Ask us anything part 3

[DouMan]

Ii guess I worry if it bothers her and she doesn't want to see me again

Come on bro, you seem to be a nice guy but the story is shifting slightly.

In the beginning your concern seemed to be how she may be upset if ever it was her in the video. Now it seems more to be that your worried YOU may lose the lady for whatever reason.

Many collegues have strongly suggested you tell her. If ever it is her it is up to her to decide how to react and steps to take.

Step up to the plate and tell her. Chances are she will thank you for your concern and get on with her day in whatever way she deems fit.

 

[lovethaifood]

Come on bro, you seem to be a nice guy but the story is shifting slightly.

In the beginning your concern seemed to be how she may be upset if ever it was her in the video. Now it seems more to be that your worried YOU may lose the lady for whatever reason.

Many collegues have strongly suggested you tell her. If ever it is her it is up to her to decide how to react and steps to take.

Step up to the plate and tell her. Chances are she will thank you for your concern and get on with her day in whatever way she deems fit.

Look, I am relatively new at this. Haven't seen an SP since May for my birthday and before that since last March when I went to Montreal. Have only seen approximately 20 providers in like past 3 years and I am very picky and choosey when I decide to see someone. I do.a ton of research. Have only ever repeated with one provider and it was not as good the second time around. I blame myself for not being in better shape. I also generally tend to air on the side of being responsible for my own good time. One time I saw a SP whose pictures were way off but, had one of the best times and she wanted to put me in BBFS but, I said no. When people complain about passion, acts, restrictions, DFK or what not, my attitude is I am hooking up with a really hot girl and yes I am paying for it but, also a benefit is it is drama free compared to being in a relationship. I have had girlfriends that were more passive like a starfish in bed than my worst SP experience and more expensive date than an SP. I am leaning towards telling her and to be honest this is not the first time I have seen a video online of a provider just the first time I have seen a video of a provider I think I may know. That is the thing I am not certain. If I were 100 percent sure, I would have told her immediately. I came across a video of fairly popular agency girl that I had wanted to see and I know 100 percent it is her and it honestly made me not want to book with her anymore. She may or may not even know it is out there but, she knew she was being filmed.

One thing I will say is that the three women in Montreal I saw were all incredible and the last one even jumpstarted my dead car battery on my last day there after our appointment. That is service..

 

[Julia Sky]

But... What's the worst that could happen if it's not her? She will say "thanks for the heads up but that is not me!".

I just dont understand what you think the issue would be. I can't think of a scenario where an escort would be mad you tried to have her back in a situation like this!

 

[lovethaifood]

But... What's the worst that could happen if it's not her? She will say "thanks for the heads up but that is not me!".

I just dont understand what you think the issue would be. I can't think of a scenario where an escort would be mad you tried to have her back in a situation like this!

Ok I just figured out how to screenshot. Pretty simple. Shift-Command-3. Going to write an email and hopefully, it does not matter. This guy is definitely a jerk though. He is in other videos in other rooms as well and seems to do car videos with a camera under his steering wheel. No way any of these women know they are on camera.

 

[Wearethenight]

But... What's the worst that could happen if it's not her? She will say "thanks for the heads up but that is not me!".

I just dont understand what you think the issue would be. I can't think of a scenario where an escort would be mad you tried to have her back in a situation like this!

Also, as Julia mentioned even if it's not her, it will be appreciated if you tell her and she will be thankful. Plus this can prevent this freak from doing it to someone else without their consent. Trust me If someone video taped me without my consent, I will raise hell and take every course available legally.

 

[lovethaifood]

Also, as Julia mentioned even if it's not her, it will be appreciated if you tell her and she will be thankful. Plus this can prevent this freak from doing it to someone else without their consent. Trust me If someone video taped me without my consent, I will raise hell and take every course available legally.

Ok, all done with it. Not going to think about it anymore. I am glad I sent the email.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I guess there is a hidden camera genre of porn but I know for sure that in certain spas there are cameras in the rooms.. Who knows what happens with what's being recorded. I also think some people are very tech savvy and could hide a camera anywhere, specially if it's an outcall situation. Filming somebody without their consent and distributing it is an assault in my opinion.. I think the SP will be grateful to find out if this was put out there without her consent. It's very jarring to see images of yourself in lingerie being stolen by websites so I can't imagine finding out that this type of content being out there

 

[LC18]

I certainly hope whoever that SP was, that you didn’t send her a lengthy email that’s as confusing as your last few posts otherwise poor girl she’s going to be more confused than anything.

