Loss of interest

[Thor Jr]

It's not so much the idea of losing interest, its just that at times, circumstances change. If i am dating or in any kind of relationship then i tend to shy away from both the hobby and merb. I don't want anything but my own stupidity or lack of interest in the woman i am with to be the cause for our time together to come to an end. I am not ashamed of my hobbying, but then again, i will not flaunt in the woman's face. I don't want any kind of social media to be the cause of our breakup. This is why i stay away from Facebook and i will not date a woman who spends her time glued to facebook . I actually hate facebook. Couldn't even tell you the last time i was on the site, many years ago.

 

[wtvmark]

you see many male porn stars who seem to burn out and lose interest.i think for us men its the same in the beginning a small breeze and you get a hard on which breaks you in half and then past 65
you seem to get disgusted with your regulars new stuff is required for that jolt but many times they are a disappointment (i am sure sure its a 2 way street)
i am not a doctor so i don't need to see woman my age with their cloaths off and im sure
unless a provider has poor eye sight men 2x + their age they require a tube of kj to get wet.

I'm only in my mid 30s honestly. Im just bored of it. Maybe i'm hideous to look at and that why its dull

 

[hello123]

Everything must come to pass. Video games, anime, watching porn, and etc. Enjoying the same thing your whole life is unusual. It becomes routine, a time pass like the endless scrolling of your phone.

In some cultures, beings that do the same thing again and again are referred to as demons. They are devoid of any humanity, and remain unchanged their whole life. They are like the NPCs of the dark side. In our New World, this kind of behavior is heavily rewarded.

The loss of interest is your humanity kicking into top gear. It wants change. Time to imagine a life beyond pussy. This is very hard to do, since it was the pursuit of sharing an orgasm with a woman that got us this far in life.

In the sub-continent, some men would leave their families and abdicate their worldly possessions and responsibilities in search for the truth. Some would become beggars, live on handouts, and sleep on the streets. Some would find a guru. Some would open an orphanage. While others would drown themselves in alcohol in a brothel somewhere. While seemingly unrelated, they all did it for the exact same reason. To find the meaning of life. It was a matter of gaining perspective. They were not interested in validation or affirmation, but liberation and transformation.

In today’s world religion, this is blasphemy. Doing something that does not add to the GDP is a big no, no. You must pledge allegiance to nationalism, work for capitalism, and own nothing for communism. And, even if you had the wife, kids, and dogs, there's a good chance you would have felt the exact same way. And frankly that’s a scarier thought. What if your wife and children thought of you the way providers do? Times are different. The world where even a dumbass could get married and have five kids is gone, thanks to usury.

We’re all in uncharted territories at this point. Things are reaching Biblical proportions. You can reminisce about the good ol’ days, FOMO about what could have been, or march ahead with your wad out with no attachment to the outcome. Come what may. Because, what if, just maybe, there is something better out there?

 

[envelopes]

I used to be a semi active person in this... hobby? But lately I've lost almost complete interest in it. Maybe it's the last minute cancelations by providers with no

I am on a break for now. Might be permanent. Given the cancellations i lost my taste for it and am doing other things.

I am still taking a break from the hobby due to some SP drama last month, but a booker messaged me about a retired SP (old favorite) who was coming back for a day.

Coincidentally, I was in Burlington for
work, so it was an easy drive. didn't want to miss the chance to see her. Drove up 1.5 hours

Got to the incall and right then I get a text from the booker that he mixed up her schedule and she was actually leaving.

I told him I just drove almost 2 fucking hours. I was pretty angry.

Should have just stayed on my hobby break

At least I got some poutine

 

[Thor Jr]

I told him I just drove almost 2 fucking hours. I was pretty angry.

Maybe a discount is in order for next time. I hope it was offered.

 

[AirBo]

Should have just stayed on my hobby break

I hope you still are on a break. Or did you order poutine and then another SP?

 

[Lexus3]

I am still taking a break from the hobby due to some SP drama last month, but a booker messaged me about a retired SP (old favorite) who was coming back for a day.

Coincidentally, I was in Burlington for
work, so it was an easy drive. didn't want to miss the chance to see her. Drove up 1.5 hours

Got to the incall and right then I get a text from the booker that he mixed up her schedule and she was actually leaving.

