner, etc and my family situation. I know next time I will have not to think about it in order to make it work. But on the next date, 2 days later, same thing happened. I was soo stress, and scared that it will happened again, that it finally did. I am so in shame. I felt totally like an idiot, there is no word to describe how i feel right now. Everything seems so dark, my thoughts are dark and sad, it really affect me and I dont know what to do. I am 28 y-o FYI. Thank. I really feel like shit and not manly at all. As for the girl, she is a potential GF, so this is even more of an embarassing situation.

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    The wheel is turning! You are afraid of not performing, this stresses you out and you don't perform. This makes you anxious and you won't perform next time either...

    Stop thinking about the "act' itself. Think about pleasure. You gave 2 hands and a mouth, use them. You don't need your dick to make her happy, use your other body parts and use your biggest sex organ, the one above your shoulders. Once you make that organ happy, your lower organ will work like a charm.

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    Viva Viagra!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by candide
    I ll go straight to the point. I have a new girl that I date. About 1 month.
    Our first intimate moment was excellent, and lasted for over an hour. Great sex, like always... I just learned this week a very bad news about a member of my family, but then again, what can I do. I meet this girl another time, we had diner and wine (reasonable, 1 bottle for 2), and then we went to bed for some intimate moment, but then, FUCK ME, nothing nada. I couldnt get it hard at all, not even a little. I really wanted, but it just didnt work. Ok for that, I was stress for the evening, diner, etc and my family situation. I know next time I will have not to think about it in order to make it work. But on the next date, 2 days later, same thing happened. I was soo stress, and scared that it will happened again, that it finally did. I am so in shame. I felt totally like an idiot, there is no word to describe how i feel right now. Everything seems so dark, my thoughts are dark and sad, it really affect me and I dont know what to do. I am 28 y-o FYI. Thank. I really feel like shit and not manly at all. As for the girl, she is a potential GF, so this is even more of an embarassing situation.
    Hello Candide ,

    I understand your problem and trust me you are not the first 28 year old who has this problem .

    I will not go into details in here because i am not a sex-therapist and i do not want to engage in this discution .

    What i dont recomend to you is any form of medication (Viagra , Cialis , what not). There is a reason why you are not reaching erection. Your system has a lack of energy you have not been sleeping lately and not eating proper, your internal energy is verry low .

    To solve your problem the first thing you have to do for a full week is sleep full 8 hours a night , stop all form of sexual activities (even masturbation), eat red meat, and if you want instant result you will consult an Acupuncture. Make sure when you contact this person to be verry honest and tell him or her the reason why you are consulting . If this person canot help you they will guide you to someone who will help .

    I guarantee this will help . Not harm your body (Vigra and Cialis will)

    Bernard

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    2 bottles of wine is more than enough to cause erectile difficulties.
    That plus stress of having received bad news about a family member, I am not surprised.

    Ronnie,
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    they will forget what you did,
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    Ditto on what Ronnie says! The wine, the stress.. and then the pressure to perform!! Don't go for Viagra! Try some little games with her, maybe even just simply sleeping (i.e. asleep) with her for the nite and take advantage of morning wood!
    I can relate to you that with every new real GF I had for a few years, I would get trouble getting hard the first few times we went to bed... simply out of performance anxiety! But with a non GF I would have banged the week before, no problem at all! And this was in my 20's too!
    Don't worry man! It'll all "cum" back!
    And if she is GF material as you say, she should be even more understanding. If she is not or shows impatience, this is actually a sign maybe she is not good for you!

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    You can talk with her about your problem, she will understand. Don't try to force anything and don't try to get sex, if it happen, it will happen. No medication unless you want to scrap your body. Bernard is right on many things exept the red meat. Red meat will not help.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Waigin
    You can talk with her about your problem, she will understand. Don't try to force anything and don't try to get sex, if it happen, it will happen. No medication unless you want to scrap your body. Bernard is right on many things exept the red meat. Red meat will not help.

    There is an other reason for the red meat , it is not for the erection but for the main problem . Eating red meat will not harm someone like using viagra will .

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    I think the stress the wine caused it all. Another eposter suggested, 1 8 hours of sleep no sexual activity for one week etc. etc. .

    I woudl follow that advice.