 

[MCTJ]

I think it's a good idea to let her know. Some clients film providers without their consent

I agree 100%

there was a man arrested specifically for that earlier this summer (link available upon request). Shortly after, Luxury Agency added a warning to their ads. 1+1...

 

[Lunaseraphim]

- He is bad with faces and saw this SP once
- The lighting and image quality of the video is bad
- The woman in the video never looks into the camera
- The voice may or may not be similar
- The body is very similar

So to summarize he saw a video of a woman having sex with the same body type as an SP he once saw. Unless that SP was the girl from Total Recall, I think the chances are pretty slim that it is the same woman. But I guess no real harm in pointing it out to her.

as long as it's being pointed out in an empathic and caring way.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

My question to gentlemen : how long does it take you to decide to book a specific provider? I know that for example, when looking on leolist, clients are looking for something quick and easy.. But I've noticed that many clients take their time to book an indy. What determines your decision? What are some things that convince you, and what are some deal breakers for you?

 

[AirBo]

If the SP offers specialized services / kinks that I am interested in, the decision making might take longer

Total opposite for me. I'll book in a heartbeat

 

[LC18]

Total opposite for me. I'll book in a heartbeat

If she offers anal consider her already booked by airbo

 

[AirBo]

And this my friends is the difference between a savant and a savage.

I'm not a savage

I'm a scholar

 

[AirBo]

If she offers anal consider her already booked by airbo

My behaviour is consistent. No surprises with me

 

[Lunaseraphim]

It depends on a lot of things:

Firstly, price point: Some will fall into the spontaneous booking range, while others need to be more thought out.

The below considerations applies to both above mentioned categories, more so however to the latter and sometimes not at all to the former:

- Reviews
- Conduct on MERB / social media if applicable
- First contact / interaction in writing

If the SP offers specialized services / kinks that I am interested in, the decision making might take longer as those need to be discussed in detail to avoid disappointment or uncomfortable situations for either party involved-

My question for you is, what makes someone's reviews acceptable? A lot of providers don't have reviews, and it's considered inappropriate to ask a client to review you.. Also, what is a turn off or turn on about someone's conduct on social media?

 

[jjohnston422]

My question to gentlemen : how long does it take you to decide to book a specific provider? I know that for example, when looking on leolist, clients are looking for something quick and easy.. But I've noticed that many clients take their time to book an indy. What determines your decision? What are some things that convince you, and what are some deal breakers for you?

I won't book on impulse. Just like everything else in my life, I do my homework, look at websites. Price is a factor of course but I would rather pay more and have a good feeling about a SP than rush things. I don't have a set "type" of woman I am attracted to so it is a combination of looks and personality. Not every SP is successful at showing personality on their website so that really sets things apart. After that, it is about interactions with the SP when setting things up.

Reviews really don't play a roll in it for me. I will look them up but it is more about confirming the SP is legit.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

I won't book on impulse. Just like everything else in my life, I do my homework, look at websites. Price is a factor of course but I would rather pay more and have a good feeling about a SP than rush things. I don't have a set "type" of woman I am attracted to so it is a combination of looks and personality. Not every SP is successful at showing personality on their website so that really sets things apart. After that, it is about interactions with the SP when setting things up.

Reviews really don't play a roll in it for me. I will look them up but it is more about confirming the SP is legit.

That's all perfectly reasonable and how I would go about booking a SP! Except I have a lot of colleagues that I know are real and legit and don't have reviews

 

[DouMan]

That's all perfectly reasonable and how I would go about booking a SP! Except I have a lot of colleagues that I know are real and legit and don't have reviews

In the case of no reviews as you mention the provider relies on communication skills.

You have already interested your potential client with your ad and photos being conscious that what you project is what you will attract.

You wording in your written communications will be important, again being conscious about what you project.

The last "skill" would be your voice. To seal a rendez-vous I would insist on a vocal communication. Then the tone of voice, words, background, calmness would be of importance.

 

[Lunaseraphim]

In the case of no reviews as you mention the provider relies on communication skills.

You have already interested your potential client with your ad and photos being conscious that what you project is what you will attract.

You wording in your written communications will be important, again being conscious about what you project.

The last "skill" would be your voice. To seal a rendez-vous I would insist on a vocal communication. Then the tone of voice, words, background, calmness would be of importance.

Ah, I see. It's rare that people request talking on the phone with me and I usually don't accept for obvious reasons, but I also get your point