I told him I just drove almost 2 fucking hours. I was pretty angry.

Should have just stayed on my hobby break

At least I got some poutine

What agency Envelopes?

 

[Skym]

The interest is not there for me also.

 

[Jordd]

I am still taking a break from the hobby due to some SP drama last month, but a booker messaged me about a retired SP (old favorite) who was coming back for a day.

Coincidentally, I was in Burlington for
work, so it was an easy drive. didn't want to miss the chance to see her. Drove up 1.5 hours

Got to the incall and right then I get a text from the booker that he mixed up her schedule and she was actually leaving.

I told him I just drove almost 2 fucking hours. I was pretty angry.

Should have just stayed on my hobby break

At least I got some poutine

Blessing in disguise my friend…

 

[bobbyc]

The interest is not there for me also.

don't worry skym we all loose interest when our favorite leaves the business your just having the kendall blues, give it time you will find another favorite at one point i still miss my all time favorite even after 21/2 years its funny how we can have crazy chemistry with someone that's the hardest part to replace

 

[OHenry]

Everything must come to pass. Video games, anime, watching porn, and etc. Enjoying the same thing your whole life is unusual. It becomes routine, a time pass like the endless scrolling of your phone.

In some cultures, beings that do the same thing again and again are referred to as demons. They are devoid of any humanity, and remain unchanged their whole life. They are like the NPCs of the dark side. In our New World, this kind of behavior is heavily rewarded.

The loss of interest is your humanity kicking into top gear. It wants change. Time to imagine a life beyond pussy. This is very hard to do, since it was the pursuit of sharing an orgasm with a woman that got us this far in life.

In the sub-continent, some men would leave their families and abdicate their worldly possessions and responsibilities in search for the truth. Some would become beggars, live on handouts, and sleep on the streets. Some would find a guru. Some would open an orphanage. While others would drown themselves in alcohol in a brothel somewhere. While seemingly unrelated, they all did it for the exact same reason. To find the meaning of life. It was a matter of gaining perspective. They were not interested in validation or affirmation, but liberation and transformation.

In today’s world religion, this is blasphemy. Doing something that does not add to the GDP is a big no, no. You must pledge allegiance to nationalism, work for capitalism, and own nothing for communism. And, even if you had the wife, kids, and dogs, there's a good chance you would have felt the exact same way. And frankly that’s a scarier thought. What if your wife and children thought of you the way providers do? Times are different. The world where even a dumbass could get married and have five kids is gone, thanks to usury.

We’re all in uncharted territories at this point. Things are reaching Biblical proportions. You can reminisce about the good ol’ days, FOMO about what could have been, or march ahead with your wad out with no attachment to the outcome. Come what may. Because, what if, just maybe, there is something better out there?

The initial euphoria high of my first encounters have given way to an empty feeling, no matter how hot the lady. I wonder if there is a way to rekindle or find any magic in this “hobby”?

 

[2fast2slow]

The initial euphoria high of my first encounters have given way to an empty feeling, no matter how hot the lady. I wonder if there is a way to rekindle or find any magic in this “hobby”?

do you mean 'euphoric high' or 'Euphoria high' lol

I don't know how old you are or how long you have been doing this, but all I can say is i have had that feeling quite a few times over the years and I always bounced back

this hobby is very much like a drug. It gets harder to trigger the dopamine response...especially if you start out with great experiences with beautiful women. Taking a break or reducing frequency should bring the joy back. And keeping expectations in check.

 

[Jaxan]

Anything overdone, even if it's having sex with beautiful women, can become redundant or less exciting over time. Finding a deeper connection, with 1 particular SP you enjoy spending time and conversing with, may help. Sex is great, but sex someone you have a connection with is even better.

 

[OHenry]

do you mean 'euphoric high' or 'Euphoria high' lol

I don't know how old you are or how long you have been doing this, but all I can say is i have had that feeling quite a few times over the years and I always bounced back

this hobby is very much like a drug. It gets harder to trigger the dopamine response...especially if you start out with great experiences with beautiful women. Taking a break or reducing frequency should bring the joy back. And keeping expectations in check.