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    A buddy of mine had a similar situation. His daily ritual consisted of daily masturbation to relief the morning wood since he was 14.
    Then , he stopped slapping the monkey and the wifesky is 'happy' again.

    Try it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by 10-19
    How about you cut the crap instead?

    You believe that Bernard Madoff is Gigot? Why don't just say it! While you're there why don't you get more people banned based on the bold face lies some SP feed you with?

    Another thing you should say is how you SP kiss-ass BLUE Mod5 and Mod7 treat members differently depending on whether the handle is printed in blue or in red.

    Nice message you're sending there buddy.

    I gave you many chances to be honest with me instead you chose to insult my intelligence. Not a good idea.

    So how it's gonna work is all the bullshit you fed me with all evening long to keep your head above water will be posted in a blog shortly.

    Good luck after that.
    Sorry boy's i am not Gigot , and the mods know because of my ip . If i was gigot they would of banned my a long time ago. I am not here to stir problems , just post expeciences and also what i see on the field.

    As far as the problem that our friend has my brother had the same problem 2 years ago. Like most people would say see a Dr. and get vgr. It's not the solution to the problem , infact the problem is not the lack of erection , it's a symtom of the problem.

    So if you want to fix the problem you have to go to the root.

    I have to get ready for my 11h00 rdv ... Trust me i will post it tomorow morning.

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    Quote Originally Posted by candide
    I ll go straight to the point. I have a new girl that I date. About 1 month.
    Our first intimate moment was excellent, and lasted for over an hour. Great sex, like always... I just learned this week a very bad news about a member of my family, but then again, what can I do. I meet this girl another time, we had diner and wine (reasonable, 1 bottle for 2), and then we went to bed for some intimate moment, but then, FUCK ME, nothing nada. I couldnt get it hard at all, not even a little. I really wanted, but it just didnt work. Ok for that, I was stress for the evening, diner, etc and my family situation. I know next time I will have not to think about it in order to make it work. But on the next date, 2 days later, same thing happened. I was soo stress, and scared that it will happened again, that it finally did. I am so in shame. I felt totally like an idiot, there is no word to describe how i feel right now. Everything seems so dark, my thoughts are dark and sad, it really affect me and I dont know what to do. I am 28 y-o FYI. Thank. I really feel like shit and not manly at all. As for the girl, she is a potential GF, so this is even more of an embarassing situation.
    my brother had a simular problem, wine was one of them but not a major....the actual problem was that he was smoking cigaret's from the reserve. if you are smoking from the reserve, STOP NOW and start paying the duty tax...if that's not the problem then see a doctor...

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    Quote Originally Posted by candide
    I am 28 y-o FYI. Thank. I really feel like shit and not manly at all. As for the girl, she is a potential GF, so this is even more of an embarassing situation.

    There's nothing embarrassing about it at all.

    All you've got to do is start the session by making her come.

    That'll usually take you at least a half hour.

    Then rest, and keep going. Make her come again.

    Be open with her about your challenges.

    *****

    She almost certainly won't hold it against you.

    No matter what they say, ninety percent of girls could care less about sex.

    ****

    They want the "connection" ...so if you keep making her come....she'll be happy.

    ***

    As for the rest...stop jerking off....

    ....and stay off the drugs-- Viagra and Cialis --- I would not trust that stuff for a second....

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    The bottle of wine was likely what caused your problem the 1st time

    2nd time was you stressing out hoping that it wont happen again

    Dont be so hard on yourself, if the girl really likes you then she wont judge

    you on a bad performance. A serious relationship isnt based only on sex.
    Stay thirsty my friends

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    Temporary softwood

    Same thing happened to me years ago. I wanted this girl soooo badly and waited for her to trust me for about 2 weeks. Finally she brought me into her bedroom and we got into it and.....NOTHING! I was humiliated and embarrassed and shocked and disappointed. That made it harder to perform the next time. The third time, for some reason I was a bit more relaxed and it worked but still not the best ever. The good news is that after that third attempt, we were going nuts on each other almost every day for over a year and it still is some of the best, most intense and memorable sex I have ever had. She was amazing and got me to do things i had never tried before. It was just nerves and it was worth the wait. I'm sure you will get over it. Be patient and don't make it such a big deal.
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