I hope you still are on a break. Or did you order poutine and then another SP?
The interest is not there for me also.
don't worry skym we all loose interest when our favorite leaves the business your just having the kendall blues, give it time you will find another favorite at one point i still miss my all time favorite even after 21/2 years its funny how we can have crazy chemistry with someone that's the hardest part to replace
The initial euphoria high of my first encounters have given way to an empty feeling, no matter how hot the lady. I wonder if there is a way to rekindle or find any magic in this “hobby”?
do you mean 'euphoric high' or 'Euphoria high' lol
I don't know how old you are or how long you have been doing this, but all I can say is i have had that feeling quite a few times over the years and I always bounced back
this hobby is very much like a drug. It gets harder to trigger the dopamine response...especially if you start out with great experiences with beautiful women. Taking a break or reducing frequency should bring the joy back. And keeping expectations in check.
Anything overdone, even if it's having sex with beautiful women, can become redundant or less exciting over time. Finding a deeper connection, with 1 particular SP you enjoy spending time and conversing with, may help. Sex is great, but sex someone you have a connection with is even better.
Early 50s but look like mid 40s. I had an initial encounter where I fell for the SP but she put me in my place when she giggled at my infatuation while counting the cash. Kind of downhill from there. But still searching for that special encounter where you can “ fall in love -ish”…do you mean 'euphoric high' or 'Euphoria high' lol
I don't know how old you are or how long you have been doing this, but all I can say is i have had that feeling quite a few times over the years and I always bounced back
this hobby is very much like a drug. It gets harder to trigger the dopamine response...especially if you start out with great experiences with beautiful women. Taking a break or reducing frequency should bring the joy back. And keeping expectations in check.
Perfectly put , that’s EXACTLY what I’m searching for, a deeper connection. I don’t know if that’s possible…
Very well said!! That’s where I’m at now. I see my ATF somewhat regularly, and I feel that we have good chemistry and a good connection. It’s nice when it feels more natural, not just the sex, but the convo, cuddling and so on.
I’ve had awesome sex with beautiful young women in the past. But like you said, it wears out after a while. Sometimes the next appointment is not as good, or they’re not available and I book someone else, and it’s not as good, etc.
IMO, there’s nothing better than seeing someone that I have a good connection with. Of course, I know where the lines and drawn, and it won’t last forever, but I’ll enjoy it while it lasts!
if the sp is in her 40s possible
if she is in 30s unlikely
if she is in her 20s impossible
Since the dawn of time, Men who got infinite amounts of pussy, have all come to the exact same conclusion -- everything must come to pass. Men who say otherwise never got much pussy. It's the haves vs. have nots. The abundant mindset vs. poverty mentality.
Ever since I was a child, I found cigarette smoking by the Marlboro Man to be the manliest shit known to man. I started smoking 2016 with 1 cigarette a day, then come summer 2022 and I was smoking a pack a day. I loved every second of it. My childhood dream has come true. I am on par with the Marlboro Man, smoking a pack a day, and feeling manlier than ever. And then something happened. I realized I was chained to a sequence of movements that repeated itself 25 times a day. Unfortunately, no 1 habit can sustain itself. Drinking tea/coffee and going to pee joined the fuck fest. This resulted in me taking 70 breaks from my day. I was under a spell. This is true enslavement.
I did not want to be a slave. So, I decided to go cold turkey.
That was 5 months ago. Despite all the benefits of not smoking like better breathing, libido, taste, smell, sleep, digestion, bowl movement, resting heart rate, and overall impulse control, the most important thing is I don't miss it. I'm no longer dependent on it to get through my day. Yes, my life dramatically changed also. It's impossible for it not to.
My life changed not because I stopped smoking, but because I got my time back. And frankly, it's hard to know what to do with so much time, which is why you wanna pick up that cigarette again. Intermittent fasting taught me to control my mouth and stomach, and Hobbying taught me to control my dick and heart. Without their help, I could have never stopped smoking.
All this to say @OHenry, why the fuck would you ever want to rekindle the magic in "hobby"?! It's like wanting your ex back or reminiscing about the Providers you banged. This lifestyle has shown me unimaginable depths of humanity and what I thought to be reality. But, time to move the fuck on. Why? Because you can do it so much better! Just as you seized the opportunity to fulfill your desires, I'm sure you can find new desires to explore that goes beyond the flesh.
There is no prescription for this. I'm not saying I'll never smoke again. In fact I most definitely will. But, at least now, for the first time in a long time, I have the luxury of pondering about my next move.
It's okay to not know. It's okay to not want.
Let the world come to you!
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you can't compare the addiction of smoking to the addiction to paid sex. At the baseline, sex is a very healthy activity, no amount of smoking is healthy
I guess I miss that high , the connection, the touch , of a beautiful, fit ,buxom lady in her prime. A repeat of youth maybe, I don’t know, but I’m trying to find out…
man Is a sex machine if you will, at the basis he must procreate, spread his seed as much as he can. Probaly chases younger women because they represent youth and fertility. In our DNA for sure. At the same time most will look beyond the physical act and feel the need for a more emotional connection. the mix between the two Is probaly a more fulfilling thing. What’s the old saying for “ every sexy woman there is some guy tired of fucking her” maybe loss of interest is a normal thing? Taking a break is probaly a good thing to do.
I drove back home after missing her "back one day only", she ended up working the next 2 days. Talk about frustrating.
Like the original commenter posted in this thread, this scheduling stuff is one of those things that definitely make me lose interest, especially as a visitor.
It's probably less of a problem for locals. What a dream it would be to live locally! Just get a call for a returning provider and be able to see them in 10 minutes.
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