Early 50s but look like mid 40s. I had an initial encounter where I fell for the SP but she put me in my place when she giggled at my infatuation while counting the cash. Kind of downhill from there. But still searching for that special encounter where you can “ fall in love -ish”…

 

[OHenry]

Anything overdone, even if it's having sex with beautiful women, can become redundant or less exciting over time. Finding a deeper connection, with 1 particular SP you enjoy spending time and conversing with, may help. Sex is great, but sex someone you have a connection with is even better.

Perfectly put , that’s EXACTLY what I’m searching for, a deeper connection. I don’t know if that’s possible…

 

[Sylar]

I don't know how old you are or how long you have been doing this, but all I can say is i have had that feeling quite a few times over the years and I always bounced back

It's very similar for me. I often go on long hobbying breaks and even when actively pursuing the hobby, I nowadays always look for something special that I havent tried before.

 

[Gazoo64]

Anything overdone, even if it's having sex with beautiful women, can become redundant or less exciting over time. Finding a deeper connection, with 1 particular SP you enjoy spending time and conversing with, may help. Sex is great, but sex someone you have a connection with is even better.

Very well said!! That’s where I’m at now. I see my ATF somewhat regularly, and I feel that we have good chemistry and a good connection. It’s nice when it feels more natural, not just the sex, but the convo, cuddling and so on.

I’ve had awesome sex with beautiful young women in the past. But like you said, it wears out after a while. Sometimes the next appointment is not as good, or they’re not available and I book someone else, and it’s not as good, etc.

IMO, there’s nothing better than seeing someone that I have a good connection with. Of course, I know where the lines and drawn, and it won’t last forever, but I’ll enjoy it while it lasts!

 

[2fast2slow]

Perfectly put , that’s EXACTLY what I’m searching for, a deeper connection. I don’t know if that’s possible…

if the sp is in her 40s possible
if she is in 30s unlikely
if she is in her 20s impossible

 

[OHenry]

if the sp is in her 40s possible
if she is in 30s unlikely
if she is in her 20s impossible

I hope not…

 

[hello123]

The initial euphoria high of my first encounters have given way to an empty feeling, no matter how hot the lady. I wonder if there is a way to rekindle or find any magic in this “hobby”?

Since the dawn of time, Men who got infinite amounts of pussy, have all come to the exact same conclusion -- everything must come to pass. Men who say otherwise never got much pussy. It's the haves vs. have nots. The abundant mindset vs. poverty mentality.

Ever since I was a child, I found cigarette smoking by the Marlboro Man to be the manliest shit known to man. I started smoking 2016 with 1 cigarette a day, then come summer 2022 and I was smoking a pack a day. I loved every second of it. My childhood dream has come true. I am on par with the Marlboro Man, smoking a pack a day, and feeling manlier than ever. And then something happened. I realized I was chained to a sequence of movements that repeated itself 25 times a day. Unfortunately, no 1 habit can sustain itself. Drinking tea/coffee and going to pee joined the fuck fest. This resulted in me taking 70 breaks from my day. I was under a spell. This is true enslavement.

I did not want to be a slave. So, I decided to go cold turkey.

That was 5 months ago. Despite all the benefits of not smoking like better breathing, libido, taste, smell, sleep, digestion, bowl movement, resting heart rate, and overall impulse control, the most important thing is I don't miss it. I'm no longer dependent on it to get through my day. Yes, my life dramatically changed also. It's impossible for it not to.

My life changed not because I stopped smoking, but because I got my time back. And frankly, it's hard to know what to do with so much time, which is why you wanna pick up that cigarette again. Intermittent fasting taught me to control my mouth and stomach, and Hobbying taught me to control my dick and heart. Without their help, I could have never stopped smoking.

All this to say @OHenry, why the fuck would you ever want to rekindle the magic in "hobby"?! It's like wanting your ex back or reminiscing about the Providers you banged. This lifestyle has shown me unimaginable depths of humanity and what I thought to be reality. But, time to move the fuck on. Why? Because you can do it so much better! Just as you seized the opportunity to fulfill your desires, I'm sure you can find new desires to explore that goes beyond the flesh.

There is no prescription for this. I'm not saying I'll never smoke again. In fact I most definitely will. But, at least now, for the first time in a long time, I have the luxury of pondering about my next move.

It's okay to not know. It's okay to not want.

Let the world come to you!